Committing yourself to love!
Sunday, October 10, 2010 at 10:01PM This weekend I was fortunate enough to head to San Francisco to attend a beautiful celebration of two people joining together in marriage. Even though I left a marriage a year ago, I am not one of those people who says 'I'll never marry again' because the reality is, that I will.
We all make choices in our life and those choices can often change as we move through our journey in life. We should never feel guilty about it, but we should accept that it's happened and move on to the next stage in our growth.
I am looking at writing my next book which is about relationships and soul mates, and so this is a topic that is very close to my heart and from what I have discovered is that if we don't get it right the first time, the second time we know our mistakes and we correct them, and we head towards marriage with a different view and understanding.
So as I witnessed Randy and Steve getting married, it took me back to people who I know in life who have met their soul mate, their life partner, the other half and how special that relationship is. When you meet that person you know that you can't live without them and that they complete you. It's very special, but what is even more special is that when you are getting married you choose to declare your love to everyone who is in that room.
It's very easy to elope and run off and get married, and so people choose that and it's the right thing for them but for me it's about declaring your love in front of others and letting everyone know exactly how you feel about each other. Then the commitment of the rings is also another thing that hits me, you are committing to each other.
Whenever I meet people I always look to see if they are wearing a ring, I'm not sure why, but it's something I have always done. I always look for a ring on the left hand. Even if you are not married and you are wearing one that has been given to you from someone else it's a sign of a commitment to that person. I used to wear one before I was married as it was a sign of commitment to myself and to Charlie and that was the reason why Holly and I came up with the 'I believe' ring and no matter which finger you are wearing it on you are committing yourself to believing.
Love is an amazing feeling and when you are committing yourself to someone it's incredible. However when you share your love with others, or when you are with your partner and others feel the love that you have for one another, it helps others to love also. It's contagious. That can't be a bad thing. So never be afraid to tell someone that you love them, no matter in what context whether they are a friend, a lover, family member. It's important to share the love and know that you are loved.
I love you all.
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (46)
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts about soul mates.. I am at work so having a naughty look over. I love it and your right, I feel together with my husband we give more love.. we just want to make others feel special and think alike and love people, our friends. It is powerful. I just want to thank you for bringing this to light. I love you too!
Hi Lisa, so true, & just for the record I love you bunches :) Big hugs.......mauder
Love you too Lisa! ;) xxx
Hello Lisa, so true
I agree and I love you too!
Love you too Lisa xoxo
Yep..i always share my love.. Especially with those who can't say it..I think there's some people who get embarassed sayin, LOVE YOU!!..So i go out my way to say it to those who can't easily express it.... helps them see it's not so hard to say?
Anyway...ditto to what Lisa said...And i love you too XXXXX
LOVE YOUUUUUUUUU xoxoxo
Thanks for letting me know someone loves me- my husband or family doesn't say it (it seems to fall on deaf ears when I say it) and being down at the moment is something I wanted to hear. Appreciate it.
Good morning Lisa
Well as you know, David and I are soul mates. We feel incomplete without each other. It s nice to know and feel that connection. Our family is a very loving one and we say I love you all the time. We respect the words "I love you" and only say it when it is meant. A lot of people through it around when they don't mean it and lesson the effect for themselves of the true meaning of "I love you". Thanks for sharing this Lisa and I love you.
XXX
Love is the most magical thing in the world and if you give it out you get it back ten fold. You radiate love from every pore my sweet so are enveloped in love and that's the way it should be. Mwah! Aaah weddings! Special days to share with special people xx
Toulouse-Lautrec said : The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. (From the movie Moulin rouge)
I live in the city where Toulouse Lautrec was born ! So I had to share this ;)
Love and Light ;)
Wonderful words Lisa! What a beautiful way to start the week reminding people of the one thing we all have to give to each other. L O V E! In every way, shape and form, it softens the hardest person. Brighten someone else's day while brightening your own! :)
"And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make..." Pretty visionary, for a rock song from Lennon/McCartney. Kate is so right. Special thanks for that. You are so deserving of every little bit you get back, & more! <3 <3 <3
LLOOVVEE YYOOUU LLIISSAA!!!!!! ")
Unconditional Love is a gift from God and one that we all have within us to share if we choose to do so.... I choose to tell as many people as I can that I love them and share the love that is overflowing in my heart with others. I love myself just as much as I do my fellow man as we are ONE in love....
I love you Lisa and thank you for spreading your love and energy to so many.
Blessings in Love and Light
Hazel xx
Dear Lisa, I love you too and we all love you. Thank you for this beautiful blog. It's true it is so important to share love and to declare love to those we love.
I'm about to declare my love to a man I met, whatever he will say, I don't mind ;-)
Thank you again Lisa to share your love for others and your love for us and convey such an atmosphere of light.
Much love to you,
Lise
Love is the power that fuels everything... Sending my love to all.
You are so wise, Lisa. Thank you for giving us all something to think about. I also love the comments others have made.
Love and Light,
Tempe
Great blog, Lisa! Sharing true love comes in many forms....and the words I Love You are very powerful, not to be taken lightly or given away in vain, or in fear of not being loved in return. Congratulations to your friends! And here's a toast to true love -- which is everywhere! xo
Love and commitment to each other gets you through the many challenges in a relationship.
My hubby and I have been married for over thirty years and just a few weeks ago, a friend who has been lodging with us for a few months, said what a wonderful marriage we have. One of the things she noticed, was that, even although Col works from home, when he comes in for lunch, he kisses me hello and then goodbye. Actually, he kisses me three times which means that, between the morning goodbye, lunch and arriving home, I get 12 kisses. I also love that we spoon at night when we fall asleep and can laugh together. It's that affection and love for each other that get us through the rough times. Believe me, there have been times over the years where I could have gladly strangled him, being gemini on the cusp of taurus explains that, but what stops me, is the fact that I know we both love each other deeply and there are so many wonderful things that we share that I feel very blessed.
So, for all those lucky folk who have found true love on a soul level, remember to cherish and nurture what you have and compromise and understand where the other person is coming from. A good relationship doesn't mean it's a relationship without flaws. In fact, those very flaws are there to teach and challenge us. There are many things I fought my hubby over, but those were the very things that drove me forward to accomplish my dreams.
Hugs to all,
Jeanette
Beautiful blog! Love is everything as it is truly the heartbeat of the Universe. Nothing else really matters especially if it is devoid of love. Whether you commit openly or not, the true test of love is when two people can withstand the storm and hold each other through it. All the fluff is nice and it is beautiful to show your love to others, but I see all too many marry in the name of love without truly understanding its meaning. So when the fairytale wedding is over, they have not a clue. Love can be celebrated under a sunset, under a moon, in the grass... it is everywhere. when you truly feel this amazing love for your partner, all around will see it without you saying a word.
Love, hugs, and many blessings to you,
DS
Beautiful Blog, Lisa!
Congratulations to your dear Friends!
When you find a life partner to share your good and bad times with, you have a real TREASURE = LOVE. Life becomes so much easier to live because you just KNOW that the other person truly wants the BEST for you.
I found my "treasure" twenty years ago and continue to make it shine everyday. It takes work but it can be done. :)
Best of luck to all treasure hunters! LOVE is the answer to all our problems.
Thanks Lisa for reminding us!
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love is all