We used to laugh when he heard people from America being in therapy. But I realized that, that was because we didn't want to face our own problems and issues and we wanted to sweep them under the carpet and hope that they went away. I know some of you reading this will know this feeling and will probably shut this blog down because it's all too close to home. But that's ok because you will deal with it when you are ready.

I have now embraced the communication and needing a third party sometimes to help you see the problems. I have been in therapy and it was great... My friend said to me once, isn't therapy fabulous, a whole hour talking about yourself! I had to laugh but she's right!

But communication comes in many ways, it comes through modern technology mostly such as text messages, emails, online blogs, facebook, Twitter etc etc. We are getting good at communicating and networking but what has happened to good old fashioned face to face conversations or picking up the phone to chat.

I know many of my friends will laugh here as they know I hardly ever pick up the phone but that's just the crazy life I have. The reason why I say this is because I was chatting with a close friend of mine over instant messenger and something was taken out of context and both of us got upset over nothing... If we'd have picked up the phone, which we did in the end, it wouldn't have gotten to that stage. When I look back it's funny because we stopped communicating and then one of us gave in and called the other.

It's important to communicate when you are not communicating!

Things that are said via text, instant chat, email can all be taken wrong and sometimes you just have to talk.

However there are times I love to write as you know and I have written many many letters full of emotion and laughter in my time and I love that. So providing you know when it's appropriate to use technology then go for it but remember that you have to sometimes hear their voice to really know what they are trying to say.

Communication is key and it's a crutial part of our growth and healing from many things in life. So don't feel embarrased just know that we all have to do it and that you will gain respect when you voice your feelings from another person and you are ensuring that you are heard. It's empowering and will help you on your journey through life.

Much love and have a great weekend!!!

Lisa xx

The one thing you can guarantee about some of these blogs is that it pushes buttons within you and makes you think... and that is what I love about it. 

So I was thinking about how we conform to society because of what we have been bought up to believe or we have been told to act in a certain way by those who have influenced us. But as we get older it's important to be open to follow our own thoughts and feelings and create these opinions our self. Because it's part of our identity. 

We can of course become wrapped up in the emotion of life and that is great and still be influenced but we still need to be us... and with that we still need to follow our dreams, and our desires. This is so important for feeling fulfilled. I see so many people who have put their life on hold because of a situation or they don't follow their dream because a partner in their life doesn't approve. Now of course I understand that there are times its hard to stay true to yourself. However there are ways of keeping that dream alive within you. For instance, if you are an artist and you always dreamed of becoming an artist and having your work in a gallery, do not give up on your gift, don't keep it hidden, it's part of you. Even if you just doodle on a piece of paper or get a book where you can find quiet time to draw... you are still keeping that passion alive. 

We all have dreams and aspirations. I love singing. I'm not going to be a singer out there in the world, but there is no harm for me to sit at the piano and play and sing until my heart is content... it's keeping the passion within you. 

What you have to understand is that when someone falls in love with us, they fall in love with who we are, and everything about us, but the thing is we change and sometimes we lose our identity... but what you have to realize is that we have to stay ourselves and stay the person that they fell in love with. Yes we all change but the underlying factor is we are who we are on a soul level... and that is what we have to stay true too, Ourselves on a soul level! So follow your dreams, keep them alive, they are the passion that drives us, and most of all believe in yourself!

Big hugs and love

Lisa xx

Sometimes I can be the most impatient person ever and I want it yesterday but then there are times that I know things are worth waiting for, and you know this lesson has started to pay off. It's not easy to sit and wait and watch things happen but there is a reason. 

I know for me I had to write a book, reconnect with old friends and change my life before I could bring something else into my life, it was a plan that I decided on upon in life. But it wasn't easy to sit and wait for it to happen. I watch many conversations go forward and backwards and changes happening and then goal posts moving. But it was good because I started to see the workings of things and the dynamics. Which was important for me. I needed to see that. 

So when things are dragging out, just remember that there is a reason for it and you have to know it's happening at the pace it's supposed to happen… sometimes at a snails pace! Wait, your time is coming. 

Much love and hugs

Lisa xx

What has been interesting is that over the last few months, my circle of friends have changed quite dramatically, and I have embraced new friends, I have rekindled old friendships, and strengthened existing ones, but also along the way sadly I have had to let go of some people in my life and that always happens when you make changes. 

I have walked through the day with one thought with me, and that is, "I am in the right place at the right time at this very moment' and its' true. There are no coincidences in life. Everyone I encountered today has been put in my pathway for a purpose. I went to the spa store today and I started to chatting with 2 women and we started to share stories and one of them, you could tell by just the way that she was talking, was blaming herself and being hard on herself, it wasn't easy for her, but by simply showing her how to change the words that she used and to not blame herself for her friend deciding not to be in her life, because she quit smoking, wasn't actually a rejection upon her behalf, she wasn't being rejected, it was her friend seeing the fact that they had both promised to quit and she was the one still smoking and actually every time she saw her friend it would highlight something she needed to do and so therefore, the only way she didn't have to deal with that issue was to in fact not be around that person. 

So just by encountering that person and sharing that insight made her see things differently. But for me she started to thank me, but it wasn't about the fact I needed praise, I was shocked by my own words and inspiration and I saw something in that lady that I needed to see, I needed to see that I also went out of my way to please people, and it highlighted something for me. It was a lesson. 

So we encounter people through all walks of life who are going to help us on our pathway and for that I am extremely grateful. 

I also met with a soul, and I can't call him a man, because a man is too shallow a label for him. I met with this pure soul who gave me a treatment today, who was so spiritually enlightened and evolved it was unbelievable. He was going to close down the 2 hours that he had open but decided not to yesterday for some reason, this morning I booked my treatment and so it was meant to be... and it was SO meant to be, we connected as souls. He looked into my eyes, but didn't look, he LOOKED... we looked into each others soul and it was powerful and moving and raw. There was nothing hidden, nothing masked... everything between us was unveiled and WOW... We were supposed to connect. Now many people would read this and think instantly there was a chemistry, and yes there was, but not in a sexual way, but a soul connection that you cannot describe. He read me like a book and I him. All the while, hummingbirds were coming to the window constantly. 

I released so much in that treatment and he and I prayed together in his language and it was amazing... I know that the treatment is called something else, but I have to call it the Apache Water Ceremony, because that is what it felt like... a releasing of the soul, a freedom from beyond and freeing of who I am... 

So it's been an enlightening day and powerful on at that, the book feels so far away and now it's time to focus on other things and plans and knowing that I will encounter things at the right time. We all will!

Much love to you all!!!

xxx

It's funny as for a while I used it as a crutch, a focus for when I needed something to believe in or lean on. When things weren't going in the way that I wanted or when I needed to escape into something. But it was released yesterday with a sign from Merv. 

I was walking Max and Lucy in the morning and Max decided to stop to 'do his business' and there in front of me was a hummingbird, fluttering it's beautiful wings, and staring at me. I wasn't planning on sending the manuscript out that day but It was the sign I needed... and then suddenly... I finished everything and off it went. 

More signs to show that I was on the right track when I kept seeing 11.11 both yesterday and today and then a deer, and more signs... it's just incredible. For me it's like I am getting signs that the universe is opening up and allowing me to make my way forward. 

I love change and when I find that a door closes there is always a new one that opens. But for me its about intention and wanting to move forward in life. My friend said to me last night, you say something and then it happens. And it's true. It's not because I'm psychic, it's because I put it out into the universe with a good intention and then because the intention is there to help others, or its for my own higher self purpose it happens... and that is what I find, and then these little things that happen to make me realize that I am on the right track and that doors are opening. 

Sometimes we force things to happen but that is when they don't work because it's not supposed to happen, yes it will give us some satisfaction but when it flows it's so much better because it's something that is supposed to happen and it's in our destiny. When we force things to happen it's our ego taking over. 

So know that there are signs that will be shown to you that you are on the right track and believe in the things that come your way!

Much love

Lisa xx

It's been a learning curve for me. and a huge one at that. Honestly although there is a book out there with my name on the cover, I had a 'ghost' writer (pardon the pun) and Pablo was amazing but this book is something that I personally have written. 

I never thought I could or would be able to write anything like this and I have thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it. Seriously, I was so nervous about writing it, I thought I was going to need a ghost writer, but the more I started to write the more it started to flow and I actually called Jonesy up on Friday as I was editing and asked her if they were really my words because I was blown away with the information that I had given across. 

What this goes to show is that I have achieved something that I never thought I would. Having been put down for my grammer and punctuation and other things at school, and not being able to write an essay, I didn't think I could do this, but here I am elated that I have and I am about to edit the book for the second time and I am overwhelmed with it. 

What is goes to show is that you CAN do anything you put your mind to, it is there as a learning curve and you can do anything you want, it's just our own thoughts that stop us from moving on and taking the step further. 

so learn from this, because I seriously didn't think I could do it. It hasn't been easy but I have learnt so much but know that you can make changes and do anything that you put your mind to and you will surprise yourself, even though there are probably so many others who have faith in you. 

I am looking forward to Wednesday when I can regain my life and normal service will be resumed!

Thank you so much for supporting me and I love you all for that. 

Much love

Lisa xx

Sometimes the time just carries you away and you look up and wonder where the day has gone and thats how it is at the moment for me, and I know I am not alone and we all do that. I have some days where I think... What happened to the day? And really I haven't achieved much. 

It's been one of those weeks really, time flying around. haha... but what has been nice is that I have not been attached to my computer and I have spent time with Charlie and we have laughed and played and read and talked... it's been great and I have to say he is a great kid, I love him so much and he has been such an inspiration over the last few months for me. 

I know I have done this and it's important but when things change in your life your priorities in life change. Now don't get me wrong but charlie has always been a priority but I always worked and worked and worked and in a way, I didn't spend the time with Charlie which is what I would have liked to have done, because I used my work as an escape route to the life that I was living. 

I think many people who are in situations where they don't want to be, find that they throw themselves into other areas of their life. I didn't realize I was doing it either but now I do, and once I had dealt with that part of my life things changed... and it was for the best for everyone. 

My work life is busier that it has ever been and there are so many things that are bubbling away under the surface that no on knows about and also I have been writing my book so it's consumed me. So much so my mother had to facebook through the fan site, and Joleen picked it up and told me that my own mother was trying to get hold of me... it was funny and we laughed about it when I finally got hold of her. 

But she understands, she knows how busy I am and how crazy it is... she's lived my life and followed it, so she doesn't put pressure on me, which is lovely. However there are people who don't understand, and no matter how much to tell them that you are busy and that you will get to them when you can they start to moan. 

Sadly you can't please everyone and this is something that has been a hard lesson for me to learn, I am such a people pleaser but it's been a tough road and at one time I did try to please everyone but you can't and you have to step back and focus on what is important and since the change in my life, my home life has be come number one priority where I am ashamed to say, at one point it wasn't, my work was. 

This was something that Janey, my friend always told me.. she never once told me it was wrong, she just said that my work took priority and that is how it has always been, and yes it has, but now I am able to segregate time and carve out chunks of time for friends, home and work and I have found finally I have the right balance!

It's been a long time coming but something that I have to do and I am glad I have done it. 

So I think the message here is that you can't always please everyone, there is always someone around you who will feel let down because of changes in your life or the way that you are leading it, but what you have to remember is that you have to do things that are right for you and your family. You can't carry people, however you can listen and try to understand but they also have to deal with what you are doing through too. 

It's give and take in any form of relationship whether it's friendship, love, work or other, you have to allow people to make mistakes and you have to realize that you have to be true to you and you can't please everyone around you, so never feel guilty about that... but realize it with love. As long as you fill your heart with love for the real reasons and the right reasons you will be able to find what is right for you and act upon it. 

Much love sent to you all

Lisa xx

Whoohoo. 

Well it's been a whirlwind and I want to thank everyone who has supported my writing including you, as I know I have had to take time off from blogging as I found that I would blog and then not be inspired to write as I was in a totally different mind set, and that is something that I couldn't really afford to do. So it was hard... what do I ease back on and since I write better at night, I am sure the creative juices flow better at night, I found that my book had to take the forefront for a while.

Well I had dinner with some friends tonight and this was a big step for me, as they are friends I would normally go out with as a couple, they are the most beautiful couple you could ever imagine and they certainly are soul mates. I actually had them and a few other people in mind when I wrote my chapter on soul mates for my book. 

So I went out and I was apprehensive about going out alone but also liberated and inspired and highly excited too to know that I felt secure in myself enough to not worry about going out alone. Of course it would have been nice to have a date with me but this was a step that I had to take and it was great. 

I realized that these people come in to my life at a time about 2 years ago to be people who would help us, but I didn't understand until tonight just how important they are now and how important they both will become in my life. They have always been there for me and Charlie but I also feel I can be there for them now too, in a very different way. 

I also have realized over the last few weeks that I may be 36 years old with a very silly and childish manner when I want and I like to have fun, but I prefer the company of older people and that I am on their same wavelength. Now that is not to say that I don't get on with younger people because I do, and my very good friend is a lot younger than me, but what I have discovered is that our soul of who we are is ageless, it's our body and it's how we act. 

Of course our lessons in life mould us to act in a certain way, and some people are more mature than others, but I feel that you attract those people who you want, desire, love and need in your life for various reasons. 

So I want to say thank you to all of you who have supported my book and also to those of my friends who are there for me through thick and thin. 

I love you all!

Much love

Lisa xx

It's been a whirlwind and I must say I have thoroughly enjoyed EVERY minute of it, including writing my book. I am 3 chapters away from finishing and I have been pounding the keys for days, and my fingers have ached but what a trip it's been, I have opened up so much and discovered about what happens when we die. You know you think you know something and then suddenly it opens up and you see it how it really is. 

WOW.. I can't wait to read the finished product even though I am writing it... is that strange?!?!

There are many times in life that we think that we know everything about a topic or a job and then suddenly someone or something comes in and BAM blows your theory out of the window. Now I do want to make it clear that I have never said I know it all about the afterlife, because I don't but I thought I knew a lot about it,... clearly not... however I DO now!!! haha

Life is about learning and growth and we have to accept that there are so many people that we can learn from, and you know it's normally who you least expect. I often learn from Charlie. Although he is 9 he sees things in a childs way and that is great because he is pure and honest, and tells it how it in. THere is no judgement clouding his opinions either and it's from the heart. I love it, and he often makes me sit back and think... huh... where did that come from. 

So you have to continue to learn and grow because life would also be so boring if you didn't, I know as new experiences come in you grow and you see things differently and it's part of the new changes and pathways that we have to create. But you also have to believe in yourself to know that you can make that change and grow. 

So remember never stop learning and growing and also remember there is always someone out there who knows more than you!

Big loves 

Lisa xx

It was a beautiful night and the full moon was incredible. I lay there looking out into the night from my bus window and I was watching the snow fall softly down from the sky and land on my window, and I looked up to the moon thinking of all of those who I love and miss. Ever since I was a little girl I had this thing about the moon and  the stars and when I miss people I would look up and know that they were looking at the same moon, the same stars and that we were under the same sky. It is so important for me to do this as it makes me feel close to them. I tell Charlie that when ever he misses mommy he just has to look up and know that I am under the same sky. 

It's part of feeling connected to people for me and I love it. 

Well I knew that tonight was going to be a good show, because before I started, I saw signs of my granddad and also Merv in the hotel store that I visited before I went to the venue, so having seen these signs I knew it was going to be good. And it was. 

I always ask for signs that I am on the right track or that I am doing things right or that my loved ones are around, and in fact I did just that at this very moment as I was thinking about a friend of mine and if they were ok and on came a song that related to them, to let me know that they are ok. It is all that I need. 

So tonights show was great but I have to mention one reading especially. It was a guy where he was sitting at the top of the theater and to be honest, he didn't want to be there. He was a complete skeptic. And as you all know skeptics don't bother me at all, I don't see them as a challenge I see them people who if they want to open up to this spirit world then great but if they don't I am not about to go out of my way to change their mind. 

We started with him on his brother in law and the reading fitted but he didn't want to accept it, and so I left it and moved on. I knew I was going to come back to him at some point because if the spirits want to get a message through they will, and they will not stop at anything until they have the message through very clear. 

So I moved on to someone else and then I started back to a murder situation with a guy called Matthew, the energy was coming through dead center and that is where he was, but up the top and the same guy stood up and he said, I have to say I am only here because of my wife and I do not believe. 

Well challenge!!! His buddy who had been murdered thought it was fully and he gave me PMSL as that is what he was doing he was laughing so hard on the floor… I started and I actually stopped him from telling me any info, and he stood there dumbfounded and his woof joined him and the expression on his face was classic, it was as if he was questioning where I got that info from. Every one was behind him in supporting him. Everything I said, he said yes to, this was no trying to work out the signs, this was a bang bang bang reading and then I stood and said, so you believe now… and he just nodded!!! It was funny. 

Now there is always one reading that will change someones mind from being a skeptic to a believer, and that is one of those  moments and it was one of those 'Lifetime' moments where you wish you had a camera crew with you. 

So now we are on the way to St Louis, which is great and we have 2 more show and then I return back to the west coast to be with my boy and the other special people in my life! 

Right have a good weekend and remember you don't always have to change people to your way of thinking just be open and they will soon see the light!

Love and hugs

Lisa xx