Be brave and make a change!
Tuesday, December 8, 2009 at 11:47PM Finally I feel like I am back in the groove… and I love it. Busy busy busy… and planning for the year ahead.
Planning for me is an essential part of life, juggling work and family, making sure everyone has what they need and ensuring that people are happy. However, what I have realized over the years, no matter how much you want someone to be happy you can't force them, they have to find happiness on their own. We can all give people moments of happiness, but ultimately they have to find that within themselves and that is not an easy task.
Moments are great and they make you laugh and have fun… these are the moments that we all love to share with people and we remember them. Its so important… I have many moment that I remember that make me smile very time I think of them, friends I have shared times with, silly things that Charlie and I get up to, and the songs that we make up, the moments that make your heart melt when you think of them. And there are many for me. These moments make me of course happy and are part of the bigger picture.
But true happiness is within. It's what makes you happy and what makes your soul dance. It's the feeling of being complete… whether you are with a friend, a lover or doing something that your passionate about, its that feeling. And we are in control of our happiness, whether you want to believe it or not, we are. We are responsible for making our life the way it is, and moulding it to the way that we want it. Of course its not easy… Oh no, and I for one know that. But you take steps to make things happen.
The steps are the building blocks, the foundation to creating a content and complete life for yourself. Once you have done this then you have to make decisions to change if you need too.
This change is not easy, but the steps will help you come to terms with the change and then when it finally happens, you can face it. You are ready.
Never be afraid of this, we all have to change, we can't hide from this…. well we can, but we will stay in that rut, never really filling our heart with happiness and joy. To get this you have to make changes, and then face them. However, this is just a moment in time…a small moment in time in compared to the rest of your life that you will create.
Sometimes you just have to be brave… And stand up to change and realize… hey this is my life and I deserve to be happy and be in a place that will make you happy!
I am not sure what inspired me to write this, but I write it from the heart as I do all the time, but I just know that as the end of the year approaches and a new one starts we all start to think about this and focus that way… it's not easy but what you have to realize is that there are so many other people who are probably going through the same as you.
With love and hugs always
Lisa xx
PS…. Don't forget my radio show on Hayhouseradio.com ! Also I have a book signing in Venice CA on Friday.. come along!
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Reader Comments (27)
Hey lisa..You know, i think you wrote this because maybe, just maybe, these are the kinds of situations that are happening to alot of us? I for one, was gobsmacked when i read this, because i have been told by many, that i need to stand my ground and make changes..lol..The funny thing was, i have been comtemplating it for a long long time..Perhaps i need an extra shove to get me moving? Perhaps i just need to give myself that extra shove in the right direction?? But you're right, we are responsible for our own happiness....Keep smiling...love Stace & Hayley XXX
Hi Lisa - Just wanted to say that I enjoy your show and enjoy your personality. My dad died a few days ago. If you hear from him let me know. I miss him very much. Thanks
Hello Lisa and welcome home. You wrote what was indeed needed in the moment. Thoughts that had just been presented to me, now echoed by you. A message to go within and create that which you want, for any other gifting of it is usually only felt temporarily. I love that you in this moment shared your thoughts. You have indeed lived it, and as a result truly inspire us all. From my heart to yours, thank you for posting this tonight of all nights.
Love to you,
Carlos (Sunny)
Hi LIsa,
I live in England but I read your Blog everyday. You help so many people with your wise and sincere observations on life. I was particularly interested in today's Blog because I have noticed that you haven't mentioned Kev for a while. I'm hoping that this change you talk of, doesn't include him - or maybe I missed something. Thank you for your generous spirit. It would be great if we could see more of you on TV here in England. I think I have seen all the episodes of Living with the Dead - several times !!!
Cheers, Jennifer
Hi Lisa,
Great blog and it makes me singing an old song from the early '90's...
''Don't worry be HAPPY!!'' by Bobby McFerrin..
Friendly yours from the East (that starts to snow) Coast,
;0)
Lisa,
You sound rested, full of energy and ready to go!
Take care. Enjoy your time at home with Charlie....
peace...deb t/illinois
Oh Lisa of course you write from the heart, YOU are all heart!
That's a good thing!
"God sends nothing but Angels"
Hi my love, This is a short one as I have to leave for work.
Thanks for the beautiful blog. Yes, happiness has to come from within ourselves. No one can give it to us.
I can see it and hear it in your voice and blogs my dearest of friends.. You are truly an angel from above. My love to you and Charlie.
Love ya always,
Mary
Dear Lisa
This is one of those blogs you write which I have to keep and treasure.
Love
Lana
Hey there Lisa,
There you go again with your powerful energy blog! Wow...so heartfelt and true. Yes, as you said we can share moments that give us joy, happiness, and precious memories, but it is an illusion of happiness when one depends on another for complete fulfillment. We can guide others and help them see their own light, but it really is not our responsibility to make them happy nor is it anyone else's responsibility to make us happy. So, so true!!! Personally, it has taken me a long time to get this and really grasp it on an emotional level rather than an intellectual level. Being someone who others have always depended on does not help. However, you can't be everyone's rock all the time and sometimes you need to make a change and allow people to see that you are human and vulnerable too. when you do make that change, others will be forced to change and stand on their own (sometimes with resentment too)... however, you just can't be attached to the outcome and have to flow with it and as you say be brave. Your blog is 'synchronicity at best' as my life has been all about making changes career and life. It so important to breathe new life into your soul which is exciting and scary all at the same time. But that is what it is all about this game called life. :)
Love~n~Light,
DS
So many changes for us all... especially felt at this time of year because we tend to reflect back on holidays past and then we can't help but see the changes that have happened. We tend to get wistful. But we should put our shoulders down and smile! Because we are here to grown and change and experience things.
We can all change; indeed we have to. But we can also hold each other's hands while we change so we don't feel so scared!
Great Freudian slip! I typed Grown - as in GROAN - instead of Grow. Ha ha!
Thanks for a great blog - you described my situation.. :)
Hello and it's so good to hear from you. How is Sir Charlie doing?
Please let me know. Big hugs to you and him. Gee, you are in CA. Lucky you ;-) Old time saying...."I missed the Train." I can put lol but I don't feel -lol
Changes are hard for sure. Especially if I am the only child left. Catch 22. I see quick changes..after Christmas, & bringing in the New Year would be a dream to be in a different state. Oh...never mind.
I am happy you are home and stay warm and please know that everyone loves you. Hugss to Charlie. ❤
with love,
oooxxx
Lisa, thank you for this blog. This is an amazing blog that will really help a lot of us. Indeed, making a change is not always easy and you are right about people. I have several friends I would love to see change their lives and I don't understand why they don't but I also have to change mine, haven't I ? So believe me, I'm thinking about it really, I am considering the options and my dream is still the same. I really need to go away from the place I work in but unfortunately it will take another year before I can do it. However I am patient and I keep in mind my project to come to the USA to teach and I will do everything I can.
So your blog was really inspiring me. Thank you dear Lisa.
By the way, I'm so sad as I finished your book. It was exciting, I loved it, truly.Bu I have no more to read... It helped me a lot and I was really astonished about it.
Your book is really fantastic Lisa, great!
Much love,
Lise
Thank you:-) Finally discovered hayhouseradio. Love it! Looking forward to listening to your programs.
Good thoughts and Love
Thank you Lisa, so true... It's a journey! Have fun at home!!!
Hi Lisa, you so inspire me. Am thinking of you and Charlie a lot and hope this time spent with him will be just what you two need. You keep me going when life throws us curves and I know you know all about curves as you have been thrown many in your life. I feel good that you are a strong person and full of love.
Love & Hugs, Judi :)
Dearest Lisa,
You are absolutely right and I for one know exactly what you mean. I am very proud of myself in this regard because I have come a long way, and as you say, it is not an easy road, but well worthwhile in the end. There is no quick-fix for depression. You need to want to get better and then you need to take those steps that help you find that happiness within. It is about fighting negative thoughts every day and replacing them with positive thoughts. It is also about loving yourself unconditionally. These are things that need to be reinforced every day and each day you will get closer and closer to finding that happiness within. We need to accept that it requires commitment on a daily basis and will not just fall into our laps. I thank God that I find the strength and wisdom and tools to find my own inner happiness and grow in this regard each new day, one of the tools being you, Lisa, and your wonderful website.
Lisa, I think you chose the perfect topic today, and I think I can understand why you did, and I think you put it beautifully.
God bless to everyone... I hope you have a beautiful day.
Jeanette
Yet another beautiful blog Lisa, thank you. I too, like Jennifer, have been wandering if you and Kevin are okay? I hope you are ok Lisa. Many hugs to you xox
Lisa,
Great blog. You are full of heart and spirit.
Hi lisa!
I dont know were to wright to you but i have only one guestion...the girl Madeleine McCann is missing and i want to know do you see or feel her anywhere? im writing in finland and my english is not so good but i often think that girl who was taken by some stranger..i think is she live or death:/ thank you if you answer this:)
love maria from finland
Dearest Lisa, hi, the other day I was going through a sad time and I saw the photo of you standing upside down on twitter. I wanted to let you know that I burst out laughing because your facial expression was soooooooooo cute!!! :-)
Thanks for being you..........
I miss writing to you, Lisa. I read about all the stuff that you lost recently. Your positive nature teaches me how to handle the pain of losing things that we love.
Just wanted to send you a huge hug. ((((((Hugs))))) :-)
Only you can make changes...so very true...even if just one day at a time...
Love and hugz and hope all is well !!! The summer / Xmas holidays have just begun here for six weeks , so we are all very excited !!!
Sharon xx