Personal Connections
Wednesday, September 22, 2010 at 04:19PM Here I am traveling from Dundee to Edinburgh, and we have had a great time. Its been fabulous to come back to the UK. I have loved coming back to home and I have seen some friends which is lovely and then the madness started. We filmed at Stonehenge for Lisa Williams Live and then the crew followed me to the first two shows so that we could film them.
It was great but there was a serious reality segment to it, and I had to kick them out of the bathroom and my bedroom, and it was fun… but somewhat strange though. So we are four shows in, and I have had very little internet connection. Oh how we rely on it.
But what has been nice that over the time in Norway and the UK I have had little internet and when I do it's been a matter of catching up and making sure that everything is taking care of. But what it's made me realize is that I was addicted to the internet and the connections that were on there, especially through my personal Facebook.
It's been quite crazy and I realized, for me I was in need. In need of a life, yes I have no problem in admitting it. I needed a life and I found it on Facebook. I found friends from school and other people but I also realized that there was a huge amount of drama that went on that I got entangled in. I bought the drama in to my life. And while I like to hear about other people I have enough drama in my own life instead of reading about others. I have to say that this is only on my personal Facebook, and not my public one as I love that, and my fan page!
So while I have been away back in the UK, I noticed that many people in the UK are not attached to their phones, and the internet. People are so much more present. There are more people around and they were interacting with each other. It was actually Holly who pointed it out to me, as we were in Newcastle. I stopped and watched and it was great to see. People want to talk to each other instead of texting each other even though they are sitting close to each other.
So I decided to take the plunge and come off my personal Facebook… shock horror!!! i know that its going to kill me for a while but I will still have my fix on my fan page, but I figured I am going to try to get back to the simple life if I can and try to be more present in life and connect with people personally. Whether that is picking up the phone, emailing them personally or seeing them for me I think it's about making sure that I get a life outside of Facebook. It's just me personally but I am sure that there are many people who feel the same as me.
We connect with many people on the internet and that is a great thing and we make friends and there are many people who have met on the internet and have married, but I also feel that we have to connect with those around us and not be so tied to a screen and a keyboard. Be present and aware of what is going around us in our home, our environment and the people we interact with daily. So find a balance between the internet and those around you and take time to get back to basics and sit and have dinner together, talk about your day and look at people when you talk to them, so that you can see their smile, their expressions, and really connect with people. For me my life is about connections connections with spirit and also personally.
So although this has been a personal choice for me, my public Facebook is still going to be around, so never fear, I will be there!
Much love from a wet Scotland!
Lisa xxx
Reader Comments (42)
Always nice to hear from you! Love you Lisa! Hugs!! xxx
Very true!! Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow (well officially today:)) in Edinburgh!
Thinking I should sign off this for a while as it takes up a lot of my time!!
Much love
Lisa xxxxxx
Big decision .. I really relate. I work from home and alone often so I feel like i'm in that world a bit. Going to the dog park with my border collie.. just being amongst the trees and watching her little face get excited made me think of that. How funny how the little things remind us of some bigger stuff, like you watching people converse in the streets. I do love how you think. I can type things that I don't always feel fully and I think there is a danger of giving half of yourself to people.. rather than all. I saw you in person and your definitely a give all person.. so maybe you don't have this as much as me! But face to face and being there by actions rather than words is so much more real. It is nice to know that you find that valuable too Lisa and have made a decision which will make connections more full.. it will make you happier Im sure and you'll get more back I think too in your personal life. I applaud you sweet lady.
av missed thee lass. n so hope we get to see thee agaian real soon tha nose.....lol
take care lisa
Much love n Light to ya and Big Yorkie Hugz always
say hi to sum Fish n chips 4 us
XXX
Keith
aka THEE YORKIE PUDDIN
As long as you are happy and healthy in mind , body and soul...that is all that matters and you have to do whatever it takes to be that way Lisa...
Good on you for taking control....life is about everything in moderation but it is easy to get swept up in it all, it happens to us all at times !!! Learning from it is what is important !!! and we never stop doing that, believe me !!!
Love and hugz and glad you are having such a wonderful time back home !!! Enjoy and take care !!!
Sharon xx
HI Lisa,
Wow, what a great blog.. I am so new on the computer that I have little time to OD on it!!!, especially with my late hours at work, I get tired.. I actually got on the computer for the first time, when I learned you were coming to DE., not even knowing you did tours.. So you have brought so many new things into my life, which I have shared with so many otheres.. All of my friends that I coorespond with are the beautiful friends I met through you here on the members site...By the way your facebook page is full, I can't become a friend, unless I am doing something wrong, but you should know I am a very loyal fan!!!! Love you Lisa, always.........
Lisa!
Always fun to come to the site and find you've blogged! How absolutely awesome you were at stonehenge - I wonder what that was like for you! I'm sure the reality portion of filming completely s*c#ed. I can only imagine - but a huge thanks from someone who will of course watch whatever you just filmed!! I know your fans get a huge piece of you and I for one, appreciate your personal sacrifices.
I'm an "old school" girl and don't do facebook! "Shock" Countless time friends tell me I HAVE to facebook - I now have a side business and I may want to create a fan page - but I'm even dragging my feet on that. I don't even know what my status is half the time...let alone tell everybody..lol. Even funnier is I finally caved and got a "smart" phone for business reasons. Apparently I am not yet smart enough for a smart phone - and that has been truly funny. Took me all flippin day to pull my voicemails - which went from 1 to 5 during my futile attempts on the road. Also bought a laptop - which is smarter than I am too!!! I hate the little roller pad (left click/right click/no flippin click is what happens) - got a w. mouse (whew)! I feel like a bull in a china shop. Watch out!
Since I found your site and the truly wonderful ppl here - I do find myself checking in here - but also with my new life path/journey I've just began - thanks to YOU and some truly amazing ppl from this site - I'm limiting myself to my online time because I truly need to be out interacting with people face to face or just like you - making the extra effort to let people know I think enough of them to sit and write/email or a hug and smile in person. It's been just over 30 days and already my life is already a remarkably different place - and I'm still stumbling around - but at least I have some direction!
For the billionth time I wish I lived near you - gifts REMOVED or "hat on" as you say - to be your friend - just for the person you are - to me it seems like you just fill life with color - your fabulous mood hair aside! That would be truly enough and your friends are blessed for sure - just like you're blessed with them!
Take care and a continued safe journey.
LL
Lisa,
The puter in general is a blessing but a curse at the same time. I think we all know this.
I remember before getting so addicted to the computer, I was really active. I never sat still and would be up at the crack of dawn and not home til dark..... I made myself busy but I loved the outdoors so anything I could do and fit in , I did. Wow.... now for the past almost 4 years, I have made puter my life... my activity, my hobby, my curse.
I can stay on the puter for hours and nothing happens, and I know I have so many chores to get done and errands to run and dinner to cook before john and the kids get home. However, see.... this is what happens... I spend all day on the puter doing pretty much nothing, and then an hour before I expect the family to be home, I get off my arse and Rush... Literally RUSH to get everything done .... and I have perfected this !!! Then AFTER I have rushed to get this done I am sweating.... Hence, when hubby comes home I can say " Hey hun, I cleaned, cooked dinner, did this and that.... oh AND I worked out for an hour"..... HOW IS THAT for crazy !!!!
I want my old life back :( I think that this is a sign for me to get off puter as well.... or seriously ween from it... I was happier when I had a real life hahaha !!!
I am glad that your not on as much quite honestly. I love that your forced to deal with the moment cause when we have that access, then the temptation is harder to fight... but when we have no choice, its so much easier to let it slip your mind , not worry about it and really enjoy the moment. Besides, your friends and family have to be loving every moment spent with you... its not like any of you have that time daily with you living in the states !!!! So I am glad your having " YOU" time and living life... Just be safe and have tons of fun
Atmos
Bravo Lisa, you have passed the test!!! Yes, Spirit has a way of helping us see things and if we ignore the signs long enough... they just cut off your Internet. ha ha I do see how appealing FB is and at the same time I think it is evil... not really... just distracting. Honestly, I don't do drama but somehow I got caught up with drama on FB. Crazy really! It is a great way to connect, stay in touch, but I can see how you have to be careful not to get addicted. I much prefer the group or one-on-one face-to-face time.
Well, good for you for realizing it. It was definitely a test. Just think of it this way if you will... that being addicted or attached is a truly a form of suffering because you need it rather than enjoy it. I am understanding this lesson on many levels and sometimes it is so hard to let go. The key is filling that gap of time with something that is for your higher purpose... for your soul. Drama only drains us of energy and truly is just a waste of time and distracts us from our true self. In the end, none of drama really matters so why waste precious time on petty stuff.
Enjoy your travels and find ways to replenish your own supply!! You have quite a crazy schedule there girl.
Big Hugs,
DS
Oh and so excited you are filming again!.. and can't wait to see it all.. we are behind you in everything you do!! Go Lisa!! :)
I couldnt agree more, Lisa!!!!!! Was just thinking the exact same topic recently....in the last few days. I got addicted to this thing called "social networking" for awhile, lol. I love being places where I do not answer the phone, watch tv OR have to get online....I really couldnt agree with you more. There is a HUGE life outside of facebook, emails, & all the drama it brings sometimes! Enjoy your life! xxoo
Bravo, Lovey! Enjoy reconnecting to things & people, more physically! It'll do the body good.... And, add some quiet time in there, too, besides using it to sleep.
I only joined FB at the urging of friends who wanted to keep in touch that way, & am glad that I can catch up with olllld friends, without things like 'Classmuck', just to drop a message. I lol when I see someone tell me, via FB posting, that they 'miss me'. Well, I've gone nowhere, & can still be found via more old-fashioned ways! I do caution friends that I am not online very often, & definitely not daily.
The thing is, I found how easy it was to start to live 'online', & it didn't feel good after a while. Favorite sites, & all. Even now I cringe, when I see friends & loved ones who can't move 2 feet without their phones squawking that they MUST check some web site, or other. Lots of news & laughs coming in, but little personal interaction, or touch. None of us thrive so well, without personal touch. I can see the necessity of some of this internet insanity for folks who do business online, or travel for work. It can be a necessary way to link personal contact & productivity.
Email is a great thing, for the speed of it, & not much different than firing off a hand-written letter that takes soooo long to arrive. But.... I like the days of phones just being voice-related. Being able to hear a voice that brings joy to the heart, or that certain voice that takes one's breath away. No questioning the emotion behind the words, then.
My son just got me a new phone, which has 'touch' features. I love it because the photos are so much easier for an oldster to see! He told me he included a data package, & I keep getting texts about adding the email service to it. I have yet to use any web service on it, & won't likely do email with it. Because... when I message, I want to sit quietly, & make that time to connect, via laptop, or PC. Not as good as a phone call, or written letter, but more personal, IMHO.
Nothing surpasses getting that personal email, or phone call, or video chat, other than physical contact. I am soooo for MORE of that. When loved ones have to resort to nothing but contact via sites like FB, I think it's a darn shame. Think about what your hugs have meat to folks, all over the world?? Those are a sensation not so easily forgotten!
We all need to 'have a life'. And my belief is that sometimes we are afraid of the pain that can come from building & maintaining that 'life'. Resorting to 'electronic touch' can actually be a safety net. Anonymity of that kind can be protective, & feel safer. It can become quantity vs quality, all too easily. I had felt so saturated with 'incoming', at times, that I have just wanted to shut down, & not respond to messages. Same as working in a high personal contact profession can leave one 'peopled out'. Quiet helps us get in touch with the inner self, & allows us to regroup. It doesn't mean we don't still care about the folks we have connected with, but simply that we can't do so every minute. Something's gotta give. We can still send loving thoughts via Spirit. Special thanks, for that is felt without question.
We are loving you! MomMom & Monkey Pie
Duh!! Should be 'hugs have meant'. Old eyes in a dark room... See? Hugs are best done in person! xoxo
Hello lovely :) Sounds like this is what you needed. l was only saying last we to my girlfriend that l need to be more present in everyday life. I have been studying,meditating and on the computer. It was getting to the point where l wasn't catching up with friends and spending enough time with the kiddies. Not only that, it is all about balace and with that comes grounding.
Dundee hey and Edinburgh. My grandmother was from Dundee and my grandpa Edinburgh,two places amongst many l would love to visit. Have fun and keep changing the world. Hugs and Love Racca xxxxxooooooooxxxxxxxx
Hiya Lisa, Me and my family were at the caird hall last night and we got to meet you at the meet and greet after the show. My mum rang me one night a few months ago and said you must look up Lisa Williams on sky its fantastic! So I did and what a great discovery. I think I have always been open to what may go on around us and I've always liked to believe that whenever someone we loved passes I like to believe that they are stilll around and looking after us.
I came to the show with my mum and 2 aunts, my partner and my is in law, I was hoping to hear from my grandad but I was mroe hoping that my aunts husband wouldve came through. He took his own life last year after a lot of years of what I would describe as a mental battle with his previous marriage/army injury etc etc. He become more into himself as the years went on and begun to hate life. My aunty now blames herself for his death as she wanted to leave him and he threatened the suicide. Needless to say he did go through with this horrible threat and has left such guilt within my aunty.
Only nearly one year on now I still have a lot of late night and sometimes drunken phone calls from my aunty wanting to stay for the night at mines.
I remain positive tho and try to build that into my aunt too. I havent spoken to her since the show last ngiht but I am hoping that she has taken some positive things away from your show with her!
Thank you so much for a wonderful night and for a future of following you and your work. I have woken up this morning with a positive feelign for the future!
Lots of love stacy
xx
(ps, maybe at a future meet and greet it'll be when I move stateside with my nursing! )
hi lisa , i was at the caird hall last night and i had a fantastic night , i will definately b coming back to see you the next time your in dundee ,it was brilliant , i was hoping to get a message but unfortunately i didnt , it was still amazing tho ,thank you so very much lisa xxx
Hi Lisa....When I was a young girl, we didn't have mobiles or computers but we had our imaginations. As kids we played together, sometimes all day out with other neighbourhood kids...our games were creative and a team effort and we communicated with each other face to face...I think it's sad that today's generation are almost isolated....sitting infront of a computer 'type talking' to friends...expression is so important in communication and nothing makes it clearer than the look on a person's face or sound of their voice.
Your blogs are always a great read, but meeting you briefly for a hug and photo in Southampton on Sunday made everything 'so real'...if you understand my meaning. You raditate such sincereity and warmth and it was so special to see and feel that from you in person...
Although I was not fortunate to have a reading...I left a changed person, and believing my lost loved ones are around me. I have created a 'Dear Angels' letter diary in a writing book which I am writing in every night as i sit in bed...I share my days thoughts, troubles and feelings with them, although I'm sure they already know....it's my blog to the Angels.
There are many great creations on this earth and in this life and you are most certainly one of them Lisa....god bless you always xx
So true Lisa, I agree wit you. I have just reactivated my facebook page, (that I had deactivated as I found it useless) because my cell phone was robbed in Madrid and so I lost all my numbers and with facebook I was able to find many people who gave me their numbers back but I must say though it is useful sometimes, I don't find it really necessay otherwise. I see many "friends" who write about their lives all the time but they are never available in normal life. I also think facebook makes people so self-involved, it's like they're in love with themselves.
However, it is true that through it I was ablt to be in touch with old friends, old neighbours or people who live so far away but then I think emails or letters would be much more personal. Some people there who added me as a "friend" never sent me a message since then and what I did they were astonished because I asked for news... how silly is that ?
Anyway, if you feel better without it, maybe it's a good thing ;-))
Much love,
Lise
I do agree with you about the internet and Facebook, for me it was games on Facebook I just had to stop it was not easy but I enjoy spending more time with my partner and talking and watching TV, instead of sitting in another room on Facebook.Enjoy your time in the UK. Love Therese
You are so right Lisa! I can't believe how cyberspace driven we all are. Growing up we were not like this! My kids and their friends are nothing like me and mine when we were young. They say they are bored, bored! They have more than I ever had and we never complained, but they are so driven by the computer, phone, xbox, etc they get outside and play for awhile and then they are bored! No wonder their is an obesity problem in the US. Well I make sure my kids get their butts outside and not be "bored" or they lose their link to the electronic world. I think it's good to limit ourselves. You only live once, why do it behind the computer, phone or some other kind of electronic gadget.
Hugs
In saying what I said earlier I checked my facebook page 3 times today !! haha
I realised I used my dog as an example of when I thought I was a little hooked on facebook.. I know dogs don't have face book!! although some of my friends dogs do. lol But even seeing an animals face happy when you are focused on them.. is different to being at home and typing on the computer. The dog is so much happier! so imagine how happy the people in your life would be if you were more in it!.. that was my point hahaha. I know you don't need explanations but while i'm on and thought of it.. and husband is asleep, I thought i'd add it. Love love love you, you crazy woman. As long as you are happy and change with the seasons the world is yours. God always comes first though.. ! to me.. but love is universal isn't it.
love this post. so so true... ive never had a facebook page however i spent hours in chat, then i took back control and now i pop on to check your site and forums check the angel intuative forums , my emails and thats it .
" THANK YOU " So Much Lisa . It was wonderful to meet you in person in the ' Caird Hall Dundee ' last night and the messages that came forward for those in need, were very reassuring to each and everyone that were fortunate to recieve them from their loved ones in spirit.' You are an ispiriation to All ' .
Also could you please give my kind regards to Holly it was a privilege to meet her too. She is a lovely lady with an incredible gift and I will be in touch through her web site for the ring { Gold } Many Blessings and much love to you both xx
p.s" Good Luck with the rest of your tour" .....
Hi my love,
Many thanks for your beautiful blog-as usual. I have facebook but I am very seldom on it. I go on only if I have an email from someone who is on facebook. As far as the computer goes I go on to see my mail and check my bank account and then I come here to your site to check out everything that everyone has written and to check to see of you blogged that day. Then I go off of it for the rest of the day. I guess there are other things in life that are more important to do. So my love this is goodby for now. Take care of you and continue on your tour in the UK . Please know that you are loved by so many of us, esp. by me. Please give Charlie a big hug from me.
I love you,
Mary
You're so right, Lisa!
We all need to get back to our real life.
No FB, Twitter or even cell phone for me! I prefer a great face-to-face talk with someone or an unexpected phone call at home (not at the restaurant, on the bus or at the store). However, I LOVE your website but can now limit my time on it. :)
Let's not look at life on a screen. Let's LIVE LIFE because it is so short!
Thanks for your wise words, Lisa!
Much LOVE,
.