Communication
Monday, June 6, 2011 at 02:21PM Communication is an essential part of life, however it's not always the easiest. We are all able to talk but do we make the time or the energy to listen or vise versa? This is sadly one problem that has become so apparent in life. Its about making the effort to listen and to be present when someone is talking to you.
I always try to put myself in someone else's shoes and how I would feel if it were me. Sitting down with Charlie and he telling us about his life at school made me think of this. He started to tell us some of his little secrets (which no I'm not going to share ... hehe) but I realized it was because we had created as a family, a safe place for him. It was the dinner table. Sitting down eating dinner as a family every night has been an incredible way of communicating. The world stops just for that moment of time. We chat, we laugh, we joke, we share.... all things that families should do.
Which made me think about how many people live, the kids eat first and then the adults. It used to be like this in my home growing up. My dad used to eat later in the evening and the line was 'your tea is in the oven'... it was so typical. There is nothing wrong in this, but as long as a time and space is created to talk then that is the main thing.
I always say that about spirit, when someone crosses they want to talk to you, but it's about creating a space and a time to do that. You have to ask them questions and talk them to get the answers that you need to hear.
So think about others and how you communicate with them. Create a time and space to have the communication that we all need, it can be anytime, but the most important thing is to create it.
Have a beautiful week.
Lisa xx
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Reader Comments (18)
So true , communication is very important since my husband died a few months ago we don´t talk as much as we used to i hope we can find each other soon again we all maby need some space after all the trauma that we have had for so long ,we will be in Stockholm and se your show and hope that we find each other before then lot´s of love from Sweden Delicia
Hi Lisa, thanks for your good job
I have a BIG QUESTION......Does NUCLEAR RADIOACTIVITY of Tchernobyl, Fukushima disasters effect badly the spiritual entities of the dead ones ??...or is it only localised to the body only ??? and disapears after death.....with no remainings on the spiritual body....
I would like to have back feeds on that subject, if you have any ??.....for at the time being I think NUCLEAR RADIOACTIVITY may be dangerous also for the spiritual body after death, which means it could take it with it in a new incarnation...but I am not really sure of it...and at the same time i have a little voice inside that tells me, that even the worsest radioactivity can't have no effect whatsoever on who we really are, deep in our inner truth of LIFE linked to the SOURCE of LIFE .....
Thats so true Liza ,it can be difficult to form a true communication with family members....i've always wanted a close family bond with me my mum and younger brother but i gave up trying a few years ago, its complicated to explain over this, alot of unhealed issues i think have stoped there being a true closeness....if i could make everything better i would
This is so!! true we all get so busy with our lives, that we forget to stop for a minute and take the time be the family/friends we all want/wish to be with each other.
I have learned to "tell" my husand, children, mother, sister, co-workers, patients, and and people I met in my everyday life my postive feelings and things I like about them. Especially to my husband, children, mom and dogs! Do it now, in person, while you have the chance! Since I have been living my life this way, things changed drastically and quickly. Life was good before, but now it is so much better. More connections, nice to tell someone what you like about them, compliment people you know and do not know, but it must be sincere. I tell my husband every day how much I appriciate, admire, adore and love him. I do not want a day to go by without him being reminded how much he means to me. Same for co-workers, my patients, I go the extra mile or two for my patients and their families. It can be very simple things for their physical or psychological comfort. It is the expression of caring, yes, I think that's it, letting them know how much you care and that they are important. Not only words, action really seals the deal, shows effort, backs up what you say.
Love the blog and i have found myself in that same pattern of us eating after the kids which will be changing from today , We definately need to be able to connect and really listen xx thanks mate lots of love and big hugs for you, Holly and Charlie xx
Sharing during meal time is so wonderful! I am blessed to share my breakfast and lunch meals with my grandson, it is our greastest bonding time. Loving your new ideas Lisa!!!
HUGS 'N' BLESSINGS,
Vicki R ~ in Arizona ~
As I am attending marriage preparation,our mentor told us that communication is one of the major causes of divorce.Thanks for your blog,I will share it with him.
Thanks for your wonderful blows &opening up the chats again. Miss your tv show here in NY Lisa. Love the topic of this blog. Communication is so important in the family. Can't believe my son will be turning 30 in August & getting married in Oct. & still living in my house! My angel son communicates via visitation dreams...so real & beautiful. Love both my sons here & there always with in our hearts.xx
Oh Lisa, I couldnt agree with you more! So many just go thru life without listening -- really taking the time to tune in to one another. Im always amazed at how many people Im close to, who repeat themselves to me over & over....it makes me sad that sometimes they arent present with what they ARE SAYING, that they dont even remember saying things. It works both ways, I feel. I appreciate the reminder to take time to tune in & communicate with our loved ones in spirit & our spirit guides, as well. I often find myself so busy tending to my clients, and all else, that I neglect my OWN spiritual connection with the other side everyday. xoxox
It is very true, i grew up the oposite to you, we all used to eat dinner at the same time, it was fun!
we reied as much as we could ( my husband became a nurse after the birth of our second daughter)
to have dinners together, but if he couldn't be home I would have dinner with the girls.
I'm glad you are suggesting we talk and ask questions of our spirit guides, I have started to do just that . I always talked to my dad, but know since my husnbands passing i am talking to him and who ever my guides are....I find it very therapeutic! xxxxxx
Hi LIsa,
A big part of my job as a stylist is to listen,, and that has always been a strong hold in my relationship with my cleints... I have tried to apply that in other areas in my life. You are so right, conversation open you up to so much..
Lisa, you planted that seed for me,, that they do want to communicate with us, our loved one's in spirit. To just open your eyes, pay attention, and that we will connect with the signs. Lisa, the time was right, it was what I needed and spirit came to me and I know creatied these experiences in my thoughts, that materilized in my life... The experience have touched my life,
I continue to talk with my clients, and now they are looking for the communication, the signs,, Many times they come in telling me that they wanted tp have an experience that I have shared with them and indeed they end up having a similar experience.. As you know, sharing your work with them has helped me in my journey of healing,,,,,, them wanting to come to the theater with me in November is an experiemce that resonates in my heart and as I knew, would continue to grow.... I am so glad I have a private room,,, it allows very intimate conversations, and my clients, like this Extended Family are my Extended Family..
Lisa,,, I truly have been touched by an ANGEL,,,,,,YOU....
I send you all my love and gratitude for your inspirition and helping me take these steps in my personal journey..
I love having dinner as a family! I LOVE LOVE LOVE that you answer questions now!!!! If there is a more powerful word in the spirit world then a'thank you" , I send it ot you. I always have questions for you and now you may answer them!!Yeah!!!
Creating space and time to to be able to Communicate... i like it Lisa!
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Dearest Lisa,
I felt such need within my heart to leave you my words when I stumbled upon this beautifully and wisely written message of yours. It's very heartfelt. I feel your words and this subject truly speaks to my heart, more than I can fully describe. This is a subject which I spread to people, and have done so since a child, really. I always wish all people to know how very important it truly is to communicate with one another. Communication is the key - to unlock the door, to the better. It is the truth that talking does help, most of the time. Communication is the solution to a lot of issues on this earth. When one gets to speak up about the feelings within; then life feels so much better, somehow. You feel brand new and lighter afterwards. It's because you could just get all of those emotions out, once and for all; out with it, just pour it out, with love, of course. With love and understanding, that is.
However, if something’s been troubling you and you’ve been deeply hurt by someone, in the past or in the now, then you need to be able to speak up to say that you know that you didn’t deserve that. That you do deserve better, you really do. You need to get the pain out of you, to heal easier. Time will not always heal – but communication can help along the way. Communication can also sometimes be the way to forgiveness for you begin to understand one another better. Something beautiful could come to blossom before your eyes.
We must all give people their time. We must cherish each other. I wish more people understood how I do feel about communication.
I do most certainly communicate to tell people, but you cannot force people to feel the same way about communication.
I have sadly met many ignorant people, and that’s even so professional doctors you’d think would understand you.
Some will listen, but they will not hear.
We should all definitely open up and communicate. We must treat one another the way that we ourselves wish to be treated. I always treat this way. And remember, we must give, from the heart without expectations. Even if you don't get the response you wish for, it's still a wonderful step to take. It's important to understand one another. We won't always agree and understand one another as much as we may wish to. That's okay, so long as we are kind and try our best to understand. We should all support one another, and put ourselves in other people’s situations, at all times. It helps us all to understand when we see life from their point of view. Sometimes you may help the other person as you take the first step towards communication.
I really live this way. I have always lived this way. I do follow my own advice with this. I actually feel so much for people, and that's all people; that I sometimes feel that I could literally burst. I can even read the news about a very sad and tragic story about a complete stranger who has passed over - and then spend weeks thinking about this specific person and what he/she went through in life. I really do this and I don't really wish to be this sensitive because I don't feel that I myself decide to carry around the burden of someone else; it just happens, it has happened since I was a child and I begin thinking; [i]"Mommy, watching the news makes me depressed - I don't like it."[/i] because I felt so many emotions, which I didn't feel were mine, but they were, of course.
…You know what, Lisa? I have always written you quite a novel so I am afraid that I may need to get my hands off the keyboard now.
I have one whole page left which I’ve written, but it shall find it’s way through some how…
With love from me to you,
Aaliyah
Oops, I just realized the spelling mistakes in my earlier long comment. I'm sorry, I tend to spell like a chicken once in a while and that's okay, but those mistakes wouldn't show themselves until they were sent off. Clever, aren't they? Man, if I had seen them earlier. I am sure you understood me anyway. I am pretty sure you did, Lisa. I spelled like a chicken just for you, dear. *giggles*
However, I just wanted to say this. I'm sorry to write again. However, may I say while I'm here to not be off topic: Your blog entery is very true, and you're such a beautiful soul. I feel it through the screen. Oh, yes, sure I do.
Hello...I'm from Greece i would really like to communicate with you if this is possible...I would really like a reading from you ..Thank you
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