Following your dreams
Tuesday, March 9, 2010 at 12:17AM As we go through life we start to learn lessons that we have to learn and we also mould ourselves to people, friends, family, partners in life. This is something that we naturally do, and I was only talking about this today with a friend of mine. It's interesting because sometimes we notice that we have done it, and it could be because someone pointed it out, or that something sparked off some thoughts that way, and it could even be this post that has gotten you thinking.
The one thing you can guarantee about some of these blogs is that it pushes buttons within you and makes you think... and that is what I love about it.
So I was thinking about how we conform to society because of what we have been bought up to believe or we have been told to act in a certain way by those who have influenced us. But as we get older it's important to be open to follow our own thoughts and feelings and create these opinions our self. Because it's part of our identity.
We can of course become wrapped up in the emotion of life and that is great and still be influenced but we still need to be us... and with that we still need to follow our dreams, and our desires. This is so important for feeling fulfilled. I see so many people who have put their life on hold because of a situation or they don't follow their dream because a partner in their life doesn't approve. Now of course I understand that there are times its hard to stay true to yourself. However there are ways of keeping that dream alive within you. For instance, if you are an artist and you always dreamed of becoming an artist and having your work in a gallery, do not give up on your gift, don't keep it hidden, it's part of you. Even if you just doodle on a piece of paper or get a book where you can find quiet time to draw... you are still keeping that passion alive.
We all have dreams and aspirations. I love singing. I'm not going to be a singer out there in the world, but there is no harm for me to sit at the piano and play and sing until my heart is content... it's keeping the passion within you.
What you have to understand is that when someone falls in love with us, they fall in love with who we are, and everything about us, but the thing is we change and sometimes we lose our identity... but what you have to realize is that we have to stay ourselves and stay the person that they fell in love with. Yes we all change but the underlying factor is we are who we are on a soul level... and that is what we have to stay true too, Ourselves on a soul level! So follow your dreams, keep them alive, they are the passion that drives us, and most of all believe in yourself!
Big hugs and love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (42)
Another awesome blog that really hit home! Thanks Lisa, you're the best. Thank you SO much. Hope all is well with you! xxx
I love it! Ourselves on a soul level!
But...
We often do try to be someone else and if we met our partner at that time it gets harder. Right? I mean when we start to be true towards ourself they maybe dont like us enymore. Sometimes that fact even can stop us from being ourselves on a soul level..
Thanks so much for this message I love to read you saying ' follow our dream' ' keep it alive' and ' believe in ourselves' as we getting older. it is getting harder to do so even if we get more independent. recently, I have been thinking about myself a lot, meaning questioning about things what I have been doing for myself and what I want to do as wife and mother and myself, and its been not easy to find the simple answers and almost I feel I have been doing everything wrong. I will keep repeating those sentences and hopefully I can find my clear pass way to my bright future ;-) Many thanks, goldfish xx
Hello Lisa,
Well, I so agree with you... I think about my dream to come and teach in the USA and I will do everything to realise it but I am always afraid to have an obstacle just before going, like meeting a man or money or anything. But you are SO right,we should not forget what we want so much... I have a great friend Lirit who pushes me all the time to make my dreams come true and she says that I should not wake up when I'm old and have regrets because it's too much frustration..
So it's true, we should all listen to our true self, our hearts and make it happen... ;-))
Thank you for these thoughts Lisa ;-)
Much love,
Lise
everything you write lately is so deep and has such an amazing impact i look forward to your blog, you are going threw so much and yet you still have inspiration for people who are listening. i hope you are ok and i read for you before and i would read 4 you now any time you needed, i know you could have a reading off any1 but ther is my offer, you read 4 me so many times i would love to return the favour. take care.xxxxxxxxxxxxx maria from redditch
Thanks for the blog Lisa!... I have been battling this and struggling with this a lot a lot a lot lately.... What *I* finally want to do for myself vs. continuing to put my life on hold for others... it's so difficult... and I feel guilty for even thinking about doing things for myself... anyway, I won't get all crazy into it here... Lots to think about. Hope you are well!
Hugs and Love xoxo
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Ty Lisa for another thought provoking blog. It's always difficult i think to follow your dreams and path. To not conform is probably the hardest thing for anyone to deal with in life. When you're married and have kids there's always compromise and balance. Balance is key though. Just as we have dreams to follow , we have to be willing to let others follow there's. I'm grateful that my family supports mine. Not conforming is another battle. As you know there's a great deal of religious people who feel that anything other than their church or denomination is evil. Psychics, mediums, tarot, crystals, even yoga are demonic. I grew up being influenced by this and breaking free is no easy task ;[. i'm so happy to have seen the light!! Sorry for getting long and heavy,but you opened the can of worms! peace to all ;0
Hey Lisa....just when I was about to put the paint brushes away....I read your blog and I now realize that I paint for 'me' not always for everyone else...if they want to buy a painting or if I want to give one away - that's fine. Some people copied my style of art and theirs sold for quite a bit of money and I was so very cross - swore I would never bother again....but I know that my art is peaceful and serene and that they are my angels and spirits coming through and that means more to me than making money.
I gave you one of my posters back in december and you was so pleased with it. I shall keep that in my heart and carry on with my passion!
Blessings
Debra
Hi Lisa
You are so right, that we need to follow our dream's and keep them alive' and ' believe in ourselves' .
My dream last year was to play the Flute, so I tought myself how to play the Native American Flute, and I love it so much, that I then started to make the Native American Flutes. And I have no music back ground at all.
And as you know Lisa, you have one of the Native American Flutes that I have made. We need to believe in are self more, because we can do anything if we believe.
My New Deram is that I want to make an Native American Flute CD. and I have been working on it.
Many Blessings
Rev Dwayne
Needed this today...thanks Lisa!
Dreams... That core love that makes you connect to everything. Thank you for reminding us that people love us in that joy.
Dear Lisa,
I also really needed to hear this today. I get depressed at times because my hubby often doesn't seem to get where I am coming from or understand what is important to me. I get hurt to the core when he accuses me of something when it is one of the things I value most. I figure he does it specifically because he knows it will hurt me and that hurts me even more. I am forever reaching for perfection in my everyday life so that he will give me a nod of approval or just to get him to acknowledge that what I do in my day is significant. I know that I am special in my own way, I just get very hurt that he doesn't measure "success" with the same yardstick as I do. I am tired of trying to get him to see the spiritual side of things instead of just ploughing along in a businesslike fashion.
I guess this is one of my lessons in life... to believe in who I am without needing the approval of anyone else, and realising that God made me special in my own way, and that I don't owe anyone any explanations, and that I need to stay true to myself and my "soul" nature as you say.
Thank you for helping me see this more clearly... And God please grant me the patience to accept this man of mine and his non-existent understanding towards spirituality and enlightenment... lol... I actually love him dearly even with all the frustrations of him being clueless where the female species are concerned.
Hugs to all,
Jeanette
I don't know why I feel compelled to put this out there...I usually don't. This morning, while driving I said a prayer. I asked for help in finding what I should do to follow my spiritual calling in work. I also said that I don't know what to do because I find it hard to believe in myself. (I have been thinking of starting a career in nutrition and getting a online magazine started) Later this morning I was sitting in the parking lot after having an MRI done on my knee. I had this fleeing thought of how much I do things because I'm "supposed" to. I am so tired of that. I wanted a Starbucks so badly and of course a yummy muffin to go with it. My head kept saying no. My heart said Yes! I thought for once I'm going to do it just because "I want to". So here I am drinking my starbucks happily. I visited one of my favortie sites that gives you a weekly horoscope chosen by intuition/color. It completely related to the career choices I want to make. Then I had a strong urge to check Lisa's AMAZING site! The whole article seemed as if it could have been written for me. I know it is for many others too but it amazed me! Then I get to the last line about beleiving in yourself. My eyes filled with tears! I have followed Lisa for a long time and there are so many times that what she has to say really helps what I am going through. I have struggled for years at letting go. I am completely formed to society. Always hating it. I feel like this is my time to go out there and be ME. So I just want to say thank you to Lisa. I really don't know why I'm writing this for all to see but maybe something I said will push someone toward something they need. I love moments when things come together like a puzzle. I feel like this is the last piece to one of mine.
Love to everyone!
Hi my love,
i just lost everything that I had written, so this is going to be very short. Once again thank you for such an enlightning blog. How true-we have to believe in our dreams and esp. in ourselves even though its very hard a lot of time. But it can be done. Trust me on that one.
I hope all iswell with you and Charlie. Give him a big hug for me and also one for you my sweet friend.
love and hugs,
Mary
Ya know...this blog hits pretty much everyone I think. And it's so true that we conform ourselves to our partners etc.... In relationships it's so easy to lose yourself cause many times we find we are trying to please others and forget who we are as a person. I think relationships should all be a give take and that they should all be supportive of what the other does !!! I know I have had to give up myself for so long so that my husband could do for himself and us as a family. And of course there is that resentment that now that it's time for me to do for me, there is no time !!! Cause of kids, etc... However, I am learning that I can still do the things I love to do and that give me that inner peace and happiness. Only on a different level. Like Art :) I can still go and finish my schooling around my kids. Things come up but if we want it bad enough we will do it and not complain. ( I am a complainer ) !!!
Again it's all in how we look at things though. We want something bad enough, we are going to get it regardless the obstacles in our way.... we just might have to go about it a different way or it might take us a little longer, but it can happen and it will happen if we want it to.
I also truly beleive that even though we tend to lose our selves in relationships here and there, our true self is still there lurking.... we just need to bring it out of us. I think that is the part of the person that truly shines. It's not what we conformed ourselves to , not what society has made us feel or act, but that true inner part of us...the soul I guess.... we are all so unique and different in our own ways, that is the part that truly makes us special and makes us different. That is the part you never let go of cause that is truly who you are as a person. It would be great to have that shine through in everyone all the time !!! Can you imagine !!! Unfortunately life gets in the way.....things get in the way, people get in the way and it becomes hidden. And again I have to question if I am making any sense here or am i the only one understanding myself hahaha !!!! okay enough blabbing....
Great great blog.....
Atmos
Thanks Lis for the reminder! I cannot wait for the book, BTW:)
Hi! Lisa, and everyone,
I just came home from the hospital, last wensday night I felt suddenly realy weak, so weak that I had to lay down on my bed even thow I had a pile of clothing to fold. I had a realy bad dream that night, the devil was trying to push me down and I was screaming twice, screams so loud that my neighbor upstairs heard it, I could'nt defend myself. In the morning I was even weaker, so much that I could'nt move, I have brought my cell phone close to me, and was asking myself if I would call my daughter or sister but I was paralysed. I heard the fax machine, but could'nt move. My cell phone rang it was my sister. She was not supposed to call me because she had to go to work but call me the same, I could just pick the phone up and said I have to call the ambulance.... So I called 911 just to say that I have been in contact with the Angels all my life but even more these past months and it was them who told my sister to call me. At the hospital they said that I was dying, right there in my bed alone. Thanks to The Angels and my sister who is also open to them, not as much as I but the same. They could pass by her to save me. I thank the good God for our Angels.
Hey! I've reread my message, saw a few mistakes oopppss! please don't mind them. O.k!
When I saw you deliver your messages from the other side, on Lifetime. I cried every time, because of your pure loving energy. I learned so much from watching you and it helps me to be a medium and psychic myself, to see very talented people like yourself. And yes I am getting older and should live for myself and my passion and not worry about making anyone else happy or people pleasing anymore. I truly want to also live my passion and am inspired by people who dare to go forward and live out their dream. I also sing and belt it out very loud. Especially Heart.
Oh Lisa, you have great timing.
I just decided this week to make a career out of training therapy dogs. I'm 51 and am raising 2 special needs boys that I saved from a tortured home life when I adopted them. I also have a teenage daughter who is now a new mother these last 3 months. So a new career had to fit into my schedule, age, physical abilities and on and on. Through following one link and then another I came across an article about dogs going into courtrooms of special cases. Since the oldest boy was so severely abused I can also see the need for this at the police interviews, in counseling, with adults as well as children. Looking into the best raining school and prices now but so excited about it.
THEN, I just checked on the computer and the protection order I'd been trying to get against my ex's girlfriend FINALLY was approved. The boys are safe once again!!! Sooooo very happy. Woooohoooo NOBODY hurts my kids and gets away with it. I am woman hear me roar!! Doin the funky chicken dance!! (in my head) lol Did I mention these are my ex's biological grandchildren that I, thankfully, got custody of, and that the one hurting them is HIS girlfriend? All I can say is Karma, Karma, Karma!
I always TRY to listen to my guides and I usually end up in a world of mess when I don't. They've surely been watching over me and guiding me this week. Got one more court hearing against the ex next month but not concerned about that one at all.
Keep up the good work, miss the show so much. Love your humor, your down-to-earthiness (is that even a word?) Your son is adorable. Wish you all the best in the world for you.
TyAnn
Just wanted to mention that I read everyone's comments and I think there are some really wonderful, special souls on this site. Thank you for bringing your stories to us. I am learning so much through Lisa and her friends, so thank you.
Have a beautiful day,
Jeanette
Hey there Lisa,
Hope you are doing well. Awesome blog!
Your blog just reminded of this poem. Robert Frost put it so well in his famous lovely poem 'The Road Less Traveled'. Especially the last two lines of the last stanza of the poem. 'I took the one less traveled by ~~And that has made all the difference. This is simple but profound and something that I have tried to live by best I can. This poem shows us how two roads diverge and at some point we have free will as to which road or path we choose in dealing with issues. This is an ongoing struggle in all of us as we are souls in human form. As long as we are in the physical world we are split in a way between two paths...one our soul and the other human. It is hard getting past our own humanness in how we approach difficult issue in life. We all strive for love and some literally give up their lives to get that love which is not really love if it comes with conditions. Each road has its challenges, but the road to the soul is the one less traveled and most beautiful while the human path is can become confused and emotionally messy as we all know already. Unfortunately, most do not see the difference until the soul has been awakened sort of speak. It can come from the guidance of someone more enlightened than ourselves, a soul mate / soul family member who enter our lives and impacts us, our spirit guide, messages through meditation, or a hardship that brings us to our knees or all of the above. Some of us need to be literally knocked over the head and I know some people like that...LOL. I totally agree that we do lose our identity at times. However, sometimes losing our identify is not always a bad thing if it leads to Spiritual growth or an awakening of the soul...so it depends on the situation. No matter how big or small our dreams are, they keep us alive and we should never let anyone crush them!
So I am wishing that all your dreams come true always. Thanks for a lovely thought provoking blog.
Love and Big Hugs,
DS
Thank you for the blog today, Lisa! I really needed to be reminded...Ive been feeling like Im drowing with the weight of the world & expectations lately. I love you so much....thank you for always knowing what to write to us. You are an angel. xxoo
Such a wonderful blog, but that is nothing new. I hope that I am able to make sense...my brain is not functioning , too much chemo affecting my thought process.
We all have dreams and I am one who has many, but I put them on hold for others in my life. Now with it just being me I think about my dreams, but I am running out of time. I lost myself when I put my dreams on hold and it took awhile to find me again, but I did. Some of my dreams have been fulfilled, but it scares me that most of them will never come true, but I only have myself to blame.
NEVER give up your dreams for someone else.....work together if you must.
Much love,
Cindy/cynthlynn
I hope this makes sense.
Such a wonderful blog, but that is nothing new. I hope that I am able to make sense...my brain is not functioning , too much chemo affecting my thought process.
We all have dreams and I am one who has many, but I put them on hold for others in my life. Now with it just being me I think about my dreams, but I am running out of time. I lost myself when I put my dreams on hold and it took awhile to find me again, but I did. Some of my dreams have been fulfilled, but it scares me that most of them will never come true, but I only have myself to blame.
NEVER give up your dreams for someone else.....work together if you must.
Much love,
Cindy/cynthlynn
I hope this makes sense