Well said Lisa! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!Love Cathy

Live, Love, and Laugh Often

So very well said Lisa....................Big Yorky Hugs & Much Love N Light
Keith

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I attend your shows for the experience, because i want to support what you do, and basically, i just enjoy watching you work your stuff live...I have no expectations...i just enjoy what you do, however it comes...Love Stace XXX

Hi Lisa,
I have been using that same method of psychology on myself for various events and people in my life, because for one it isn't fair to expect too much from other people and two, so I won't be disappointed myself. I used to invest too much emotion in hopes and desires and would anticipate them like mad, and then when reality came around and whatever I had hung my hopes on failed to glow with "star dust," I would be crushed.
I don't know, maybe it is called being spoiled, or jaded, but we just expect too much from people, places and events! We want every new thing in our lives to equal, or be far greater than the last; and we end up with impossible standards to be met! Sometimes we place those extremely high standards upon ourselves and torment ourselves endlessly until we reach what we have deemed as perfection! Of course, we often are never satisfied, and either become greatly depressed, or give up entirely!
Sometimes I wonder how many talented people there are out there who have defeated themselves by striving for a perfection that is impossible to attain; or have been told by a less than kind person they don't have, "what it takes!" I so admire the people who can pick up and still go on with their dream and try and make it succeed.
Granted, there are times when we have to realise that we may not be suitable for the profession, or activity of our choice, but we have to give ourselves the best chance at finding that out, and not giving up too soon.
Sometimes, too, we are not familiar enough with what we are being presented, enough to be able to make a qualified judgment as to whether, or not the best result was being presented to us. We have to understand, have patience, empathy and some faith that the person who is giving of themselves for our entertainment, or other benefit to us; is doing the best they can and that it is done with love, a desire to please, help, or create happiness. I think there are very few people who put themselves "out there" are trying to make us have a bad time, or be disappointing! Many times it would be very helpful if we put ourselves in the "shoes," or place of others and perhaps, then we might be gracious enough to cut them some "slack" and not expect perfection, or miracles!
Hugs and Love,
Cheryl

PS. I agree with Stace! I go to see you because you are amazing, kind and sweet, and you radiate such love; it is always a beautiful experience!
xxo!

Speaking of expectations:
I was on the Caribbean cruise with you & John Holland. As I sat in the audience, I kept thinking "me, me"..read me.I desperately wanted to hear from son, who @ 18 committed suicide. I usually hear from all my friends or family that pass over, but not from him. I asked my former father in law (the Colonel) who passed over a few yrs earlier, to help bring my son to your guides. The week went by & no word from anyone. I was disappointed & sad. The last day, I sat in an aisle seat & waited for you & John to go on stage. All of a sudden I saw the Colonel & my son was behind him. With no words, my son sent a strong, loving energy to my heart chakra. I could feel his love and his happiness. He was smiling & glowed with an amazing light....WOW....That was all I needed ; just to know he is okay. Thank you & John Holland for opening the channels. Your loving, positive energy was felt throughout the audience.
Hugs:
Diane Argabright

Dear Lisa,
Another meaningful blog and so true. I have found the same happens with a movie or book. People rave about a movie to such an extent, that when you actually get to see it yourself, you are disappointed, whereas if no one had mentioned it and you go along and see it, you enjoy it far more. It has taught me not to expect too much and then rather be pleasantly surprised. I must admit though, there is one book, that I have raved about ever since I read it.. to the point that I am surprised our local bookstore hasn't banned me from their shop due to harassing the customers, because every time I see someone looking for a book, I say "buy that one, it is the best book I have ever read"... that book is Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts by the way. I read it about three years ago and I still tell people to read it... lol.

It is so true, though, when we expect too much, we are often disappointed, and the same is certainly true of life as well.

God bless,
Jeanette

Sounds like the perfect place for your family to be for Thanksgiving... I think we should celebrate this holiday all over the world..Giving thanks is on such a high and positive vibration.
It is hard to find the balance between allowing myself to dream and think ahead and still just let go of the expectations (the how, what and where...).Still learning...But I am looking forward to your book Lisa,- no pressure, - but I bet its good!!! LOL.

Dear Lisa, I enjoyed reading your blog about expectations. I used to have alot of expectations about things in my life but I am learning alot now. When I first came to this site, I had hoped so much for a reading. But I no longer do. I just enjoy being here now and reading the blogs and learning from what others share.......

Lisa, Your boy looks so much like you. The same soft facial features. When a son looks like his mum, it is a good thing. Like Prince William looking like his mum, Diana.
He looks cute in his Indiana Jones outfit. Hope you guys had fun at Disney........

To Dear Jeanette, I was so excited when you mentioned the book 'Shantaram'. I just got that book recently from a second hand bookstore but have not read it yet. It is a very thick book. But now I am looking forward eagerly to reading it soon. :-)

And Cheryl P, sometimes I think that people have very high expectations, not so much because they are jaded or spoilt but some might be naive.

I am learning to love people now without too many expectations. One of you shared something beautiful recently on this blog. It was about handling the cards that fate has dealt to us with grace and dignity. Well said. I also enjoyed reading Thee Yorky Puddin's earlier words in another blog about the burdens that we carry and about letting them go.
And to Dear Lene and all of you here, Happy Thanksgiving!!!! with appreciation and love and hugs,

HI LISA,
You are so right about expectations, I felt the same way about the rides too that you mentioned.
Seeing you twice in less than a year, and now WINNING the tickets to ATLANTIC CITY and the possibility of seeing you again in less then a years times exceeds any ANTICIPATION I could ever have.
I went to your shows with no expectations, and an open heart and what has come into my life since has been beyond all I could of even imagine.. I hope sonn you will know all thaT Iis in my heart, that has touched my life, and will last a lifetime and more.
You have touched my life..............
TERRY

Hi my love, Again thanks for the wonderful blog. I guess long ago, I learned not to expect to much from someone else. Good or bad. I am not sure if this is good or bad for me at this point in my life. but anyway,life is what we make it!! And that is the important thing to love life as it is without expecting too much from anyone. that way no one gets hurt.
Lisa, you and Charlie seem to be having a great time in Disney. Do get the relaxation needed my friend, before you head out again. Have a Happy Thanksgiving to the two of you.

Love ya lots,
Mary

Hey there Lisa,

So, so true wise woman! I love that you can take this scenario at Disney and turn it into a learning lesson. We all can't help but get caught up in physical life, illusions, and expectations. When we expect, we can potentially spend a lifetime in mourning. We expect our partners or spouses to be a certain way, our friends, our job, or even a ride like you said. Most of us have impossible expectations of others until we come tumbling down in our grief and disappointment and realize we are the cause of our unhappiness. We do this with our parents and forget that they are human and are learning on this earth too. Sometimes children are the teachers and I am sure you learn so much from your little angel boy. When you begin to live in the moment and on purpose, you start to realize that everything really is a miracle. So it is not necessarily lowering our expectations, it is about appreciation of all that we have and for those who touch us. Just appreciate our differences and love each other for who we are individually realizing that we are here to simply love and learn. Ah...it sounds so easy! Some of us have to be knocked over our heads many times before seeing it. Even after all that, we tend to slip back into those old familiar shoes and until realize you are walking down that same road of disappointment.

Many blessings to you and Charlie for a Happy Thanksgiving!

Lots of Hugs and Love,
DS

Hi Lisa,

Well said.

That’s why i like to read your blogs…you put things in perspective.

Good day from the East Coast

Agreed - your point about expectations. And I'll flip it a little too, and add that it's all tied up with attachment. We get attached to what we think it should be, or how we think it should turn out!

What's that old saying - can't think who to credit, but it goes something like: God never says 'no'. The answers to prayer are always one of these: (1) Yes! (2) Not yet...but soon, (3) I have something better in mind......

Big hugs to your little family - the poochies, too! Have a blessed Thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving Lisa...Enjoy the holiday with Charlie... Hope he liked new Wolfie..

xxoo Steph

Lisa, that is again, very true and well said... Just this week-end, I told myself this as my relationship with my mother has been much better about a year ago, but still I can't expect my mother to be someone else and everytime I go and see her, I tell myself not to expect too much and enjoy what I already have.

Well, you are a real dare devil because soon I'm supposed to go to Eurodisney and I'm looking forward to it but I must say I can't do the big "rides" because last time I went on Space mountain, I saw my life unfolding... ;-))

Have a great day !

Lise

So true. Being unattached to the outcome is such a powerful quality to possess. Easier said than done sometimes, but something to strive for! Very wise Lisa:-)!

Just want to say, another thought-provoking and interesting blog. It is wonderful how one comment flows into another on this website and how we can all learn and help each other... thank you Lisa and all the wonderful people that take the time to post their comments.

Chitra... I found that after reading over 900 pages of Shantaram, I could quite easily have read another 900 pages. Please let me know how you go with reading it... I am very interested. You can message me if you like.

Blessings and hugs to everyone,
Jeanette

Hi Lisa, so happy to see you & Charlie having a good time at Disney..I like Indiana Jones too, way to go Charlie..Your brave Lisa I'm not sure I could handle rides like that any more :) As far as expectations go I learned many years ago from a very wise co worker, when she gave me a little plaque that read " Blessed are those that expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed " I've carried that thought with me over the years, & always felt peace from it. So thanks for another great blog, it was really needed today, you always seem to know what I need to hear :) Happy Thanksgiving to you & Indy....Love you bunches, big hugs.....mauder PS Happy Turkey Day to everyone in the extended family too..Hope its a great one

Every show l have been to has been fantastic. Sounds like you and the little man are having fun. l love scary rides but you wont get me on the ghost train.HaHaHa . l can't stand people touching me in the dark. A few people have been victim to my reflexes .Oops. Sometimes in life we can expect to much of ourselves and others and find ourselves worrying about what people think. We then find ourselves making decisions based on what we think people expect of us not what we truly desire.This is a big lesson l have learnt amongst 100 others. Hugs Raca xoxox

:-) Hi Jeanette, I might take a few weeks to finish the book. But when I do, I would love to message you and let you know how it goes. Before Christmas, I would have finished it. I fell in love with the first line of the book, which says

"It took me a long time and most of the world to learn what I know about love and fate and the choices we make......."

I have also heard that a movie of this book, Shantaram, is being made. It has Johnny Depp in it and is directed by Mira Nair. You might like the movie too, Jeanette. :-) :-)

And Lisa, I look forward so much to your new book next year, too.

Could I share with you all something? I was watching a cute serial on TV yesterday that made me laugh so much. There was a brother figure in the show. A big, tall guy. And his small-sized sister was eloping to marry a secret lover. And so this big brother is chasing her and her lover down the street. He is running in such slow motion (me giggling here), and the sister is running like and olympic sprinter. I mean these are really good looking people. The guy has such an offended look on his face and then he runs into another sister of his who ran away from home with her guy. So he stops chasing this sister and starts chasing the other sister down another road. And this guy was running in super slow motion. Then he stops, starts thinking and goes back to chasing the original sister.

Who comes up with these cute serials on TV? Poor guy, he is spending his time chasing after eloping and eloped sisters. I laughed so much. Today was also the day that my Grandma no longer knew who I was on the phone. Someone had to tell her before she could remember me. So if it had not been for this serial on TV, I might have felt very sad. But this show on TV brought out my humour to full effect. At least in my life, I am not an offended looking big brother chasing after his sisters and their lovers down the street in super slow motion. Hahahaaaa hahaaaaa :-) :-) :-)

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I have recently losted a loved one and im trying to contact you in the hope that you could possibly help in anyway. I would appreciate your help and have been watching your shows and think your gift is amazing.

Also do you ever travel back to the UK or hold any of your shows here.

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