Feel the feelings
Wednesday, June 16, 2010 at 12:24AM Well I know I am still suffering with jet lag from the trip, I actually, with the help and laughter of Jonesy we took the cushions off the chairs in my office laid them on the floor and I lay down and covered myself up with the quilt that was made by all the members, so i was as snug as a bug in a rug!!!
And there i fell asleep!!!
Not for long but it was what i needed to keep me going for the rest of the day!!
But that didn't stop me from heading out with two delightful friends this evening who I adore. He has recently lost his father and a friend and it's incredible how he looks, he looks lighter and freer and we were chatting about a family function that they have to attend, and he doesn't want to go, and the one thing that I have done recently is felt how i feel about things, for instance, i stop if someone asks me something and then I think and feel about whether i want to do it and then I decide and if i don't want to do it i won't.
Now of course there are times when I have to do things and go places, because that is just the way that life is, but I mentioned what i had been doing to my friend and he said, you know I should start doing that I should start to feel what i feel emotionally and they decided that they were not going to the function there and then.
Sometimes we do things to please others and we don't stop to think about our own feelings, we think we have to act a certain way because it's what's expected. However if we just stopped to think and feel and then act up on those feelings we would all be happy.
Now like i said there are things that we all have to do in life its just part of the course but if we can start to do this in our life then it would help us manage our lives so much more easily. And we would be true to ourself.
Being true to yourself is the key issue here and if you are not, that is when all sorts of emotions get pushed away and you can start to feel resentment, anger and many more emotions.
So start to voice your opinions and understand that you have a voice and that you have the right to be heard no matter what. You have to accept this and then you can move forward, in doing this we also have to realize that we are not in control of others emotions so if they don't like it then they have to accept that its your opinion and your opinion counts!!!
I just felt it was important ti share this wife you, so feel your feelings get into your soul and experience your true emotions of what you really want in life!!
much love
Lisa xxx
Reader Comments (31)
I agree with this sentiment. However, I have been feeling really stressed today, after saying 'no' to what I thought was an unreasonable request from my boss. Even though other colleagues cheered me for being so assertive I live in 'fear' of her glares and reactions, not getting much sleep last night. In my heart I know that i did the right thing but she she can be such a difficult person. Perhaps it's time to look for work elsewhere.
Hi Lisa,
Due to you often posting late at night, and me logging in my time in the mornings, I regularly find myself one of the first to post.
I think it is very important to try and stay true to yourself, but I find it very difficult at times, because some people seem to make you question yourself or your decisions. It takes me a long time to make a decision because I weigh up the pros and cons until I am satisfied I have looked at all angles, which even makes me seem indecisive at times, but then once I have made up my mind, I don't change it very easily, and that results in a few family members calling me opinionated or always thinking I am right.
I guess one can't please everyone all of the time, which is just another sure sign that you have to please yourself and do what is right for yourself and try not to care what others think of you, as long as you know you are being true to yourself and following your heart.
Lisa, which also means getting your beauty sleep when you need it and not driving yourself so hard and exhausting yourself. By the time I post this, I hope you are in dream land.
Blessings to you and your family,
Jeanette
Hi sunshine!!!! I hope you feel a little more energized still on the days ahead. I am a feeler through and through and speak from the bottom of my heart. Jonesy is sweet. I could see you doing that. I'm glad you feel at a place where you follow your heart. Thank you for wishing that for others too.. you really do recieve then give back. I have always thought it was a problem that I speak openly and don't contemplate judgement. Especially when being surrounded by others who are very private. But honestly as an adult I have true connections because of this. I also have had hard times where I know where I stand. But spiritually I feel it is freeing..I view it a tad more postively. So I thank you for bringing this up. I am fantastic! LOL.. joking.. but I do feel it's worth being you. No matter the judgement. As it is better to be loved for who you are than who you are not.
Love you!
Dear Lisa, thank you for this blog. Yes sometimes we don't realise it but we do things automatically and forget ourself.
I have a friend that I love who does that all the time, he goes to parties he doesn't want to go to or force himself to do ths or that because he says he has to. But in the end the effect on people is worse than if you think of yourself because people feel that he doesn't want to be there.
So indeed, we should always be generous but also think about what is right for us.
I'm really glad that you are surrounded by great friends Lisa and I hope you take care of yourself ;-)
Much love,
Lise
That's what l have been doing. l actually feel calmer and more intouch with myself. after your workshop l was like,'yeah man,peace' instead of blah,blah,blah.loll felt so much calmer. Hugs Racca xxx
Hi Lisa, thanks for another inspirattional blogg... no ticket for me in Oslo, it's sold out :(
Regards, Airam of Norway
Impeccable timing as always! You always manage to hit the nail on the head as we aussies say lol.Oh by the way my hair turned out great!!! Thankyou for replying to my email much appreciated :)
Hugs anita xxx
P.S Take extra care of yourself to get over that jetlag !
Hi,Lisa,how true,being a mom we put ourselves last.I like you idea,i might give it a go!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Lisa,
Thankyou so much for your wise words, which are inspiring and uplifting!, "feel the feelings" love it,
Its so true we often feel oblidged to do things to please others leaving ourselves feeling a little neglected.
I love to do things for others ecspecially my own children, but I do know the difference as to the things that are helpful on my path and the things I may do to not be different or afraid of what others will say or think about me..just recently I didnt attend a wedding, it was a 9 hour drive to get there with all our boys and the finances were just not there to go, I felt bad but relieved that I didnt have to do anything that I felt would be a stress on myself and the family, I literally had a chest pain on the days leading up to the wedding, I finally rang a week before to tell my friend I couldnt make it, she was very understanding, and also the chest pain went away..I put myself through stress, and all I had to do is honour myself and be honest
I love this site and the amazing people on this earth and realm, Thankyou again Lisa for reminding us of all the beauty
xoxo
Hey there Lisa,
Hope you are feeling better from your jetlag!
Very good advice my friend and I am happy to hear that you are following this line of thought in your own life. We do have to be more mindful of our own needs and wants rather than trying to please others all the time. In reality, we are always going to disappoint someone and it does not mean we did anything wrong. It is just simply that others are expecting too much from us or depending on us. So as you said, if we are being true to ourselves, than the rest is just noise. We cannot stay attached to the emotions of others and let them manipulate us into doing things that we do not want to do or are not comfortable doing. It is something that I have had to learn and still am. Great reminder!!!
Love and big hugs,
DS
Thanks Lisa....love your blogs XXXX
Um...It's as though you were speaking directly about my life and to me. Thanks for the good advice!
Um...It's as though you were speaking directly about my life and to me. Thanks for the good advice.
Um... It's as though you were speaking about my life and directly to me. Thanks for the good advice!
Dear Lisa: I found out a few months ago that expressing MY opinion about a health issue was not acceptable for my brother-in-law and sister-in-law. I was told that my opinion about their mother's condition (Alzheimer) did not count, only my husband's. What a surprise! This is very difficult to accept since my husband and I are opened to opinions from all family members. He has since expressed his disagreement about their attitude but has hit a wall. He also knows of my grand-mother who developed the same condition while living with my family. This is splitting up a family I have known for the last 20 years. How am I supposed to attend their family reunions without being able to express myself or simply being ignored? I don't have this problem with my own family. We are all free to express ourselves and share our knowledge in a respectful manner. Is avoiding these people the real solution or is there a LESSON to learn from this situation? For now, I have been avoiding them and tried to be very patient. Kind of sad for my husband who also avoids many of his own family reunions and prefers to come to mines. Any advice?
My opinion counts too and I have the right to be heard!... I am always worrying about and thinking about others and doing things for others that I think I enable myself to be overlooked to the point that it finally gets to me... and if/when I speak up, after so long of not speaking up, it makes me look like some "mean" or "bad" or "irrational" or "wrong" person, when in reality, it's just been a long time coming.... But no one sees or understands it because I've allowed it to get to that point.... Thanks for the reminder to allow myself to feel my feelings... xoxoxo
nothing more to say...
If we dont want to do something, we won't..
Sina
Well said, I need to have a chat with friends about this and I think they will be hurt by what I need to say but you're right our own feelings matter over trying to be nice and accomadating. Wish me luck and pray it works! I don't want it to go the wrong way but I've tried to be nicely direct and it's not working so I have to be more truthful.direct in my feelings and it will be awkward. I also feel though like I've been pushed into a corner because I haven't been as direct in the beginning so a learning step for sure! Still wish us well Thanks! Coll
Happy birthday week!
Hello Lisa ;0)
Who said dat '' I laugh to the face of the jet lag...'' ?? ;0)
Hi Lisa,
A lot of times decisions are made thinking of others often losing sight of your own needs. Its nice to feel and sense what you need and follow your desires, because this is what is most satisfying, and not a selfish thing to do...
Thanks for the reinforcement.
You sound well, and your new pictures are beautiful... Much love,
Terry
Hi Lisa,
I was at your Gold Coast Seminar I have joined your family and I am trying to find my way around your beautiful web page, looking for Witchy Woo, can you tell me where to go, nicely please. I really enjoyed your seminar and hope to develop my intutive awareness.
Ah you touch on so many things with this blog. And the clearest is that - especially in our society - we feel obligated to do things in order to not offend people. And so we over schedule and agree to do things we don't really want. And then it's all forced and icky. And then we get tired for no good reason and we can't do other things we are supposed to and..... oh I'm out of breath just writing it! LOL.
Friends never mind if you say 'no' to an outing or event. Because they know it's not about them, it's about scheduling and health and energy and all sorts of other factors.
And it took me fifty years to learn this. Oh to have known it when I was twenty!
Hi Lisa.
You blog was so amazing for me, so close like it was me.
After my session with u Tuesday, that so rings bells for me. omg
like a quoto i found. (nothing is more wondrous than a human being when they begin to discover themselves)
thanks for that message
lov and light
This is exactly what I'm going trough at the moment. Past 10 years has been a roller coaster of emotions and each time I just got caught in the middle of it...willing or not. Now my anger and sadness just wants to get out so that I can start MY life as I'm turning 40 in august.
So I'm hoping change will come soon...
Nice shows Lisa...I really admire your gift/talent...It doesn't scare me...it gives help to a lot of people. Keep on goin!!!
Too bad you live to far away.
Warme greetings...