Over the last few days it's been crazy, editing the book and feeling really rough so I have taken some time out and rested which has been a good thing. It was interesting how a friend of mine just emailed me today and said, hey... just have a feeling something was up... and it was, I had to leave the office, and head back home. Amazing how connected you are to some people even though you are thousands of miles away. So that was a lovely thing to get. 

Sometimes the time just carries you away and you look up and wonder where the day has gone and thats how it is at the moment for me, and I know I am not alone and we all do that. I have some days where I think... What happened to the day? And really I haven't achieved much. 

It's been one of those weeks really, time flying around. haha... but what has been nice is that I have not been attached to my computer and I have spent time with Charlie and we have laughed and played and read and talked... it's been great and I have to say he is a great kid, I love him so much and he has been such an inspiration over the last few months for me. 

I know I have done this and it's important but when things change in your life your priorities in life change. Now don't get me wrong but charlie has always been a priority but I always worked and worked and worked and in a way, I didn't spend the time with Charlie which is what I would have liked to have done, because I used my work as an escape route to the life that I was living. 

I think many people who are in situations where they don't want to be, find that they throw themselves into other areas of their life. I didn't realize I was doing it either but now I do, and once I had dealt with that part of my life things changed... and it was for the best for everyone. 

My work life is busier that it has ever been and there are so many things that are bubbling away under the surface that no on knows about and also I have been writing my book so it's consumed me. So much so my mother had to facebook through the fan site, and Joleen picked it up and told me that my own mother was trying to get hold of me... it was funny and we laughed about it when I finally got hold of her. 

But she understands, she knows how busy I am and how crazy it is... she's lived my life and followed it, so she doesn't put pressure on me, which is lovely. However there are people who don't understand, and no matter how much to tell them that you are busy and that you will get to them when you can they start to moan. 

Sadly you can't please everyone and this is something that has been a hard lesson for me to learn, I am such a people pleaser but it's been a tough road and at one time I did try to please everyone but you can't and you have to step back and focus on what is important and since the change in my life, my home life has be come number one priority where I am ashamed to say, at one point it wasn't, my work was. 

This was something that Janey, my friend always told me.. she never once told me it was wrong, she just said that my work took priority and that is how it has always been, and yes it has, but now I am able to segregate time and carve out chunks of time for friends, home and work and I have found finally I have the right balance!

It's been a long time coming but something that I have to do and I am glad I have done it. 

So I think the message here is that you can't always please everyone, there is always someone around you who will feel let down because of changes in your life or the way that you are leading it, but what you have to remember is that you have to do things that are right for you and your family. You can't carry people, however you can listen and try to understand but they also have to deal with what you are doing through too. 

It's give and take in any form of relationship whether it's friendship, love, work or other, you have to allow people to make mistakes and you have to realize that you have to be true to you and you can't please everyone around you, so never feel guilty about that... but realize it with love. As long as you fill your heart with love for the real reasons and the right reasons you will be able to find what is right for you and act upon it. 

Much love sent to you all

Lisa xx