Live life the way you choose!
Sunday, October 31, 2010 at 09:26PM Firstly, I have to apologize for not blogging sooner after the cruise. We had an amazing time and everyone worked so well. It was amazing how everyone gelled together and found people who they needed to connect with. It always happens and that is the beauty of the way the universe works it's magic.
It was also true of those who I was with on the cruise with me personally, Jonesy felt like she met her soul brother, Max. These connections may last a lifetime or they may just be for that moment but the reality is, you were meant to meet that person and in some way they may have changed your life or they may have shown you a different pathway and gave you choices that you never may have thought about.
It's so interesting how it happens. If they only touch your life for a moment, you will be able to remember them. We all have moments where we think... 'I wonder what happened to ...?' and that is because they had an impact in your life.
But sometimes we have to accept that people move on and we also have to do the same, we have to cut ties and not learn to rely on others too much. It's a hard lesson that we have to learn, but actually it's a great lesson because we learn to stand on our own two feet and find our way ourselves, or we meet others who will help us on our journey. Letting go is always good, it's a transition and it's something that we all have to face.
Through the transition we change and we grow and we make room for new and exciting opportunities that maybe we had never seen before. You meet new people.
Even though you meet new people the ones that remain in your life are there and they will support you through this change, because they love you. Some may say goodbye or part ways with you, but that is ok and we have to accept that. You may also be feeling that you need the change and that certain people should not be in your life, but they make the decision to leave... then you can have a moment of disappointment or feeling let down, but actually its a relief because you both know that it's the right time to move on in life.
Thinking of this has made me think about moving forward with new relationships and making space in my life for new things. I have thrown out over time, all the things that had energy attached to them, that were given to me in past relationships to make space for a new beginning.
So when people leave your life, accept that it's part of your life's pathway and that things have to happen this way. Some people may return others may not, but know that they have touched your life for a reason. But it's how you choose to move forward that is important. If you decide that you haven't had closure, you have to create it. Write that person a letter, do something symbolic to give you that chance to say goodbye and move forward. It will help you in so ways to move on in your life. Your life will flow and you will find that you will no longer be stuck in a rut that you can't get out of, and that is because you have taken charge of it and you are creating your own journey in the way that you need.
Believe in yourself and know that your journey is how you choose to live it!
Much love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (25)
Oh Lisa, this so hits home for me tonight. I went to a concert and most of my time there I was thinking about a friend who might have been there too. She and I had a falling out a few months ago. I am not really sure how to get true closure, though I thought I had before. I will keep trying to get past it though.
Thank you for posting this. <3
Ok ...thanks...needed to hear this.
I think it really is amazing how life can place you EXACTLY where you should be at this very moment... this blog is something I NEEDED to read at this point in time. Thank you, Lisa. Faith, hope, and love always.
You are right about cutting ties with certain people it is not easy but at times very necessary. Always love reading your blogs. I read you are coming back to Australia in the New Year.
Dear Lisa,
Thank you for your blog, always so positive and interesting. There were moments sometimes when indeed I had to stop relationships with friends because the energy around that person was not good anymore. Then it started again because it gave time to let go of things, for others it was definitive. However, it is true that life is wonderful and always brings new people, new energies, new travels, new ideas and somehow we find what we need. I am still trying to come and work to California. I don't know what it going to happen and anyway I am sure I will be guided ;-)
I hope you and Charlie are fine Lisa and happy and living life the most that you can knowing that you are a sweet and incredible light in this world.
Much love,
Lise
It's never easy cutting ties with people you care about...especially when it is family, but sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. *Hugs*
Thank you Lisa!
Just what I needed to read at just that right moment.
Your blogs inspire and amaze me with how they relate to my life at any given time- strange or meant to be??
Hope you realize how important you are to complete strangers even over cyber space ( I know you do!!)
Thanks again and God bless x
Hi Lisa, so true, great blog.Baggage can be clumsy, sometimes you just have to lighten the load :) So glad your cruise went well & you all had safe travels..Hope your and Charlies Halloween was great...Missing you, love you bunches, big hugs..........mauder
So true Lisa!!! Life is all about loving freely and letting go of attachments to the physical realm. Sometimes you just have to pick up and start your life over from scratch with no regrets of yesterday and no fear of tomorrow. Although I hope for tomorrow, I am not going to waste my time worrying about it now. :) what a year of life lessons, eh? Just taking life in moments... I think it is more beautiful that way.
Love n Light,
DS
True, true, true... but often, so easily forgotten (or, maybe just mentally misplaced?!). I haven't been here to read your blog entries in a while, but, as the universe would have it, I decided to pop in and read today's blog. The topic could NOT have been more personally appropriate!! I asked for help and messages, and they've been coming to me.
Thanks.
Dear Lisa,
It's eerie how I stumbled upon this blog just when I needed to. But how do we let go of someone who once meant so much? I have been struggling with this for over a decade and it's still painful, I've said what I had to say in a letter, we are acquaintances now yet it's not enough, my mind seems to be so tied up to this person it's hard to detach myself from them. I wish I knew how to make peace with it once and for all and move on.
I have just pre-ordered your new book. It is my Christmas Present
Thanks for Posting..exactly what I needed to be reminded of...time to lighten the load and trust that new exciting adventures are ahead for me. It is a step of faith to release the past and embrace the future!!
Peace and thank you for being just you!!!
kim in NM
You are so right Lisa....I wanne say "thank U" to U....you have touched me,my heart and my soul for a small moment!!! Love and Hugs Sina
Trust, Faith and Moving Forward are three virtues. First you need to trust, Trust that you are where you are and suspossed to be, and the Faith to go with it, With that you can have the tools to keep your life moving forward.
Your words put it together better, and always make an impact in so many lives.
Love to you,
I have missed your blogs. I'm glad Jonesy met her soul mate, I liked Jonesy when I met her on the Gold Coast.. she took a picture for me and my sister at first she took a picture of the carpet without us in it! hahaha funny. I will never forget her face expression of whoops. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Your so wise. I personally fail at this a lot, letting go. I hold on to people with my nails and never want to let them go. I still message all of my old ex's because I always feel I will have a place for them in my heart. Sometimes though I get sucked into things and find it a struggle emotionally to get out of. Still working on this one. But your insight helps and pushes me forward, thank you for your warmth and personal growth.. it really shows how one person can change and inspires me. :)
Sometimes we can't always live life the way we want at the moment we want.
Just a few years ago I had pretty much everything I could want or need. A home, rental property, paid for car, money in the bank, beautiful jewelery, Louis Vuitton, Prada, Coach, any luxury a women could want. Barbra Streisand, Elton John, Lisa Williams, anyone show I wanted to see I could and did.
In the blink of an action my life changed. An injury set me back over a year, bankrupt me, lost my house, and had to move half across the country to a very conservative part of the country to live with someone I have known 30 years. I was originally told I could stay as long as I needed to heal, physically, mentally, spiritually, to rebuild my life. Before moving, While going through all of this I would still do random readings in grocery stores, parks, Doctors offices, anywhere a spirit approached me and wanted a message passed I would. If Reiki healing was needed I volunteered my time and abilities. I thought I was living a life of good karma and being a good person, giving what & when I could.
The family who offered to let me live with them knew of my gift, it never seemed to be an issue. Two weeks after moving across the country I was told "nobody can know what you do or who you are, we don't want to be known as having the town freak living with us". I was told I couldn't advertise my business, to take down the signs on my car, not to hand out business cards, and under no circumstance approach anyone and offer a reading. I was told I couldn't be myself, basically I was back in the closet, hiding who I was. 2 months later with an hours notice in the middle of the worst winter on record I was told to get my things and get out. With absolutely nowhere to go, no money, not even knowing how to get around this new city and state I found myself in.
So here I was in a strange state, no family or friends, no job, not knowing anyone except the person who had been a part of my life for 30 years,and she had completely turned her back on me because of who I am. I had my car, which soon became my home. For nearly 5 months I was homeless, sleeping in my car and the occasional homeless shelter when there was room, which was very seldom, maybe a night or two every few weeks. I had gone from being middle class, living a life most dreamed of, to loosing virtually everything, my home,my savings,retirement, everything but my car. Selling my luxury items to pay for gas, food, medicine, car insurance, so that at least the car I was sleeping in was legal. Because I am a white,legal female, with no children, addictions,mental issues or felony record, or record of any kind, there were absolutlely no social services avaiable to me.
I was ready to die, as a medium, I'm not afraid of death, I look forward to it.
The day I was ready to call it quits, car parked, shotgun loaded and a single note saying " I have no family or friends who will notice me gone, so just cremate me and toss the ashed with the other nameless people, I got a phone call & withing 24 hours had a job, making almost as much as I had before my life was turned upside down.
I went from being homeless sleeping in my car to being "middle class" again.
I never could have imagined how much I would miss doing readings for people, healing people with Reiki. Stopping the random stranger and asking them if they believed, wanted to hear the message, and if they wanted to know everything and then going into what I call "fairy mode" and giving them a reading.
In conservative mid west America(where the universe stranded me) most walk away, saying they don't believe, but every now and then someone is eager and wants to hear from their loved ones.
I have had a terrible few weeks, coming to terms with the fact that someone I love & care for deeply wont let me back in their life, took their friendship away from me, when they said they would be there for me, no forgiveness offered. It seems they can't forgive me or give me another chance for actions on my part during the most difficult time of my life. I was realizing that I was going to loose everything because of an injury and no medical insurance to cover cost, that for the first time in my life I would not be able to fully take care of myself and not be able to go back into a industry I had worked in for years, that afforded me a very lucrative living.
I also during that time was a victim of psychic attack from a job I did, that looking back, was way to advanced for me to do on my own. It was clearing a house that the owner felt was haunted. My teacher, mentor, wasn't available at the time to guide me through clearing a house that I know now had more then just negative energy. I didn't even realize I was under this attack till months later when I had a more clear head and looked back and said " i did this, I said this, I wrote this, I did what?" most of which I don't even remember doing.
I hurt my mentor, my teacher, my friend and soul connection. She severed all ties, not talking to me about it, no trying to help me figure out what was happening, how I had become someone I wasn't. It was just over, no words, she still has not spoken a single word to me..to me it felt like a death..it still does.. I would forgive this person for anything they said or did to me, and I wasn't always treated like a friend should be by her. I had to keep my friendship a secret because of people in her life, even going as far as creating a new email address with a fake name to keep our "friendship" a secret.
I know that all things happen for a reason, paths cross for a reason, they can re-cross and people can forgive and try to understand the circumstances at the time that caused the break of a valued & important friendship. You can't force it, you can only let the other know your willing & want them back. That you learned from the universe, you've become a better person, in some ways because of what they taught you as your mentor, teacher, friend, and in part because of what the universe put you through.
It's a daily struggle to balance the missing and the anger you have towards them.But you have to live life the way you choose. Sometimes the universe forces us to make that change, like being homeless and loosing everything, so that you can come out of it stronger.
I was finally able to approach someone tonight at a grocery store (I had only 3 hours sleep last night, as I was up crying over news confirmed to me about this person I love so deeply) I was on my was home to go straight to bed, and the next thing I know my car is making a u-turn to go to the grocery store at midnight. There was nothing I needed, I have just learned from my mentor and from what I have experienced over the last year to ALWAYS LISTEN YOU MY GUT. There I was standing in the very small organic section and I feel the tap on my right shoulder, and there was an entire family in spirit wanting me to approach a women in the isle. I gingerly introduced myself, told her who I was & what I did and asked if she was open to a reading, she was. The fairy gates opened and I did a reading that had me stunned. The information that was coming thru amazed me, the accuracy, the names, dates, animals and even a very odd and very specific piece of jewelery that had been passed down and caused a riff in the family. At one point this person kept saying no that doesn't mean anything, and I knew it did, as spirit would not let me go any further till I got this point across. It took quite a few minutes and then I saw the light bulb go off and got the response " I can't believe I didn't put this together, or that you would even pick up on it". The basic point spirit was trying to get across, was not to hold onto & fight over an heirloom that didn't go to the person who thought they should get it.
I have started to live my life the way I wanted to again, and the joy, tears, and happiness this stranger experienced made up for all the nights I went without, was hungry, cold,without my medicine so feeling terrible, scared because I was living in my car in a strange city,state all alone, not knowing how I would come up with the $ to buy toothpaste,soap, gas to move or even heat my car during winter, in one of the coldest states in America. The pure joy in the one woman's face hearing the messages I was passing on to her gave me more joy then I have felt in nearly 2 years.
I know the universe stranded me where I'm at for a reason, and I've accepted that it will be home for awhile, not too long though, I truly feel like a fish out of water where I'm at, but I've accepted I'm where I am supposed to be at the moment!(hopefully not to long though)!!
I only wish the person who means so much to me, who started to teach me, before cutting ties with me, who shared a connection with me that we both knew was special, that shared passed lives with me, will come back into my life. Even though this person has found a new love, and we all know the "high" one is on in the beginning of a new relationship. I hope she will come around and see/realize that we had something very special and can still have that very special friendship. That are paths are not done being crossed & that together as friends we can change and help so many, and more importantly ourselves. I hope this person can remember how close she said she felt to me, how willing I was and am to be there for her in anyway she needs me to be, in the background as her support, to heal her when she is low on energy, and share in her life venture. To touch peoples life with our each individual gift and make this universe a better place for all of us to be able to "Live the Life we Choose.
I am sorry for the length of this post, but I feel others will be able to relate and realize that no matter how bad things are, how low we feel, how badly we want to end our lives, the universe has a plan, and we have to just wait for it to reveal. I am not a patient person, and this experience hasn't really helped with that!
I am still not sure why the universe literally took me to the bottom of the barrel, the sh*t on the bottom of someones shoe, forcing me to start over,and still not have this person in my life that in someways was the beginning of my downfall and I feel is the top of the hill for me. I hope the universe brings this person I love so much to this page, site , to read this, to see how much I care & love them, how much I want a second chance to show/prove to this person they first grew to love is not only back but even better. If they are drawn to read this, they will know who is writing it, with as hard as I have tried to sever that spiritual tie, those spiritual cords that are still there. I believe and hope it's because this person, on some level, doesn't truly want me out of their life forever, but had their own path and life lessons to go through, and we had to go through this life journey separately.
My prayers, tears, soul, heart, entire inner being hope my friend, my soul connection misses our daily communications as much as I do, thinks of me as often as i think of them, despite there is a new love in their life. I will still be here when this love is gone, my friendship will always be her for you, my love will always keep growing for you..I miss you, I miss our talks/chats, I miss the non-spoken telepathic care & love we would send to each other. I miss & love you.
I am asking and trusting that the universe, my angels, your angels, our guides will direct you to this site to read this post and reconsider the decision and stance you have taken with/towards me. This will be my last attempt to beg of you to search deep within your heart and talk to your angels and guides and let me back in. I also am taking it on faith that the person this is meant for, reads this heartfelt letter.
Again, I apologize to all for the length of this post, but spirit has guided me in every word typed, and directed me to write this.. It is completely off the cuff.
Dear Lisa,
This is my first day on your web site and as a new member of your extended family. It feels like home to me already :o)
You are so right. Life flows, and, like a river, it creates the banks which hold and direct it. I think one of the greatest challenges of moving forward is getting through all the noise of our social conditioning that tells us over and over again that we are supposed to stay in one place; that we must seek safety, security, stability and predictability, even if it means being unhappy for the rest our of life.
If our soul’s mission was security, we would never have left the other side to be here in the first place. We are here for the adventure and to share the excitement and experience of being alive with others we meet along the way.
Speaking of the other side, here is a little food for thought: I was talking to someone in spirit a few months ago and asked her what it was like to be on the other side. She chuckled and said, “You’re the one on the other side.” I burst out laughing because I realized she was absolutely right!
What a strange and awesome place this world is. Its no wonder we go through so much trouble to be here now.
Blessings,
Susan
Lisa, I have been bothered by someone from my past that just wont let go, wont move on, and stays hopeful that sometime my decision will magically change to let them back in. What can I do when I have cut ties completely, but this person still tries to write to me, and tries to get contact re-established. I wish no ill on this person, but hope they will heal from the obsession they have allowed them self to sink into. Sometimes it is scary the lengths this person has gone to, I am worried for my safety at times and the safety of my family! How can I get the message across, that this is final and I will not be changing my path to allow this person into my life again? I am tired of having to deal with this person, and I don't want to develop a hatred for them. There is no chance of any kind of reconciliation, honestly!!
@September.... file a restraining order.. nothing gets the point across quicker than that.
ohhhhh lessons of life.....we are all given the signs & how we hear them, when. etc....is when its TIME. Thx Lisa.....as always, your blog is spot on! xxoo
Dear Lisa. I know this in my heart, but sometimes I just need that nudge, that confirmation, that green light. I find so much strength in your blog.
Thank you.
Hi Lisa,
I understand you are touring New Zealand in Feb 2011. I was wondering if you will be visiting Greymouth on your tour. The reason I'm asking is that Greymouth has just recently suffered a major tragedy and 29 miners lost their lives in the Pike River Mine disaster. This was on the news worldwide. They left behind family and friends who are in deep mourning as is the rest of the country. I'm sure your presence there would be of tremendous support to them and you may be able to offer them some comfort. I think they just need to know that their loved ones didn't suffer too much and if they're at peace now. I don't live near Greymouth myself, I live in the North island in Whakatane which is a few thousand miles away but I do feel for those poor families in Greymouth.
I'm asking on behalf of them Lisa.
Thank you for your time.
kind regards
Lydia W.
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