Finding your voice!
Friday, November 12, 2010 at 07:09PM The twists and turns of life have an effect on us all, and sometimes we never know how to cope with things and we become overwhelmed. Its then that we have the melt downs and we struggle. It's only natural. The stress that we put on ourselves is incredible and sometimes we don't realize that we are doing it. But that is part of life.
Many times we suffer in silence, or we over react. However we have to sit back and take a moment. Take that moment for really feel how we feel, what we are really feeling and how we can work through it. It can be very easy. But we make it difficult.
I know what I am saying here as I do it all the time. I have looked for a solution or reacted and realized that I am making it more complicated that what it really is. If I'd have just sat back and taken a moment then I would realized that I could have made a better decision.
That is something that I have learnt over the last few months. It's been a growth period for me and something I am very grateful for. I have seen the true colors of people and what they stand for, and actually I have realized that it's not something I want to be around.
However over this time it's also made me realize that I need to stand up for me. What I believe in, who I am and also what I want in life, instead of being dictated to. I have been dictated to in so many ways, and I have been the doormat that had 'wipe here' on my forehead. I know I may not project that image out, but it's true, and throughout this time I have found my voice, stood up for what I want and believe in and grown so much, that people are questioning my influence. Well actually the influence is an inspiration, I have been inspired to stand strong and find a voice and that voice is mine and I deserve to be heard, and so should you!
So when you want to be heard, never be scared to say what you feel, because you are being true to yourself and your beliefs. Know that you are doing what is right for you and your soul. And with this you will inspire more people to find there voice and empower them to stand strong!
Have a fabulous weekend!
Much love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (53)
WOW Lisa, you amaze me! I'm not sure how you do it or if its angels and guides behind it but your posts always seem to hit home for me, parallel to what is going on in my life or someone close to me. Particulary this one! For someone who has gone through so much lately, you inspire me in that you are able to remain so positive and give such sage advice to us all, from your heart. Thank you for that!
Blessings to you, wishing you lots of love and laughter! With Love and Big Hugs, Micha'ele Powell
Dear Lisa,
Im sure you get plenty of messages like this, but I just want you to know I think you are such a kind beautiful person who truley has a gift from god. I watch your show and read your blogs and I just think to myself you are a real living angel here on earth!! aYou help so many people get through the hardest struggles of their life. Loosing someone you love is so devastating and makes life so empty, but then i hear you talk and it gives me hope that someday i will see the people i have lost again and it helps me get through each day. I recently lost my dad and i have an ache in my heart and some days I am so sad that I count the minutes till I can fall asleep for the night just so i dont have to feel this sad. I am going to see you this sunday at the Hanover thearter and I absolutly cant wait! If you have a message for me or anything.. i think would make my life. I would do anything to hear from my dad.
Good Luck sunday night, you will be amazing :)
Colleen <3 xoxo
This is exactly why I said no to the offers of the french television...
I don't want to take part to something that I don't believe in. I think this is our true liberty of being !
Take care ;)
Love and Light
So true Miss Lisa. NOW, who is this special someone :) Imao xxxx Hugs babe xoxo
OMG Ditto...!!! Have you been reading my life?? Lisa, you're amazing..And i wish you the best..always and forever..We love you girl XXX See you in OZ soon ...God bless XXX
Thank you Lisa, totally what I needed to hear today. xx
Love you Lis...and miss you heaps! Have an AMAZING time in Tampa. Sad we are not there with you but hope we have the chance to catch up at Jonesy's going away. Sending you SO much love and light in the meantime. XOXOXO...Caroline
Awe Lisa, Keep on keeping on sweetie. Even when your facing tough times you still teach us, thank you for that..Sweet things are on the horizon cause change is sooo good :) Will be seeing you sunday, can't wait, so excited, we haven't seen you since January, way too long...till then have safe travels, & loads of fun..love you bunches, big hugs........mauder
Life is a constant journey of soul searching..Always be true to your true self.. Day by day and Step by step.. Lots of love and best wishes Lisa <3
Christina
I love to read your honest and open words Lisa.
Never stop giving,to others but also to yourself,hold on in there.
Be honest, be true and always, always be you.
With love and light.
Paula.
You too beautiful! No one wants to be a doormat and i'm glad you found the voice and reasons. Respect is a necessity you need deep in your heart and really we only disrespect ourselves when we don't show the way to others. You are a complete blessing. xx
Great and inspirational blog!
They key is to establish clear personal boundaries in your life that define your personal space. Once you do this, it is important to communicate it to others so they are clear. I know that I can be a very free flowing loving person when I am out with others, but I an picky on who I let into my personal space and tend to enjoy my privacy. It is about knowing what you want and projecting it out to the world. It is a life contract that you create for yourself and then share with others. If others choose to breach your contract, then it is up to you to set them straight and remind them that they are not respecting your needs. So if you have given others free reign of your life and now you are setting your own boundaries, just be prepared for push back from others. Those you have spoiled will get angry with you, resent you, try to manipulate you by pulling out the guilt card... just stand strong and firm. It may get ugly, but this is the only way to weed out who truly loves you unconditionally. Trust me, it is a rude awakening, but even if you were left standing alone and you will not be, it is a good feeling just being who you are and knowing that you stood up for yourself in this life. Also, when we change dramatically, those in our lives get scared because they no longer know how to define themselves. So they will blame others for changing you rather than influencing or encouraging you. Just make sure it is your own inner voice speaking and everything else will follow.
You only deserve the best and I am so happy that you are truly honoring who you are.
Love n Light,
DS
I too understand what you wrote. I always need to take a little time too.
I get immediately upset, when something doesn't go right.........or something hurts my heart. Then I have to take a deep breath and sleep on it. When I wake up, there is usually perspective and a little embarrassment that inside I let it bother me so much.
I too am weeding out the people in my life. Weeding out the people who complain too much, suck my energy out, or are too much in the materialistic world.
I like to surround myself with those who support me and fill me with the love I want to give back out to the world.
Those people are quite hard to find.....
It's always nice to know someone else feels that process too........like you I was a doormat.............honestly, it's not really that you were a doormat, you were just a nice person.......the people you surrounded yourself with were taking advantage of your true nature. They were the one's with the problem. You just decided to stop surrounding yourself with them and be with people who like your true nature. This also gave you confidence, because you now have people to back you up or that "have your back". It's easier to say NO, when you feel that strength inside.
I completely relate.............love you! Love what you stand for and love the warmth and love you project. Good Luck in everything.........especially with Charlie........
Hope to see you again soon! Joanne King
Your words are very true....we have to stand up for what we believe in and be proud of it too.
XX
Hello,my name is Valerie,I arrive on your internet site just like that!!! not sure!! a "stroke of luck" (hope the words are rights!!),well I can say that may be you are the person I am "looking for"!! I am just like a lot of persons I do need a "light" on my way,I know the "light" is inside me!! someday I've got it someday,I go back to darkness,I do not know you,but the few I red make me think you are a "Great" Person,of course,I would read more,I am living in Spain,I am French and sincerly hope one day ,why not,you'll be in Europe to "teach" us or no I'd better say to "meet" us and have "a talk" around a cofee!!
I am studing on my own "Alternative Medecine",my wish? "help the others",begining on my person,my family and the most people I would be able to,for that I do need to have a job,cause without money you can't study (I mean like the soceity wants you to do it,with diplomatura),or may be win the "loto"!!! I would do more people be happier!! (even I know if money donot give you hapiness (I do beleive it's give a part ,a large one of happiness),and I dream I know it,but I 've got Faith,I do beleive in me,even if it's dificult!! I do beleive in something "stronger",the Universe,God,in my way,yes; and you may think I am egoist when I say I want to help me first,not at all, because when you are allright,when youre feeling good with yourself,mind,body ,soul, you are able to help the others,because the first thing I understood from all this pas t years,is that if you love yourself , if you are able to go threw your deep indide,then you are able to understand "almost" everything.
So Miss Lisa Williams thank you to be here on Earth with us.
Have a nice day.
As we say here: "un Abrazo de Luz" (something like "Hug of Light"!!)
Hi Lisa,
It certainly is sad when people take advantage of those who are nice! I guess people often mistake nice, for being a push over! Many times that actually IS the case, but it definitely becomes old after awhile! It robs you of your right to make decisions, and choices!
I used to be a "push over" and couldn't say no (it is still hard to do) and I spent a lot of time feeling resentful, but I realised it really was my fault for letting people have that power over me. It astonishes me at how easily people "sniff out" the "easy mark" and it astonishes me even more at how easy it is for them to take advantage of that self-defeating characteristic! Then when you finally have had enough, and stand up for yourself; you get characterized as an unkind person!
To me, that is the worst, and most unfair part, and the most difficult time to "stick to my guns", because my normal urge is to always rescue people, and not have them think badly of me.
If it seems that you are giving more than you get out of any relationship; it is a good time to evaluate it, and decide if it is better to part ways. It is important that respect ourselves and honor the life we were given by treating it well!
Celebrate you, and the beautiful life you deserve to live!
Be well, and Happy!
Hugs and Love,
Cheryl
Whoa, how timely this post is. Had a melt down this morning and am the type to suffer in silence. Keep telling myself to go back to the past briefly and get back to the "Now" and don't worry about the future. I too use to be a door mat but heard someone say "control the situation or the situation will control you" and that's exactly what I do now. Thanks for being there for us Lisa, we need you and appreciate you so very much.
Lisa,
It never fails... you always say something I need to hear at the moment!!
Big hugs,
Vicki
This was a conversation I had today with one of my close friends... I am so glad to read it here today in your blog.. Thank you .
Lisa, By writing & being honest that yes -- even Lisa Williams has felt manipulated, or made decisions that might not have been in her best interest -- that you are human -- just like all of us. I am trying to find the courage these days to stand up to my own truth. I tend to become reclusive & get depressed when I feel everyone pushing against me, after Ive spoken up....and it is a lonely feeling. So thank you for being honest -- and for admitting that you are growing & learning to speak up for WHO you are, what you do, and encouraging us to do the same. WOW -- your words always come at the perfect time. (((Lisa)))
I have just booked 3 tickets for your visit to Adelaide, South Australia on Thursday, 24 February 2011 - it will be so worth the wait. If you have never been here before you will be in a very slow paced charming city full of friendly faces. Its not a terribly big city compared to Sydney and Melbourne and we are only 20 minutes from the beaches and the countryside is about 40-50 minutes depending on which direction you go.
Hope we meet but until then - - - - - - we breathe xxxxxxxxx Cyndi
Hi Lisa, I booked online for your show at the Civic Theatre Newcastle, Australia for the 9th March, 2011. Stay strong because you are doing the right thing by millions of people around the world and we love you.
Lovely Lisa. I am a very big fan of yours! i have booked tickets for your show in geelong, australia! i am sitting in the front row! you have inspired me to do something with my life. your posts come at exactly the right time for me in my life. you have no idea how much you have helped me! i cant wait to see you on february 19th 2011!! cant wait to see you!!!
Lisa, It's good to hear you, and it's good to see you grow in strength and clarity. And we grow with you!
Love
Lana
Don't ever let anyone speak for you or make decisions about your life. Good advice!