So much change :)
Monday, December 6, 2010 at 11:41AM It's amazing how much can change in a year! It's not been the easiest year but I don't think it has for anyone. I remember adam eliot an astrologer who gave me a reading last year, and he said you will want 2010 to end and that I wouldn't be happy romantically until October 2010.
Well when you are told this back in 2009, you kind of think... wow what is going to happen and really can I wait until then!! haha I used to say to clients that it's only a short period of time to happiness when they used to say the same to me when I gave them a psychic reading.
But it's true there are something that are worth waiting for and then there are others that I just to say to people, 'If I could just put you to sleep for the next XXX amount of time and then wake you up, it will be fine'. But sometimes we have to go through these things to grow and learn and understand.
It was ironic how last week symbolized a huge new beginning and being without internet... AGAIN was a blessing. Because when you are stressed you can easily wrap yourself up in mindless things to take you away from the situation. However I didn't.
We moved the office (the mailing address remains the same if you are wondering) and also house, which was something that needed to be done. But I was thinking back to what Adam said, and it was October that I was finally in the relationship that I wanted to be in and HAPPY... in fact beyond happy, and so is Charlie and it was last week that my divorce was final. So there were so many things that I am grateful for.
My new relationship has opened my eyes to many things, but most of all accepting who you are and also respecting yourself. It's been a long time since I felt like I had someone in my corner and now I do. You would think that coming out to people and telling them that you are in a same sex relationship with someone is the hardest thing, but it isn't, it's actually showing people that you are no longer going to be a pushover and that you are respecting yourself.
And respecting myself meant that I had to tell people my feelings towards Holly my partner, but also to let people know that I can be strong and have a voice. I wasn't heard for a long time and I felt I had a voice like a mouse always hiding behind someone but now it's important for me to be heard, and it's the same for everyone. We all deserve to have the opinion and let others hear it. Some may not like what they are hearing then there are others who will value what you are saying and they will respect that you are standing up for what you believe in.
Holly has done just that, she has shown me that you have to stand up for yourself and be true, and it's not always the easiest pathway, but it's the true pathway. Charlie also pointed it out. We were all discussing an issue that I wasn't happy about and he said, "Mom, why don't you just tell them" and I thought, you know, he's right! And so I did, and I felt so much better about it. Yes it had to fester a little but the more it did the more I felt strong enough to do something about it.
So it's time for us all to face things that we know we have to, it could be contacting that person that we have been putting off for so long, it could be saying sorry, or it could be standing up for something you believe in. What ever it is, it's going to make you feel better. Once you voice it, it's out there in the universe, and it's done... how other want to react is up to them.
Be strong and know that you are doing what is right for you!
Hugs and love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (87)
Good for you!! I felt like sometimes I didn't have a voice in my last relationship (not just his fault, but mine too), but now that I am by myself, I am learning how to find it again and how to be myself by myself again. Then maybe next time I will stand up for me!! I'm happy for you and Holly and it sounds like you are very happy together, I also hope you, her and Charlie have a very blessed Christmas time!!
Lisa, Thank you for being amazing. I wish you and Holly all the luck and love in the world.
You are amazing people and you are just going to grow and grow in what you do.
I am so happy for you Lisa!! Being true to yourself is the best thing you can do for you. I wish you to, and Charlie great happiness and LOVE.
Sherry
Relationships are relationships. Love has no color and no preference. One of my desires is for more people to "understand" that on deeper levels. And bravo to your courage to be who you are and to find love! What more can we want for ourselves and for everyone but just that!
Jean & I send you and Holly much love, laughter & light.
I salute your Soul & love your spirit!
Andrea
Congratulations Lisa, to you and Holly! As an old friend of Holly's I couldn't be happier. I spoke with her a few weeks ago and she sounded the happiest I've heard her in a long, long time. Much love to you both! Cheers to true love!
As long as there is love....what matters is - you are happy, Charlie is happy and it's really is'nt anyone elses business....
Congratulation Lisa. It is so important to be true to yourself, only then you will be truly happy. Marry Christmas to you, Holly and your beatiful son Charlie.
Warm Love from freezing cold Norway
The only way to experience peace and freedom is through truth. Congratulations on finding your truth. Wishing you continued strength and happy days.
Oh Lisa!!!! I just want to cry right now....for so many reasons. Im soo soo happy for you, Holly & Charlie!!! And your blog as always -- seems to come at the perfect time. Ive been doing a lot of the same -- facing things head on that were way overdue. However, I needed to go thru certain events, relationships, lessons, etc. in order to get here. The patience & trust is the most resisted sometimes. Thank you for sharing your amazing journey -- and also for literally validating what I knew a long time ago -- that you & Holly were going to be together. Ive been discrediting myself too too much -- and your validation was just what I needed today, as I face some very important personal closures this weekend. Thank you for everything Lisa.....you are a blessing -- this holiday season is going to be super special for you --- lots of love & light always & always xxoooxoxoxo
Love is more than what sex you are,colour,religion. Love to me is when two souls connect and it is a deep knowing that you are home,one with this person. You see it when you look in each others eyes. Anyway,IT'S ALL ABOUT LOVE ;) Hugs Racca xoxoxox
So happy for you Lisa! I had a very STRONG feeling that Holly was the one, when I met her last month <3
Changes, what changes are you talking about ... ha ha ha gee whiz! I think this year was a lifetime wrapped in one...
WOW Lisa, so proud of you girl!!!! This blog put a big smile on my face because I know you are truly happy. You are such a sweet kind soul and I am SO happy that you met someone that appreciates and loves you for you and no less. YAY... I hope you don't mind me changing some words for you. 'Tis the season to be Holly' :) Okay... a bit geeky, but cute...
May you, Holly, and Charlie share a lifetime of love and blissful happiness...
Love n Light,
DS
Thank you, thank you, thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and giving us all inspiration in our own lives. Your words are so raw, honest and true...many of us seek that ability all of our lives. You deserve this Lisa, it's YOUR time. Looking forward to seeing you in Brisbane, Australia this year. Enjoy this amazing journey together. Debbi xxx
I am so happy that you have found happiness with someone. There is no greater gift in this world!
Lisa, Holly and Charlie you are all truly blessed and loved by so many. What better way to end the year than in a solid loving relationship? You are all going into 2011 with LOVE in your lives and that is wonderful. I am so happy for you all and it can only get better Lisa... I am looking forward to all the classes that you have planned and I will definitely be signing up to be taught by one of the very best teachers ever!
Blessings and Love <3
Oh Lisa I'm so happy for you ! It's wonderful that you could face your real feelings and find love. It was certainly not easy, so really congratulations. I'm sure everyone around you will be delighted to see that you are true to yourself and serene and happy.
I wish you and Holly the best for the future ;-)
Much love,
Lise
A very inspiring blog you wrote here, Lisa and one that we can all learn and grow from. I am sure it hits home with many of us and hopefully it will inspire us to "take charge" of our life.
I applaud and respect you for being so open with all of us as not many "celebrities" do that, it's one of the many things I love about you and it makes one feel even closer to you.
I wish for you and Holly a lifetime of pure bliss and happiness as you begin your new life together. I was very happy to have met Holly at your DE show, she is every bit as warm and wonderful as you. "Two peas in a pod"....oops, did I say peas? *giggles
Much Love
Lori aka MissMyAngelSon
Lisa: Congratulations on this big step in your life. I am so happy for you. Having been in a same sex relationship for over 32 years, I can tell you that I have never regretted acknowledging and expressingmy authentic self even when others have expressed discomfort. I wish you and Holly and Charlie much loce and happiness during the holiday season! Sincerely - Glenn
Aww Lisa I am so happy for you...both !!!
Thankyou for sharing with us and I hope you have a most wonderful Christmas and great 2011 !!!
Love always Sharon xoxo
You already know how I feel about the topics you have discussed here, so I only have one thing to say. It's all about the love! You also know where Monkeytoo stands... Hugs & kisses from us both, to all! MomMom & MonkeyPie
I am very glad that you, Lisa is very happy. But I felt that what you wrote was for me too, so thank you. It helped me understand, that from now on I'll stand on own two feet
Thank you Lisa, and I hope that God is with you
We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. ....Joseph Campbell
I Love this quote. I always add quotes to my Facebook that have meaning. I have had a year of major change as well so I hear you. Was definitely the year for it for alot of people.
Much happiness to you both.
Jocelyn
Darling Lisa,
In Dallas, you were talking about three important words - TRUST, RESPECT, INTEGRITY. You exemplify all of them. Thanks for walking you talk and being authentic.
You found someone to share your life with - and bonus - she's an artist!!!!
Hugs and love to you and the family,
Lane
Oh Lisa, you totally amaze me. I love your honesty and your willingness to be so open.
As the saying goes it takes one to know one and I have been wondering when your announcement would come.
Lisa you deserve all the happiness this world has to offer.
Much love and happiness to you, Holly and Charlie.
Love you,
Cindy/cynthlynn
U go girl
A bout time u was true to ur self
Love u and will all ways will
Have fun both off u
Love to u all