Be secure in who you are
Saturday, May 15, 2010 at 03:29AM Again another inspirational moment in the middle of the night... what is going on here!! haha
I have been thinking about this topic for a while and it's something that I have looked at myself and we all have to deal with. I spoke about it today at the ICDI in my workshop on mediumship.
EGO... I don't like the 'word' itself anyway, but it's something we all have. An ego but it's how we use it and deal with it and it's knowing when to push it aside.
The ego is something we all have, whether we like it or not and in many cases it's essential to have too, as it can actually believe it or not, help us with confidence and other areas in life as if we start to say something enough we start to manifest it into our lives.
There are many times we may look in the mirror and say, "I look good today" or something like that, and when the ego is there in that capacity, then it's being used in a great and positive way. But if we keep those thoughts to our self or don't boast about it to the world then we are keeping our ego in check.
However there are times that the ego can be used like this and it can be used over board and sometimes its a sign of insecurity and I see this all the time, and even though this is a sign of insecurity it can also be a turn off to some people and it can have a negative effect. For instance, I heard recently someone say, "It's amazing I'm still single, I'm just SO good looking" and they laughed.
Now I know that there is an underlying message here, which screams, 'what is wrong with me I'm still single' but this is an example of how the ego came forward and it sounded very 'big headed' especially to those around, and I noticed a few eyes roll... but for me the ego protected the insecurity that is within.
There are many reasons why the ego comes forward, and often it's ugly and when it happens people stop and do a quick... thought of 'Oh no they didn't say that' and then it sometimes can have a negative effect. But what we have to understand is that the ego hides so many other things.
Jealousy, fear, envy, insecurity these are only a few but it just goes to show that there is always an underlying message.
I get a lot of people say to me, that I don't have an ego with my work, (and actually me just saying that is an example of how our ego is there), and with that they ask am I ever worried or do I compete with other mediums. Well actually if we look at it realistically, there is always no matter who you are, there is always a little thought in your head and a worry such as 'am I as good as....' or 'I wish I could do...' and that is because you are only human, but you have to keep these thoughts to yourself or close friends who will not judge you. But for me, when it comes to this work, I always say, No I'm not worried about anyone else, as there is enough dead people to go around and that actually its getting the message out into the world and as long as it's helping who cares who is doing it, because it benefits everyone.
Jealousy is very much displayed with our ego and it's something that I sadly see all the time, and it's knowing not to react to this especially if its you that this jealousy is aimed at. You have to rise above it and not allow it to eat away at you. There is no point because what is the use of reacting to someone else's ego, that is just your ego then coming out as a display of protection.
I suppose what I am trying to explain is that it's about being comfortable with who you are, secure in being the person that you are. Knowing that you are a good person and that you are going through life in the right way and that you want to do the best. It's about being humble and embracing that we are who we are and we are on a pathway and it's the right pathway for us, as we chose this before we came here. So there is no reason to display the ego in a negative manner, its just not worth it.
It's not about being the best, its not about competition, it's not about anything like that, its just about accepting who we are and being ok with it. When I teach it's something i have to explain to people, move the ego aside, because actually your ego will eventually hinder your ability in some aspect.
Be secure in who you are, know that you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, and know that you are in the right place at the right time in your life, right now.
Much love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (33)
Thanks for another great message hun... Now get some much deserved rest!... Hope you sleep well... xxxx
thanks lisa , and yes i do have a huge ego . and im working on it
Bonjour Lisa,
The Ego often reflects our personality, and what i think is important is when our Ego express unbalanced positive or negative aspects of the personality.
if we are able to notice it by ourself it's great.. and if we have some ''blind spots'' that's when friends come to our rescue...Friends will say what has to be change in our way to be.
have a good weekend ;0)
Thanx
Hey Lisa, '
Just popping in to say hello, looking forward to seeing you in sunny Queensland in a few weeks.
Lara Haidary
Gosh my ego can be a pain in the arse at times.lol Thanks for the blog now go and get some rest. Hugs Racca xoxoxo
Thanks for this post this msg really spoke to me, im doing my first dem tomorrow and im relatively new to mediumship. I keep thinking oh no what if i make a fool of myself (EGO!!), what if the other more experienced ones think im rushing to get out there with my name (EGO!!), but the simple truth is that the opportunity came up and i said yes. Its not about me looking good or doing a good job, its all about me serving spirit and doing the best with my ability that i can in order they get their messages across to those that need it.
Thanks for the reminder and the statement that we are exactly where we are supposed to be reminds me that if i wasn't suppsed to do the dem it wouldnt have been presented to me :)
You've just made me feel a ton better! x
Dear Lisa,
For me, the biggie is insecurity. I think a lot of our insecurity and issues come from childhood experiences and how we were related to with regard to our siblings and the experiences we lived through with being teenagers and how we related to our peers and how they, in turn, related to us. On the other hand, as you say, we choose our parents and our paths so obviously we need to learn lessons and strive to overcome our own personal hurdles. In learning more and more about our soul lessons, I am learning what my personal vices are that I need to win the battle with and I feel I am slowly overcoming my issues. I read an interesting titbit... that if we don't overcome this lifetime's vices, we carry them over to the next life, and then have double trouble to deal with... not a good idea!! I feel blessed that I have been given the insight and the knowledge to realise what life is about and am striving towards knowing what is important in life. I am working really hard at accepting and loving myself as I am and accepting and loving everyone else as well.... it feels good.
Another profound blog which gives us something to think about and learn from.
Hugs and blessings,
Jeanette
This is exactly what I'm trying to teach people on my blog...
Everything is in the right place, right now. Ego is like "mental" we have to deal with it, it can be helpfull sometimes, but It don't have to rule our world...
Thanks Lisa...
I knew I was on the right path, but now, I know it twice ;)
(May spiritual guide Raymond, woke me up this night to read your post... Humpffff !)
Love and Light <3
By the way Lisa.... what are you doing up at 3.30 in the morning? You should be getting your beauty sleep.
Sweet dreams,
Jeanette
Great blog again Lisa. It's so interesting indeed... the ego, what a subject... What you said is really important and it really helps... So thank you again Lisa ;-)
Much love,
Lise
You're such an inspiration to me and my family!
Keep up the good work.
Love from Norway!
Hi Lisa,
...Ego...What a big and important subject! This ego of mine used to take so much place in my life - I say used to - because I have been working on this a lot these past months. And as you say, for me it was because of my my insecurity, my inferiority complex, my perfectionism, my fear of being judged by others...etc...And I used to feel so bad inside because of that big EGO. Since my daughter's suicide in 2005, I have changed drastically of course - not at all the person I used to be - all my values have changed and with it, my EGO has become a little smaller. At least, now when it is there, I feel it right away and I ask my angels and my daughter to help me put it aside in order to do what I am supposed to to with no interference. And I feel so much better. But I felt it VERY PRESENT yesterday - liked the feeling at first, but then, after a few minutes, when I realised I was walking on a pink cloud, I pushed it aside and I felt better.
Thanks Lisa for your good topics.
Love
xxx
Bonjours Lisa je suis du québec et je voulais te dire tu est merveilleuse tu fais partie de ma vie car je t'écoute religieusement moi je perdu une personne que j'aimais beaucoup et je me pose beaucoup de question tu sais je suis loin de toi car j'aurais aimé te rencontré pour que tu puise répondre a mais question mais comme je suis du quebec au canada tu est inaccessible je veux te dire merci beaucoup de vouloir aidé le monde comme tu fais et apaiser les souffrance et donner une raison de continuer leur chemin que dieu te bénisse et qu'il puise te faire continuer de mettre de la vie dans des coeur briser merci je t'aime et continue longue vie a ton émission je ne veut pas te perdre au plaisir micheline xx
Lisa, you were amazing in your group session today- i watched on PPV. I wanted to tell you what happened as I watched. Yes there was a blip in the taping, but as I watched I felt a huge energy spike coming from the connection you made with the two ladies and their colorful mum. The tape froze on the word " thank" as you spoke "thank you for keeping the family together" and on my telly the sound repeated over and over until it was simply- a heartbeat, very clearly, a repeating heartbeat. SUPER powerful.
Hello Lisa! Again, lots to think about.... Hugs from Finland! :)
I always read your blog.
You often give me messages that I need!
Thank you so much!!
Dear Lisa
Thank you for this interesting and useful post.
We need to retain some ego, and also need to develop our self-esteem. For some people, they are totally lacking in self-esteem and need to develop a little ego.
There is a fine line sometimes between pride and humility, and we need to radiate the true self-confidence of the self-esteem we have without fearing that others will react negatively.
A wonderfully thought-provoking post as usual!
Lots of Love
Lana
Hi Lisa,
You never cease to amaze me! You do so much and then do more! Yes please get some rest!
Thank you so much though (which is an understatement!) I am only a new member and new to all of this. However in such a short time I have learnt soooooooo much.
You are a very talented and intelligent Lady. I love reading all that you have to say and you have a great way of helping us understand it in our everyday lives.You are an acceptional woman and thats why among so many other reasons you are very loved!
I have been watching your live shows and I adore them. You are sooo funny full of energy and I have laughed and cried with all on the show. You are just so inspirational and I thank you for helping me on this journey.
However you really need to be kind to yourself as I am sure like all your members we love to have your love and support, inspiration and guidance but certainly not at your expense! I know I respect you do have a life and a family and who need you. So please get some rest FIRST! GOD BLESS YOU! We will always be here anxiously awaiting your support!
I know I want your continued support but not at your expense! So please, please Be Kind to yourself Beautiful Lady!
I am sooooo excited I joined your site i am having so much fun! Sorry, but you won't be rid of me for a long time, that's it your stuck with me LOL!. I am even trying to re-cruit my friends!
Love to you and your loved ones and please have safe travels while your touring!
Love from Australia!
WOWWWWWWWWWW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THIS is a topic that I deal with.
This helps a lot Lisa. It's hard to discern how to move around this force and understand when it is destructive, when positive.. and how to accept and work with it.
Thank you.
That is amazing Lisa, I really needed to read this today! Thank you so much, it has been a huge help in making me understand what is going on in my life right now. You have the most fantastic way of explaining things.
Thanks again :-)
Lots of love x
Hey there Lisa,
Another thought-provoking blog. This blog is great and has me thinking. Oh, I find the EGO when abused can be a toxic waste dump. There truly is a careful balance as with everything in life. Look I would be lying if I said I never had an ego. In some ways, my ego helped me survive adversity and in other ways my ego went too far and it needed to be knocked down a few times. What I find and I can only speak for myself, is sometimes it takes a major life changing event to humble a person and help them see from their soul, the spirit we truly are in our human costume. So when I say life-changing, I mean something that brings one to their knees praying and appreciating all they have in life. The ego is an illusion and we all get deceived by its ugliness that I feel is just another form of suffering here on earth. Well, that is my humble opinion... :)
Love and Hugs,
DS
Such a good blogpost, as ever, Lisa. I think a particularly well made point is that of life work not being a competition, as - in the case of your industry - there are enough dead people to go around!
I think that's true in most if not all instances. Absolutely. I think it was Louise Hay (all praise Louise Hay!) who got on stage and said something about - my paraphrase - 'we are all going to be basically saying the same thing here, but each of us in a slightly different way. And some people will like some of our styles, and some others. And some people will say oh I don't care for that one, and then omg I've never heard that before, never mind the previous four speakers said essentially the same thing'.
Because I think we are each of us teaching about Love. Whether it is you teaching about love from the spirit world, or me teaching about love in keeping house and creating sacred space, or Robert Holden - bless him - teaching us about happiness, or Gregg Braden teaching us about astronomical cycles and era changes. It's all about Love. And how to grab and hold on to Love, rather than the less evolutionary things one might be tempted at times to hold on to.
Krishna Das - the chants we did this weekend - all about love.
It's all about love. Ego must perforce be, at times, the opposite of Love.
And yet we need Ego to get out of bed in the morning and go fend for ourselves in the world. Yin. Yang.
Please don't attempt to diagram any of these sentences! I am not editing them ! Ha!
Good post Lisa..ego vs negative ego. And yes ..it's something we all share and all work on in various ways. All the ego should do is report what is. If the message or the feelings are negative or make me feel "less than" or "better than" .. well it's up to me to realize those messages and clean them up. A life long task....
:o) Love & Hugs!
Hi Lisa, I wanted to let you know what a great experience it was for me at the ICDI show. I was there Thursday nite and Fridays workshop. I have seen you working before, but now understanding a little more about what is do has made the experience even greater. I can't tell you how wonderful it was to be there watching your reading of the woman who had recently lost her husband. You were asking for anyone who had something to do with "red balloons". She didn't respond at first then finally raised her hand.The kindness in the way that you relayed the message to her from her husband was beautiful. It meant so much to her and was the reason she was in San Diego.I could feel the love that you were sending to her,I think we all could. Thank you for the experience. Tina