Love yourself!
Monday, June 27, 2011 at 04:47PM Last weekend I was the officiant at a Marriage Vow ceremony, something I was honored to do and also something I had always wanted to do. There is nothing like witnessing the love that two peopel have for each other, but when you are preforming the ceremony and you are there in front of the people... wow... you feel the love and it's like there is no one else around.
Love is something that we all need. And those who say they don't are not being honest with themselves. I am not talking just talking about being in love, I'm talking about feeling the love from a friend, a collague, a family member. We all need to feel love in some way. However we also have to give love too.
Holly talks about love all the time and she was on my radio show recently and was talking about having the one love that we all need. That is loving ourself. She said one thing that hit home with me, that people jump from relationship to relationship, never really finding the love that they are really looking for... and that is to love themselves.
And it's true, it resonated with me, as it's something that I have been guilty of, but I know I worked on that before she came into my life. I can honestly say I love myself. Which when I was younger and I heard people say just that, I thought they were full of ego, and now I realize that it's something that we all have to do. Not because of ego, but because we need to. If we can't love ourselves then how can we love someone else.
However we can also love ourselves through being in a relationship with someone else. They can help us heal and also show us the good within ourselves. It's hard for them, as they may feel that they are banging their head against a brick wall but if they truly love you they will persever and they will knock down those walls and show you that you are worthy of love. Its something that had to happen with me.
So if this hits home and you are one of those people who is holding back... all I will say, is just allow yourself to be loved, because trust me... Even though you feel vunerable, it's worth it in the end!
Sending love around the world
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (31)
Bless you hon
All we need is REAL LOVE!!
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Bonsoir Lisa!
this is true we all need really love, but some of us find it herd to fine. i do love my family and friend. but have been hart before by some people i care about in the passed. and can not let it go sometimes. i have so much love to given yet i find it hard to show sometimes for fear of been hart again. And i have been trying to break this fear. in time i'm sure the universal will help me to free this fear i have.
god bless you lise
one of the biggest lessons that I concentrated on, while raising my kids and now for my grandkids. It is very true that if you can not love yourself, that you really have no love to give someone else. The "love" that people think they have for another person, when they do not love themselves, turns into possession, jealousy and make both partners (or even other family members) miserable. Only when you truly love yourself can your heart truly love another. Very nice blog, Lisa! God bless! And thanks for sharing!
What you say is so true, i didnt realise that loving one self would be a struggle. The past, your childhood definitely impacts you as an adult and its then up to you to change your path, better yourself, accept the past, forgive and to love yourself flaws and all. Im still waiting to feel true love, unconditional and i know that one day i will : ) thank you Lisa your blogs, your posts are such an inspiration and always something i love to read, it really makes you think on things, for the positive. xo
Hi Lisa, thank for a good article Lisa. I am just about writing an article about this my self.
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I hope some day i will find a way to love my selfe again. But its so hard. Im in a relationship where i feel trapt and not loved. But cant leav because im afraid no one else is gonna love me. I just wish one day i find it, i wannt so badly to go back beeing the happy girl i once was.. I love your shows lisa. You are so amazing, in so many ways,
l am getting there babe xxxx
TO VIBEKE, My heart goes out to you. I felt like that too once. I discovered I was trapping myself by not doing enough for myself. Do things for you that make you feel better even if its quietly sitting with nature and enjoying the breeze, sights and sounds of birds around you. The world is beautiful if you allow yourself to see it and YOU are a part of this beautiful world. Big Hugs and enjoy your life !!
TO LISA, YES, so true. I am still in the process as I have just advised Vibeke. Thank you for another insight today. Just love inspiration. I am one of your Adelaide, South Australia fans. I love catching up with your blogs. I have seen you in Adelaide at a show being filmed in 2009 I think....it was great as I thought it would be !! I would have loved a tape from that show but did not know how to get one. I love watching people when they first realise that there is a spirit world, what a life changing moment for them as it was for me many years ago.
To really accept love off others , you do need to love you first and i thank you and Holly for sharing , my 9 year old daughter walks around saying i love me , love that i am learning from you guys and inturn my children are learning too , Big hugs and heaps of love for you Holly and Charlie xx The best part of your Aussie tour hahaha sorry cant help it , its imbedded in me now xxx
Thank you so very much, Lisa. Lessons of love, lessons in love, lessons for love.....yikes. I agree with Racca. Im getting there & learning along the way -- sometimes being clobbered over the head to LOVE MYSELF & release whats no longer loving from others, from myself, and so it goes. But I will say that every time I fully put my all into loving myself.....Im continuously being challenged. I dont want to feel that way anymore. I want to be loved for myself.....who I am, what I have to offer. I dont want to feel invisible anymore -- I want to stand in my own loving power. Thank you (you made me cry). Im with you & Holly in spirit, in Machu Pechu. I LOVE YOU. Thank you again......xxoox ALOHA
once again spot on Lisa! I didn't love or like myself but now I do and yes I can feel the difference. I also have learned and am still learning to put myself before others and do things for me, just because i want to , just because i feel like it! It is hard especially if you have grown up believing that others come before you...but do try it it is worth it.
I hope that like you girls , who found each other and are there for each other , I will find a new love in my life and that we can be open and real with each other. This is not to say that I haven't had a great relationship with my husband, yes we had ups and downs , but i wouldn't change it, it is that know that he is gone into spirit i find that i am longing for that someone to have in my life...
I do believe i will find someone and by then i will be full of love for myself and waiting to share love with that someone special!
Lots of love to you lisa, Holly and young Charlie xxxxx
Thanks for the uplifting message.....
Love to you & Holly & Charlie.
Hello Lisa, what a great blog and so very true!!! I learned later in years also that I had to Love myself before I could be happy with the one I love. Wish we could get this message out to more people as I see many that have a hard time with relationships and I can see clearly that they are first of all very unhappy with themselves. Love, love, love back to you!!!
Great blog !! Love you Holly and Charlie!
Great blog !! Love you Holly and Charlie!
Lisa, Ty first of all I follow your shows an though I will never be able to afford to see u in person I was wondering if I could do work or something for u to give me a reading I know it's far fetched but I thank u even if not
Dear Lisa
A very valuable posting, thank you!
When I wake up in the morning I say "I love you" and wait to see how I respond and how I feel about that statement - that exercise is a good barometer of my emotional weather.
Love, Peace and Light!
Lana
You couldn't have said it better! Such eloquent words we all need to hear!
I notice this with friends I have who suffer with dysfunctional relationships. The core of what they are lacking (including me) is a full love for self! Maybe your next blog could be how to begin that process to learn to love one self.
Hit home. Scary
Lisa, you did a fantastic job officiating that ceremony! I also felt the incredible love not just from the amazing couple renewing their vows, but from those in attendance. I feel like we were all brought together as a soul family. I must thank you for unknowingly bringing us all together. You have no idea how many lives you have touched and positively influenced. Thank you, my friend. I am learning to love life and to love myself. Thank you for helping me on this journey. Sending you and Charlie and Holly heaps of fuzzy pink monkey hugs.
Such a good blog, Sweetie and one I benefited from reading. Thanks. Its a struggle to love yourself when you've had a childhood of abuse; you fall in to patterns of self loathing and after a time that negative states feels 'normal'. Stepping outside this norm and experiencing the difficult feelings of what truly feels 'not normal' (even though it's quite normal in reality) in order to create a better emotional environment is one of the bravest things we can do. I've struggled for years with this, and am finally making very great headway in part because of my acquaintance with you and friends I have made through you. So bless you. You touch people's lives in ways that are marvelous and unpredictable. And it makes a difference in this world.
Hi Lisa,
Sending love to you too!
Always,
Cheryl
Dear Lisa! Strong words to read. I know you're right. it is not always easy to love myself, to accept myself for who I am. I have many faults and shortcomings, and I try to continually improve. But it is hard. and I think that there will always be difficult. you have to work with yourselves every day. Now I have a daughter, and I want to be a good role model for her. it makes me want to work even more with myself. maybe one day I will love myself, love myself for who I am, Love Elisabeth S.
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