time to break the cycle!
Thursday, May 13, 2010 at 03:17AM Yes it's late and I am here in San Diego ready for the I can do it (ICDI) conference with hayhouse. I really should be sleeping but there are some times that you just can't because there is a conversation that goes through your head, and that is how I feel now, and i felt compelled to share it with you and it is too long a message to twitter it or Facebook this.
It's amazing how things come to you and normally they do for me when it's silly oclock in the morning!!! ha ha ha
Anyway the conversation was about our comfort zone and the circles that we all repeat in life with many things. Relationships, work, family etc.
What we find is that there are times that we constantly repeat patterns and then when we look back at them, we ask ourselves, why??? Yes why do we do that???
And then when we find our selves back there its familiar. For instance, if you have been in a relationship with someone and then you leave them and then you find that you attracting a type of person, or people in to your life who are similar to who you have just moved on from. And there are times that we are happy with that, but we know it's wrong, but we do it because it's familiar. It's a comfort zone, it's what we are used too and it's because we know that situation and we know how to act.
It's almost like a survival mechanisum that goes off inside of us. Maybe it's a lesson that we have to learn in life that we were given before we came to the earth, who knows, and that is something we will only see when we pass over, we will see it in our contract, but somehow we have to break the pattern.
The cycle isn't healthy, we have to move on. There are times that even though you have to move away from the destructive pattern you don't want to. Again because it's familiar.
So if you can't step out of your comfort zone and make changes and really look at your life and stop the cycles that are happening, start small.
Make small changes in your life so that you can get yourself ready for the bigger changes that sometimes have to be made. Change your local coffee shop, change the supermarket you buy from, change your route to work. These are small changes that will have an impact. Change the familiarity about your life and start a fresh.
It's interesting when you look at it this way and when you think about the situations in life that you find yourself in how comfortable being familiar is, but it's not always right and not always freeing for your soul.
Its about exploration and knowing what is right for you. Be true to who you are and do not allow others to dictate to you about who you are... you are you, you are free, and you have the right to change and break cycles!
Not sure where the inspiration came from for this, but I felt strongly that I needed to share it. So I thank spirit for giving me this and hopefully I can sleep the rest of the night peacefully without any more inspiration, or that they will at least wait until the morning!!! hahaha
Goodnight all and have a beautiful day!
Lisa xxx
Reader Comments (38)
Hi Lisa,
It's late here too.
At the moment you are going through a deep emotional change - a metamorphosis that will take sometime to fully complete. You give so much of your energy to others, and you leave yourself short. Sometimes you have to stop the roundabout and get off to have a good look at the bigger picture, rather than going round in circles. Trust those you know you can,and don't be in too much of a hurry to find what you think you're searching for. (You'll know when you're there!)
Our lives are like
A carousel;
We take the ride
And keep on turning,
Round and round,
Until we find
The perfect partner.
We may get off
To find our love,
But make mistakes
And keep on going
Round and round
Until we find
What we think we want.
Are we happy
On this ride,
Or have we made
The same mistake
Time after time;
Or do we fall
For more of the same?
We must be strong
And trust our horse!
He knows just when
It’s time to ride
Around and round
Until he spots
Our perfect partner!
Sit back and enjoy the ride!
Susanna
As always, the universe knows when we are to receive information, whether it seems a good time for us or not. It is time. Again, perfect timing. This reminder is something I've been pondering over the last week.
Thank you for being the confirming messenger! I needed this!
All the best!
Thank you! This was a very timely post for me.
Lisa:
You are such a creative person...one that thrives on change, and that is great. I'm such a creature of habit, it is awful!!! : ) I do everything on a schedule...I need to shake things up and do things differently and live on the edge a little. Thanks for the inspiration.
Sue
Your life is going to change now Lisa!!!
much Love Sina
You're a good coach Lisa..;0)
I've said already that you make smart posts..and this one is very important about the fact to start breaking the destructive patterns...with Small Steps.
Well said .. ;0)
How can we TRULY discover ourselves? ...by going on Undiscovered grounds ..and this means to get rid of, of ALL our Fears in Life..
By doing Small Steps ..a New Journey Begins..
;0)
Friendly yours from the East Coast
P.s : you surprised me with a second consecutive post.. ;0)
How funny.... cause this hits me and like so many I know right about now. I agree that we attract that famiiliarity to what we are use to, the people that are similiar to us etc... and no it isnt always healthy for whatever reason.... and it could just be a feeling we get inside of us that we sense but push to the side. This does hit me cause I have been wanting to let go.... of a few things and people in my life. It's so hard to do. Yet I know for me it's the right thing to do even though I dont understand it and theres not always a reason for it other then I FEEL it. Sometimes there really doesnt have to be a reason... other then just knowing its time to let go. The actual doing it is hard cause of the emotions and hurt, and the unknown of what your future then holds, but in the end it is freeing.... and we dont always understand the stress level were in til AFTER we are away from it then we can really look at it for what it was cause when your in the midst of it all, it's hard to see outside the box. This is a really good blog as well for the ones in abusive relationships.... cause WOW the excuses we put in our heads to stay.... yet when your away from it all, you realize just how stressful and scary the situation was that you lived with and only cause it was something you were use to. I say this cause of my own PAST experiences in other relationships. And what is sad is ... as time goes by we look at the relationships we were in and managed to walk away from and we think to ourselves... what the heck was I thinking.......... but only to be in a very similar one all over again..... crazy !!!! This is where that whole saying " Only you can make yourself truly happy" speaks volumns..... If we could live by that and believe that, it wouldnt be so difficult to let go of the comfort zones we put ourselves in in relationships...it wouldnt be as hard to walk away from others when it needs to be done. But its human nature sometimes to rely on others for something... and that is the part I personally need to see and grow out of. The more dependant we become on others for our own happiness, the less happy we truly are.
Atmos
Thanks Lisa, it is exactly what I needed to hear right now... I was at a loss as to how I could create the change in the patterns that I have created in my relationships. I have also been thinking of starting afresh. Thanks again for this early morning blog! It makes me more excited about coming to the workshop on the Gold Coast, Austraila in June.
much love and sweet dreams xo
That 'silly time of night' captures it all, when our soul calls out and Spirit answers. Absolutely inspired, Lisa. And wise.
Time is not linear, but cyclic, and to become aware of patterns repeated, habits ingrained, attitudes reinforced, hearts hardened, this is a true blessing for all of us. Breakthrough time.
If you like the Doors, take a listen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dLAv0Nkltg
'Break On Through'. A little raucous for morning, but it fits!
Thank you Lisa!! All week I have been asking myself, why, why, why? And now your post helps to reinforce why. Thank you and the spirit that came to you :-) Now, I can move on....
Much love,
Sunshine
OMG Lisa...You not only just freaked me out... I am beyond freaked out if there is an expression for that...LOL. I don't believe in coincidence and it is truly amazing how your message not just relates but is so precisely in sync with something I was just asking Spirit for guidance on just about 2 hours ago. What are the chances? Now I know that this message was not specifically for me and many others will be able to take something from it, but the timing of it just boggles my mind. Sorry... back to earth here... LOL. Seriously, I woke up abruptly from my sleep at like 2am - 3:30am ET and I just could not sleep ... my mind was racing about this and that. When this happens, I have to quiet my mind to figure out what heck is bothering me or I try to tune into the surrounding energy near me to figure out what they may want. I felt like I was hungover without even drinking... it was truly an uncomfortable feeling and I was feeling uneasy. So although no immediate answers came to me in the early hours of the morning, on my train ride to work this morning, things became very clear and I cannot ignore the powerful message and now your blog just really put it into this stubborn head of mine ha, ha. It was like a tape recorder going off in my head the whole ride into work... like a nagging mother :). All I kept hearing is you have to change and break the patterns that you have grown accustomed to that are preventing your growth. You and only you have the power to control these things that need tweaking. I will not get into them here because it is personal, but I am aware of how I have been playing it safe when in the past I was quite the opposiite. Also, I know that I tend to stay in the comfort zone specifically at work and my social life. So I was thinking of ways of making changes and this sometimes brings on panic attacks for me which I have had my whole life but are back with a twist...I am sure hormones and changes just spiral this shit out of control...gotta love being a woman ha, ha. Now here I am on a crowded train with no where to run or hide taking deep breaths to calm my nerves down and I literally asked Spirit for help in my head...not out loud of course or they would cart me away. :) I said ... I surrender and relinquish all control... I will do what it takes to get to where I need to go, but give me a direct clear sign and some guidance. I promise to listen and actively work on whatever changes are needed to move forward. I will do the work, but I really can use your assistance.
Anyway, sorry you had to lose sleep, but thank you for posting your message here and not on FB or Twitter which I am not currently on. :)
Have a blast at the ICDI conference. One of these days, I will make that trip and enjoy the being part of a great thing.
Love and Hugs,
DS
Thanks for the message chick... xxxx
SO True Lisa! I don't know how many times I dated and engaged the same guy and it was so familiar and comfortable but it never worked. I see teens do that and it really is important to try and make them see that at a young age so they aren't doing it in their 20s and 30s. Great idea for trying new supermarkets and stuff not ont only for your reasons but because life gets boring doing the same groceries every week. It's new if we go to a different store. Thanks! Love, Coll
Thank you Lisa I really needed to see that! Much love xoxox
It is very interesting that you should talk about breaking cycles.... I am currently reading Dr Brian Weiss's Many Lives Many Masters, and it is amazing that we actually reincarnate and connect with the same people over and over again even if they are not good for us and have done us harm... weird!! Why do we do that I wonder? Maybe it is to balance karma from both points of view. Lisa, I also noticed that both of the main partners in your life were Librans, although at the opposite ends of the relevant Libran time period... another interesting factor to think about!
Anyway, one of the things that I have read from the above-mentioned book, that I actually would not have thought to do, is to connect with people whose vibrations are not the same as yours. To quote from one of the master spirit's words... "We also must learn not to just go to those people whose vibrations are the same as ours. It is normal to feel drawn to somebody who is on the same level that you are. But this is wrong. You must also go to those people whose vibrations are wrong with yours. This is the importance... in helping these people".
I have been giving this some thought and remember previously reading about star signs, and that air and fire signs get on, as do water and earth, but that the challenge is to get on with ALL the star signs and when you learn to do that you have achieved what you need to. I guess, both messages are trying to teach us the same thing... to get out of comfort zones and achieve over and beyond what comes naturally.
Another thought-provoking blog Lisa.
Blessings and hugs to you and Charlie. Please always remember what an awesome human being you are and how many people's lives you make a difference to.
Jeanette
Hi Jeanette,
I just read your post and find that extremely interesting... connecting with people that do not vibe with our own energy. Wow... never thought of it that way. That is a really good topic and thanks for bringing it up. That is food for thought...
Hugs,
DS
Hi Dream,
I agree with you, I have also been thinking about that and it is very thought-provoking. When one thinks about it, it also makes sense, that it is a challenge that we have to learn to overcome, to break through the barriers and learn to get on with people that we find it difficult to get on with. It seems as though life is packed with loads of lessons... fascinating stuff!!
Hugs to you,
Jeanette
Hi Lisa.
I often see your shows on a norwegian tv-channel, and I love them. You have such a gift - and I sit back thinking of many things. But after this show I went to your web-page, reading about what we do, how we often fall back with the same kind of people just because it's welknown. That's true. But after this little springweekend I try taking another route to job, just to make a little change. Think somebody else have to make the morningcoffee for us there on tuesday, but I won't be late for work, just another way.
Have a nice day;) Kindly regards Bjørg from Norway.
I really hope you'll come to Norway some day.
Thank You so much Lisa for your existens and that you giving so many people so much. You are an inspirator. A light in the dark for many many people around the world.
I`m from Norway and seen your shows in tv and I also really hope you will come to Norway some day :-)))
I really needed to hear this .:: " Its about exploration and knowing what is right for you. Be true to who you are and do not allow others to dictate to you about who you are... you are you, you are free, and you have the right to change and break cycles!"
So, Thank you very much Lisa :-)
Love and light
Ingrid
Have a beautiful too Lisa.. thank you for your words :)
Hello Lisa,
Thank you for another great blog.
You also have a beautiful day.
Watch out for those that you feel a "chemistry" for....though we have been taught it's magic and exciting it's usually those that hold our old comfortable dysfunctional patterns of life and love. Like a moth to the flame... POOF! ;o)
Much Love & Hugs,
Andrea
Hi Lisa, wow I needed to hear this today, how did you know :) I miss seeing you it's been awhile..It was a nice surprise to catch your interview on fb, thanks, you look great too....Have a great time at the conference with all your friends..Some day hubby & I are gonna catch ya on the west cost for a show...Safe travels sweetie...Love you bunches, big hugs..........mauder
Great post. And good validation for some breakthroughs I'm having this week. Thank you!
See you in a few hours (!)
Hello Lisa! I really needed to read that. Thanks and hugs from Finland! :)