Change
Tuesday, December 29, 2009 at 03:12AM Over the last few months many people have asked me about my life and why I am talking about change constantly.... well the truth is, is that my life has changed so much in the last few months. I feel it's the time to come out and tell every one about this.
Back in October, my husband and I, Kev, decided to take our own journeys through life and explore different pathways. Sadly after 5 years of marriage and 7 years of being together we decided to part. The reasons are not for public discussion but what we must realize is that life changes and that we have to accept that change whether we like it or not.
I had to accept this and even though it's been a hard transition for all of us, it's actually been an amazing change, and one where I have met many different people and been to different places and started to understand who I am and what I want and need in my life.
We all need people in our life but those people change depending upon situations and circumstances. We have people in our life that deal with things in different ways and I am thankful that at that time I had Jonesy and some others helping me through it.
Sometimes it's about release, and when I was on the cruise earlier this year, I finally made the decision to let go of my marriage and for all that it was. I honored it, and I appreciated it, and I also appreciated Kev too. I did a whole ceremony while I was there and actually threw my wedding rings off the back of the boat. Well I didn't quite throw them, it was as if there was a magnetic pull from the universe and they were sucked out of my hand and into the ocean. It was an incredible experience and one I will never forget.
But when we leave someone or something we forget the good that that person has done or the good in a situation. However I didn't, I saw that Kev enabled me to reach out to many people and help comfort them, as he stayed home with Charlie. I understood that he helped me in other ways also.
Sometimes it's hard to let go of the past, but we have to, even thought we can't face it. There are so many people who stay in unhappy relationships and also marriages who are scared to get out... I know that feeling.
But what you have to know is that there is ALWAYS someone who will love and protect you, there are people who will not let you down, and Jonesy was that person me!
Well enough about this, I want to let you know that I drove to Vegas today from LA and Jonesy and I stayed at the Hilton where I was earlier this year... to watch barry manilow and it was amazing... really hw after a short time frame we can move forward.
So there is my change and know that whatever we do we all have to change for the better through life!
Much love
Lisa xx
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Wow Lisa what an amazing blog. Thank you for sharing your life so openly and lovingly. My wish for you, happiness, health and clairity.
God Bless You in 2010!!!
You shine!
Law of the gods: get bitter or better. 12/29/2009
Caoline Myss
I thought this was perfect for you reflect it so beautifully!
Lisa, thank you very much for sharing this blog with us, I know it wasn't easy.
I must say I knew it already, as many other members I guess and I can only imagine what it must have been for you. You have been through really tough times dear Lisa and I am truly happy that you had Jonesy and other friends to protect you... you deserve the best...
Know that we are all here for you anyway, whatever happens. And never forget that you are the most graceful, generous, amazing person and of course you deserve to be happy in your couple and if you were not then you took the best decision.
And I'm sure it's only to find a better way and a love that will bring what you expect now..
You have all my love and best thoughts ;-)
Lise
its so true- sometimes we have to do these changes in our lives. And when we close one door another one opens. It is ment to be. I wish you all the best and Im sure everything will be alright for you and your familiy
hugs
xx
Hi Lisa,
Thanks for sharing your story with us, I had a feeling something was wrong.
I am sad for you that your going through all this. I don't know you but feel like
I do through your daily blog. How is Charlie coping, Kev was like his Dad.
We are headed for a new era so let's hope it brings you peace, happiness and health.
Oh Dear Lisa!
I'm so sorry to hear about your break-up.
Yes it's sad when a relationship ends, but you have to believe it's happened for reasons we may not yet understand. You are called to be a lightworker and at times that means great personal sacrifice. You are for all mankind and have a higher callling. It must have been very difficult for Kev to share you with the world. For Charlie, I'm sure he already understands. Change is the essence of life and most definately not always easy. But we come out the other end as stronger/wiser people. Better able to serve.
God Bless you on your mission in this life. Know you will be in my thoughts and prayers dear heart.
kat
Glad you decided to make the change instead of being in a comfort zone and not happy! I did i6 years ago and my son is 7. He is my love and light. I have to say I only think single Moms are capable of doing it all! And we know you can with your energy, talents, and friends!! Carry on!!
www.absolutemiraclecream.com
Remember at the Sarasota show I asked you what's it going to take to get you to move East? and your reply was "not much" and you mentioned Boston as being a city you loved. Perhaps this kind of change in time would help. Positive, good thoughts headed to you, your family and everyone who is helping you thru this.
HI MY LOVE,
I AM SO GLAD THAT YOU FINALLY MENTIONED THE FACT THAT YOU AND KEV ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER.
YOU SEEM TO BE DOING GREAT WITH THE WHOLE IDEA OF BEING A SINGLE MOM.
GOOD FOR YOU!
OH, IF I HAD ONLY KNOWN YOU WERE HERE IN VEGAS. I AM GLAD THAT YOU FINALLY SAW BARRY MANILOW. HOW EXCITING WAS THAT.
OH WELL, MAYBE ANOTHER TIME WE CAN GET TOGETHER. I AM HOPING THAT THE NEW YEAR BRINGS YOU MUCH HAPPINESS AND LOVE IN YOUR LIFE.
LOVE YOU,
MARY
Hi!
My first time at you blog, but I have seen lots for your shows on tv and read you book :) I really enyoyed it!
I'm sorry about you and Kev, but sometimes thing changes.. That's just life, I guess..
Hope to see you in real life sometime! You seem like a very fantstic person!
Lots of love from Norway :)
oh Lisa! i know this is hard! but, maybe your life, is on a different page, then his! we love, and lose,thru death, and growing apart! its sad, but, we will always love them! I appreiate u being honest with us, that u r human, as we all r! as u know, your with alot of girlfriends, going thru the same thing! maybe u have a venue, and have a big pajami party, we always, have been thru these things! and as u get older its harder! I just hope ,u and charlie, will be happy! Love Ev
Lisa,
Thank you so much for sharing a very intimate part of your life. It is imperitive that we are happy in this life so that we can continue to learn and grow spiritually. You are in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this transition in your life. I've been there, done it and I wouldn't change a thing about it. I really needed to experience the discontent and unhappiness in order for me to know and appreciate what I truly have now. Good Luck on your new journey.
Lots of Love,
Bonnie
Amen!
Oh Lovely Lisa,
I thought you looked "lighter" when I saw you, but I did not know why exactly.~
Your set free story here & to share with everyone is "heart-felt." I am sorry it came to this for you, Kev and your family & or anyone. As I have been through that myself.
The CRUISE...Wow! What a STRONG detachment to prevail in the happening that you and your close friends knew, in the way you "released" yet the Universe "cleansed You" after it was put in the Powerful Salt water of the Ocean. HUGE and blessed by the Higher ONE. Then to drive to Las Vegas and see and hear the up loving man of Barry Manilow...now that was Perfect!!
YOU are So very much loved and your "Golden" Hugs, Heart, Love, Caring for others is Astonishing!!!
The future and "change" as you said will bring only "thee very BEST for you and Sir Charlie." Hope he hugs..a toy or drags it by the tail, if he chooses to. I love that little man, I have never met.
Charlie, you have and are blessed with a wonderful special Mother. But, you already know that.;-) God bless you S.Charlie.
Jonesy is a sister for sure and all your other close friends that helped you along.
I love you Lisa and Charlie.
Now to bring in the New Year of 2010 with a toast.
Lots of hugs, and thank you for being Exactly who you are.
ooo
Lisa:
You are a stong lady and I know you will 'get through' this change in your life. Charlie is your buddy for life and he will take care of his Mom, as you will take care of him. You have lots of people rooting for you and wishing you well for a Happy New Year in 2010!
Sue
LISA - my HEART is with you. YOU in some ways helped me release from my past.
Iindirectly of course- since I don't know you.
Its Truth and it needs to be said.
I thank you.
I wish you the very best and peace and love...
Lisa
Having read your book and hearing all about how you met and how you got together, I am sure it wasn't an easy decision to make but now I expect you feel a huge weight off your shoulders.
You are loved world-wide and I know that all your fans wish you and Charlie all the best.
Sarah in Germany
x
Wow lisa. I love your blogs as u r an inspiration in lots of ways. First found you on nz tv where i am. Afta that a huge fan. Reading your last few blogs sounds like my life. i was married 21yrs then parted. have a great 26 yr old gay son whom i love dearly. Better to be apart than miserable in marriage. There were a lot of great times of course. I wish you lots of peace and joy in your new journey
Faye ranjit huge fan
I'm sorry Lisa. I have never had any luck with a partner either. I know you will get over this because you are a strong woman! I just bought your book and it was amazing, I want MORE! Please write more books!!
Love Irma
Hei Lisa:)
Thank you so much for sharing a private part off your life. And you did it sow beutiful,
even it was a hard part off your life.
And it`s true what you say : "Sometimes it's hard to let go of the past, but we have to, even thought we can't face it".
I have that problemes, but are doing somthing about it.
I wish you light and love
Hilde
Dear Lisa,
You have much too much zest for life and inner drive to live the traditional married life at the moment. You are also going through so many changes in what you want to do with your life - you're not sure what lies ahead, and you don't know what you want until you try it! At the moment you're experimenting:
> private readings
> shows
> TV shows
> books
> radio show
> travel
> teaching weekends - perhaps an excuse to travel!
These areas you're testing the waters to see what else is out there, without having to make any long term commitment to any particular area.
Go for it! Don't be afraid of your energy and where it takes you. It will be hard for Charlie though! Here is a poem for him:
Castles in the Air:
Happy are those children that have railways in the hall,
Painting in the kitchen and stories when they're small;
Friends to come and visit them
Ribbons for their hair,
To an awful lot of children
Is A Castles in the Air.
Mothers doing washing up,
Neighbours picking flowers,
Brothers under motorcars
For hours upon hours;
Birthdays, picnics, Christmasses,
Families that care,
To an awful lot of children
Is A Castles in the Air.
Can you think how it would be
If all you could recall
Were angry words and tempers,
Or no-one there at all;
Coming home from school each day,
Knowing someone's there,
To an awful lot of children
Is A Castles in the Air.
Sometimes kids are fortunate
'Cos people can be found
To foster them,
Or care for them
And always be around;
All these families ever ask
Is just a chance to share
With all these lonely children
Their Castles in the Air.
They give them homes and firesides
Railways in the hall,
Painting in the kitchen
And stories when they're small;
They let their friends come visiting,
Buy ribbons for their hair;
But most of all
They help them find
Their Castles in the Air!
Susanna
Lisa- You are an incredible, amazing and vibrant woman. I admire your courage and strength. I only wish I could be half as strong as you are!! Change is easily spoken but not easily lived. I myself am weak towards change.
I know I will meet you one day and give you a big hug!!
-Much love from a loyal Fan
Dear Lisa,
I am so sorry for your loss. I broke down and cried while reading your blog but your strength has inspired me to try to cope with my own situation. I always thought that I was strong and could handle almost anything but boy was I wrong. After 10 years of being married my husband left me. Out of the blue I was suddenly all alone. The details are quite involved and we went back and forth trying to resolve our issues. Two months ago he passed away and I am left with so many unanswered questions. Change is always disheartening and challenging because it takes us out of our comfort zone. It forces us to look within ourselves and face things about ourselves that we sometimes wish to avoid. I feel things happen for a reason, that there is yet another path that we are destined to travel. My prayers are with you and your family.
Love,
Priscilla in NJ
PS: I'm looking forward to seeing you next month in Atlantic City!
Hi Lisa,
Firstly a big (((((( hug)))))) to you,Charlie and Kev and I know and understand how hard it has been for you all.
I can see that your marriage was part of your spiritual journey and that Kev was a wonderful part of your life and you will always remain friends as you both where a great couple.
Please give a big ((((((hug))))) to Jonesy for always being there for you as she is a TRUE friend as these types of friends are hard to find!!!!
Thankyou for sharing your story and remember always your extended family will always be here to support you and Charlie as your spiritual journey is still unfolding and full of adventures!!!
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((WE ALL LOVE YOU HEAPS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Maureen xxxx
What a brave blog Lisa, and thank you for it.
It is a relief in a way to read it, but also very sad.
Thanks for helping us through!
Love and Peace and Celebration of Change,
Lana