Life is like an onion
Tuesday, May 4, 2010 at 11:40PM I just wanted to say thank you so much for all your love and support that you have shown me over the last week, it's been a hard tough week and there were many things that happened last week that made me say to a friend, I am sure someone has a voodoo doll with my name on it this week.
But we all have moments like this where there are lots of things that happen and they are firing at you, but it's how you decided to deal with it. How you decide to focus on it.
It's never easy, and first there is the shock of the impact that you have, then there is the dealing with it. Then you have the emotions attached. No matter what we go through in life, it's like an onion, there are layers to it dealing with and moving on from the impact of a situation.
This situation could be a passing, a broken relationship, it could be a loss of work, all of these things and many more are important to us and it's how we look at it in life. Yes you could say that there are people who have it much worse, but it's all relative, it;s what you are going through and you are dealing with that is important.
Talking about things and getting it out is one thing and then you have to work through it and for me, I always do something physical, like an act, something I can remember doing, like when I threw my wedding rings over the back of the boat... thats something I will never forget. When you do something to honor the change in your life but you embrace it, the physical act is important, but you have to, in some way find a positive.
Staying positive is something that got me through last week and even though I didn't feel like it, I woke up and every day I looked at my self and I smiled. A big hearty smile and I tried to laugh, not just a little chuckle but a big ole belly laugh. It wasn't easy, but by the end of the week, and trust me the weekend was just as dramatic, i laughed at what was given to me.
This was because I had made small steps to overcome what was thrown at me and it worked. NOw not everyone is able to do this and trust me it's taken years for me to do, but once was able to do this, it was great... so it's worth looking at and no matter what situation you find yourself in, find one positive about it. Find a reason to like it. and focus on that.... and then do something physical to honor that ending.
But what we have to understand is that through an ending there has to be a beginning... and for me I have a new outlook and appreciation on many things... but most of all new friendships. look at the change in life that way... endings lead to beautiful new beginnings.... it's only the start, even though you may not see it now!
Lots of love and hugs
Lisa xxxx
Reader Comments (41)
oh Lisa this sure hits home pretty hard !! thank you ...
It is so easy to focus on all the negatives and not see the positives and miracles that surround us everyday. l at times have and can still get kinda dramatic when the s..t hits the fan BUT l now mostly put all my energy towards all the good l have in my life. My healthy,beautiful kids,my home that l love,my fabulous friends who love me and support me,the sun,the rain,the beautiful colours of the flowers,butterflies. Singing is another great way to lift the vibration. l dance and sing like a mad woman and it feels fanbloodytastic. May l add,has taken alot of soul searching to be able to do this. Lastly, getting together with he girls and having a couple of champs and giggle always sends he clouds away. Love ya Rach xxx P.S The beauty about living this life is that everyday can be a new beginning,if you let it.
oops,some letters missing in some words xx
Well put Lisa , Keep smiling. big hugs xx
thx for this blog Lisa!
Big hugs back...
Hi Lisa,
You are very intune with your emotions, which makes you extra sensitive to how you respond to sad situations. I fully believe that the tough times are there to make us become better people - no poems this week - only the straight talk.
I changed my job a while ago and went from a comfortable position where everyone (students, staff, parents) all thought I was great to a new school, where I received a stony response from some of the key parents (P&C) - the power hungry parent community.
I have had to weather very difficult storms for long periods of time, and humble myself in order to keep the peace. At the time you just have to get up and do what you do and not focus on the negativity. What kept me going was the fantastic connection that I have with the children.
Today I was blown away when 2 separate sets of parents approached me and gave me some positive feedback! Wow an Wow again! Does this mean I've weathered the storm! The whinging has finally stopped - not bad after 18 months! Sometimes the storm lasts that long. I've been patient - but it has taken humility and an enormous amount of mental strength to face people who can be so openly cruel and heartless.
You have had a difficult time recently, and you have weathered your storms. Well done - you are such an inspiration to so many people. I sincerely hope you find what you are truly looking for in your future life.
I am looking forward to the Mediumship weekend in Brisbane.
A bientot,
Susanna
Aww Bless you Lisa!
The day before your dear friend Elaine passed I had a dream, in the dream you were crying with a broken heart. So I prayed that God's will be done for Elaine and her family and of course for you.
I feel blessed to have found such awesome teachers and friends in my life, no matter what happens, I am blessed. I wake up each day and look to the sky and know I have made it and have always made it. I find comfort in that.
I live each day with gratitude and with the knowledge that today is all I have.
Bless you and thank you for sharing your journey with us.
May your day be blessed and filled with joy...........
((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))))) TO YOU!!!
Thank you Lisa for sharing and for guiding us through our journies. I also wanted to thank you for posting the live chat show! I read it and found several things so helpful and answers to some things I didn't even dream would come up that have been answered. SInce my daughters birth I have seen a set of numbers too and I never dreamed it would come up through this. I will check into the books you mentioned.
Thank you for being an example of a better way to handle what life brings, it is in how we handle it. I am much more aware that things happen for our lessons and growth and I look at things differently because of it, more like a puzzle and where it fits then at the one situation. Although I struggle with anything happening to my child, I can't imagine having to try and live through that. Let's pray we all get what we are meant to do on this journey! Thanks for being with us!
Dear Lisa and friends,
If I had to liken an onion's layers to the decades in our lives, I would have to say that the most difficult decade was when I was in my thirties. I will never forget how I felt on my 40th birthday when I said to my sister that I felt that my candle had gone out and I felt that all the fight had gone out of me. I think it is in our thirties that we realise that our childhood dreams of a perfect life and a love filled with romance, trust and faithfulness and happy ever afters does pretty much not exist, and we have to come to terms with the fact that life, in general, is full of hurdles that we need to overcome and that life has as many challenges as what it has happy events. We also eventually accept that women are most definitely from venus and men from mars and that nothing is going to happen to make that any different. It is a time to let go of childhood dreams and fantasies of happy ever afters. I found the reality of all this very hard to bear and I had a very sad and sore heart for a while back there. I had to take on a whole new set of values and turn my life around using what I had learnt in a positive way without becoming bitter and cynical. All in all, it was a big turning point for me.
It was also during this time, however, that I learnt more about myself and the strengths that I had, than any other period in my life. I learnt to be self-sufficient and self-reliant and not to expect too much from others, but to give unconditionally at the same time. I learnt to be responsible and answerable for myself and to let everyone else take care of their own lives and decisions. I followed my heart and went to college and completed my fashion design course. So, in many ways, it was also the decade in which I had the most growth. I don't think I would have been able to achieve what I had - and still do achieve - had I not had to endure the struggle and the hardship. For this, I need to be grateful and count my blessings.
I am now 54 years old and I feel I have had a life with so many blessings, a loving relationship which has matured and strengthened, a career that I am passionate about, and last but not least, a loving daughter and three of the most precious grandchildren I could ever have wished for. My life could not be more blessed. One never knows what is around the next corner and where one's life will lead. We have to believe that anything is possible and go forward with a positive attitude. We also need to live in the moment and cherish what we have in our lives and remember to count our blessings everyday.
God bless and big hugs to you all,
Jeanette
(Another long blog I am sure, but I figure it's okay because I haven't posted a long blog for a while now... lol)
Great blog girl... seems when it rains it always pours and the one thing I promised to never openly say anymore is " It cant get any worse then this" cause when ever I said those words, it did.... so having to laugh about it all is what got me through it cause if I didnt find the humor in it somehow, I was doomed. Sometimes life likes to chew us up and spit us out.... it's what it feels like. But yeah we get through it, and we fight change. I almost think it's just human nature to fight change when there's nothing wrong with how things are to begin with. Yet once we make that change we realize how wonderful it is and cant imagine going back to what use to be. Funny !!! Anyway... new beginnings are a wonderful thing, and the honoring of letting go by doing a physical act is something that I think I need to try as I dont think I have ever done that so thank you :)
I hope things get better for you girl..... as they say .... " Face the sunshine and leave the shadows behind you"
Hugs n Laughs
Atmos
Ah this past week has been a ride for many of us! The energy that rose up to meet the Full Pull of the moon was most unsettling and difficult for so many. It was one of those Fulls when one opened the drapes to regard the beauty of Luna and then screeched AK! and closed the drapes again. There was major ick out there! We march through Mercury Retrograde, and we're slogging now.
And as ever, you so eloquently turn your personal experience and struggles into beautiful stories that help so many people. Thank you for that. I have learned so much from you, and so many doors have opened since I first saw that crazy Brit with the wild hair on telly.
Take a nap... snuggle in... because next week, Girl, you are going to be at ICDI in San Diego, and it is going to be wild!
Beautiful xxx Big hug :)
BTW...Yesterday I went to bed early but I had turned the T.V. on and it was the movie "Shrek" and the part that it was on was where Shrek was telling donkey ... " Ogres are like onions, they have lots of layers " hahaha... I had to laugh when I clicked onto your blog and saw your title... lol..
Anyway.. hugs girlie
Atmos
Aw (((Lisa))) You know sometimes you just have to SCREAM on top of your lungs in your car with some crazy ass loud music playing in the background ... I usually curse like a sailor and I am sure it is not a pretty picture, but it really helps. Ha, ha If anything, I hope this makes you smile. Sometimes the shit comes pouring in and you just go What the is going on? Enough man! ... Oh the tests seem to get harder in life as we evolve... I hate those pop quizzes and frankly they suck in the moment and somehow later we see the reasons and I will still say they suck...:). Sorry you are going through this and just take comfort in knowing this will pass as it always does. It often feels like this big endless tidal wave that is coming our way and no where to hide. I think the key is giving up the control and allowing it flow in and out. It is when we push against the tide and try to control it do we get slammed with more agressive waves. By the way, life is like an onion and personally when I peel onions they make me cry :). Stay strong my friend and all will be better and brighter.
Sending lots of love and light,
DS
Hello :)
It takes so much learning to get to where you are, bless you for
all that you've accomplished and how you've grown when it comes to your personal challenges. I personally believe that you grow so much from hardship and your compassion towards others strengthens. The harder the challenge the stronger you get at the end of it. I have read your blogs and my heart has gone out to you.. thank you for sharing your journey I really value you share and are open with us. Thank you.
Bonjour Lisa,
By your blog, you just gave me an idea about making a Voodoo doll of Marc-André Fleury ..the Pittsburg hockey Goaltender…Montréal’s lost last night because he was TOO GOOD..
You surely do follow Hockey don’t you?? LOL!!
If i can bring you a Smile with dat little joke..
Then you make my day!
Take care ;0)
Hello Lisa,
I'm so sorry that you had to go through a hard time, even though you can deal with it in a better way, it's is never easy...
To tell the truth I had the exact same thoughts these days about someone playing with me because even though we keep being strong when life is tougher, when a certain scheme repeats over, there is a moment when we start thinking "Ok that's enough now" And honestly, even if I try to understand, sometimes I don't.
And then I realised that is because I saw the half empty glass instead of seeing it half full. I have many things that I should be grateful for in my life and in fact it's also a question of how you look at things.
Take good care of you,,
Lots of love ;-)
Lise
Hi my love,
Once again, thanks for your wonderful blog. As always you hit home every time I read your blogs.
How true-life is like an onion which we have to constantly peel back to get at what is important in this life.
You have come a long way my friend this past week with all that has been on your plate. I want to thank you for being able to share with us all that you did and all that you went through.
o know that you ar loved so much my friend. I will see you next week in San Diego.
In the meantime my love, try and take some time for yourself and unwind and relax if you can.
Love always,
Mary
Hello Lisa! Hugs from Finland. Take care :)
Sending you & all of us energy for some laugh out loud moments, joy & belonging.
Much Love,
Andrea
As I've said before, Lisa, your growth in wisdom correlates with the teaching and traveling you've been doing. Much intense spiritual growth. Thus, you have learned a critical skill when dealing with difficult times. To know joy. To be in the moment. To grieve when it's time to grieve. To laugh when it's time to laugh.
It's all so beautiful. I've done the 'act' of disentanglement a few times during difficult experiences and found that release incredible.
"To every time, there is a season and a purpose to everything under heaven." paraphrased from Ecclesiastes, I think.
I really need to and hope to get a chance to listen to you in Sweden one day. Not far from U.K you know :)
For Mother's Day in Australia - For all of you Mums
To watch a baby being born
Is such a precious moment rare;
To watch them grow -
To see them smile,
Brings so much joy we both then share.
These early years past just so fast
That very soon my child’s a teen;
I’ve heard them laugh,
I’ve heard them scream,
I’ve watched them sleeping as they dream.
But now they’re grown and don’t need me
And I am left alone to pine;
I’ve washed their clothes
And combed their hair,
So how do I now spend my time?
This Mother’s Day is such a treat
To spend this time with family;
We share our love -
We share our thoughts
And treasure all our memories!
Susanna
You sure are an inspiration Lisa, I only learned of you this evening and I watched 10 videos on youtube. You sure have been blessed with gifts. You make me smile. Lisa, I was wondering if you have any advise for me.. I have worked on being positive for 7 years now, I have a son with autism and I have been diagnosed symtomatically with MS by 7 doctors, people always think I have it together when in fact I feel like I want so much more in life. My question is related to what you have written above, what if you don't know what is bothering you?? I have read books on focusing, the power of positve thinking etc... and I am thankful for life itself! I find I can be having a great day and without anything going wrong I start to get down, this is not always but it happens enough for me to question it.
Thanks and keep up the awesome work!! You are preparing for the New Age, you are fortunate to have been choosen.