Falling in love all over again!
Wednesday, August 19, 2009 at 11:49PM It's been a lovelyi day gearing up for next week, where I am joining forces with my friends at Reflect, and we are holding Empowerment Week!!! I am SO SO SO excited, I can't being to tell you, but I will have to let you wait until tomorrow or maybe over the weekend to share everything. I was working on the website today and it's coming together nicely... YAY!
I have to cut it short as Kev and I had dinner plans with a very dear friend of our's Justin. I met him mom a few years back when we first landed in the US and I even though I never met him until 18 months ago I feel like he is part of our family. He gets married when we are away, and we are devastated, so tonight we decided to celebrate with him and Karina.
It was fabulous, and it was great to be in the center of LA again as we live a little outside. They are such an adorable couple, and I was telling Karina about my wedding day and how you only see a few people out of the many that are there as you walk down the aisle. She is worried about it, but honestly she has nothing to worry about.
But as we were all sharing stories it came to ours, mine and Kev's... and one thing I realized is that no matter how long you are togther and how much you go through, you will always have your ups and downs... but the most important thing is to fall in love again.
It is so true, we all have times where we want to walk away, but you get through it and you look back and think... why did I feel like that when it was a storm in a tea cup (as my grandmother used to say) but it's a huge issue at the time. Then you get through it and find the real reason why you fell in love with them in the first place.
With any relationship, friends, lovers, work collegues... anyone who is part of your life you won't always get along with them ALL the time... it's virtually impossible ... and if you do... your an amazing person, but what is important is to realize your differences and understand their point of view whether you agree or not, and then move on... you can then see why you fell in love with them in the first place and you rekindle your emotion for them... it's important to do and it's part of lifes process.
So if someone has upset you, remember the time that you fell in love with them, and realize that they may have let you down, but if you can get over it then move forward... if you don't think you can then make the choice and decide to be happy and move on and be happy without them in your life. Either way, you are the most important person in your life and you have to live your life to what you want it to be.
Have a wonderful day
With love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (23)
Is it true that I get a GIGANTIC prize for being the first to post a reply?
Why is it that every time you're in LA-proper I'm out of town??
Please stop asking Lisa silly questions
Oh bugger off Benioff, you're just a screenwriter.. AND you write ADAPTATIONS. You don't have the stature to question anything I write.
Sylvia, I think you're under-respecting the art of the screenplay. In fact, "Being John Malkovich" was inspired by one of your poems.
Awesome!.. something fun to look forward to thats great.
Its a shame you can't make the wedding. I totally agree with you..
I too think, we are all imperfect finding new lessons each day.month/year, we cannot always be at our best with those we love although you'd like to be nor can another but moving forward and forgiving another allows us to be imperfect.
Love you!
l'm hearing ya Rachxoxox
Dear people here, hello (this is me smiling today :-) ),
I am happily recovering. I just wanted to share something that I heard about marriages,
they used to say 'Eat, Drink and be merry' for weddings
but someone wrote in a magazine that nowdays they have changed it to
'Eat, Drink and Remarry'. (giggles), lol....
This is just me feeling happier and wanting to share a joke with you all. Me just kidding.
with lots of love and smiles ;-)
The words for better and for worse knew what they were talking about we are doing the 40day love dare to bring back that love we had for each other 30 years ago, fireproof your marrage good dvd to help get back on track
So true Lisa, we really have to accept that any relationship of any kind cannot be perfect, everybody goes through troubles and we don't always react the way we should. The most important is, after some time, to listen to what your heart says and generally it is the truth ;-)
About falling in love, I am right now as I met a wonderful man, he is not late or early but I feel like a new world is opening to me after so many years...
Enjoy your fantastic week-end ;-)
Gros bisous,
Lise
I think life at times becomes mondain,and people get stuck in a rut...it is inportant to find time for each other,to rekindle the original relationship,good post Lisa,bless you x
Hey there Lisa,
Such a sweet blog and so true!
I think many of us go into relationships with certain expectations and when the other person falls short of our expectations we get disappointed and let down. However, it is very tricky especially in new romantic relationships. Initially we ignore all our expectations because of our sexual desire or attraction for the person. This is the 'honeymoon phase' where everything is just so perfect and you feel incredibly connected to this person without really knowing them. It is exciting because you are both getting to know each other and there is so much mystery. The real test of love begins when the conflicts and problems kick into the picture and each of you has to lean on the other. It is definitely not always easy but if you both work through it, your love deepens. It may not be like the honeymoon phase, but you do get glimpses of it and that same old feeling slips back in with the moon and stars and planets all aligned. On different level this can take place at work with colleagues and friends. You start out loving each other and have common interests but eventually there may be a conflict about politics, religion, or whatever. It is all a big test. I really worry about those who say they have no problems in their relationships and everything is just so perfect. Yes, there are those couples that may be more compatible, but you have to have some disagreements. I would hate to be with someone who agreed with me all the time as I would not like to be with someone who always disagreed with me. How boring would that be? :) Just my humble take on it.
By the way, I love your grandmother's saying "why did I feel like that when it was a storm in a tea cup"
Love and Hugs,
DreamSpirit
Good words, Lisa....
Dear Lisa, what you wrote was very beautiful. I joked back because I did not know what to say. It is different over there. You get to choose the person you want to marry. That would mean that you were very much in love at the point of marriage. I find it hard to talk about marriage because for us, the person is chosen for you. You turn up for your wedding and then after that it is in your hands to make the marriage work. You still go through the hard times and the good times but you always wonder somewhere in your heart what is it like to choose the person, what is it like to fall in love. Somewhere in not being given the choice to choose the person you marry, you also learn to be very loyal to the person that is chosen for you. One does not get to walk out or leave the marriage. The person who chooses your husband does not care if you are happy. It is a matter of family reputation and honour that you marry once and remain married till the end of your life. Such was my marriage in the year 2004. In such marriages family property/assets gets transfered giving status/bind to the marriage.
My husband is a very nice person but.......there is a but.........
So whenever I hear about love and romance for you all, I think that it is very beautiful. Beautiful because it is natural and not almost forced.
Sometimes I tell my hubby that he feels like my big brother. He laughs, he is good natured and kind. I don't know if it is possible to understand what I am saying.
Sometimes the You gets lost. Weddings are about family, what other people want and about sacrifice over here. I like the way you all have it over there. Either way a lot of risk is involved in marriage. One becomes very vulnerable. Sometimes luck is needed. My grandpa used to say 'if your luck is good, your life will be good but if your luck is bad, your life will be hard'.
So cheers and wishing happiness to you all. ((((Hug)))) With love, from me.
Justin and Karina are lucky to be considered your family! They must know that you and Kev will be w/ them in spirit during the wedding day! Weddings are a great opportunity to join in the love energy the new couple feels for one another and strengthen your love bond w/ your own partner! Something about coming home after enjoying an evening in the presence of so much love as at a wedding....your relationship w/ your partner seems lighter! I love weddings! Love and Light to you Lisa!! Can't wait to see you in October!!!
Okay....I'm lovin' that "storm in a tea cup" quote from your grandma! Grandma's are so smart, they have lived long enough and through enough to know what they are talking about, if we only take the time to reflect on what they tell us!
When we are young we look at these remarks as "Oh, you don't know what you're talking about" but as we get older we start repeating what they have told us.
Time and life experiences show us that maybe they knew more than we thought they did.
I used to have a saying with my kids that would make them laugh when they would say that I didn't know what I was talking about. I used to tell them "You better do everything you need/want to now because when you get to be my age, you will be as stupid as me." We would all laugh.Humor can always help us get through.
I have been married for 33 years and have had many storms in that tea cup but over time we have learned not to sweat the small stuff so much. Our emotions can brew and can turn that storm in to a hurricane. If we step back and wait a while then the anger is less and that storm will disapate much easier.
Over the years I have become so analytical that I find that I am always analyzing my own emotions and why I am upset, I'm not sure if that is good or bad but it seems to help me to be more fair. It gives me that time to step away and remove the anger or the hurt and just look at the issue.
Have you ever been hurt or angry, sat and had a good cry and afterwards tried to figure out why you were so angry or hurt? It can be enlightening when you try to analyze your own feelings and the other persons at the same time.
I know...I am strange but my hubby always tells me it is a gift and that I am the only person he knows that can analyze my own feelings to be fair to the other person.
Glad you got to spend some time with your friend and his fiance before you leave.
Nothing better than time with friends!
{{hugs}}
Ok... well marriage to me is a four letter word.. but we wont go there LOL..... i wish them the best and anyone who wants to take that plunge.... i used to believe in it.. but i think it was more that little girl fantasy and was dissilusioned quickly.. so tried it twice, got both tee-shirts but they dont look good on me!!! LOL....
i do agree that you need to be happy and that you can only try so much.... Great blog today..... HEY CINDY!!! *waves above her*
Wow.... thinking about this, I dont know that I have ever fell in love with someone all over again... Usually the case that when theres a fight or argument of some sort, with any of my relationships I tend to carry the hurt for a long time. Sometimes things never feel the same to me after that, and if its continuous then eventually that builds and builds and I just drift away......
That has always been the case with me. I do plead to work things out with people as the situation happens, but even if I am in the right or wrong, it doesnt change the fact that I eventually drift instead of stay. If I do stay, it eventually is the case that I am just going through the motions of what I feel is expected of me. Thats kind of weird now that I think about it... interesting. Good eye opener I guess.
There are some though that I weather the storm with from my past.... and they will continue to be in my life forever regardless ( all my chicago friends and a few childhood friends). I think it's the impact of the relationship I have with some perhaps....
Gotta think on that one..
Anyway, hope you have a great show tonight girl, an tommarrow as well. Safe travels to you lisa.
Atmos
Great post today, Lisa, and so true! We get married and have "stars" in our eyes and then the reality sets in! It isn't always a "bed of roses" but we are lucky if we can work through the ups and downs. It isn't until they are gone that we realize how lucky we were that they were in our lives at all. I know that my marriage wasn't easy and I had a lot to go through with my husband's illness but I know in my heart that it was meant to be and he was the love of my life! If only we could have had a few more years. Ah... the memories you have brought back today, Lisa! The song of the day that Keith posted for me on the site today says it all. "We've saved the best for Last!" We are lucky when we have found the best!
Hope your show tonight and tomorrow go well for you as I'm sure they well. Safe travels and enjoy!
Hugs,
Anna
Hey Ally!
*Waves back*
I will have to call you one of these days! In Florida again right now, fighting ants but TG we are winning the battle! Always something but still feel blessed to be here!
Sending GIGANTIC {{{{HUGS}}}
Love ya,
Cindy xo
Hi Lisa, what you had to say is so true and I am forwarding your blog to a person close to me that could really use it to read today. Anyway, I have a daughter named Karina and that is a pretty rare name especially spelled that way so how cool!!
Love & Hugs, Judi :)
Have fun with your guests!
Hi Lisa
Totally agree on the marriage blog! and Whoo hoo ........... just found out you are coming to Brisbane.
Met you briefly in the hotel when you were in Sydney at breakfast. I was there from South Africa. Now living in Brisbane and I am thrilled that you are heading this way again. Always watched your show in South Africa and now just seen it will be on here from Saturday.
Thanks in advance for coming back here.
Barbara
Lisa,
What an incredibly uplifting blog, that is the seconde time you have made my day today :D and that is a really big thing, I thank you for that. So much happiness is oosing from this blog post I love it!!! and I love the topic it is so true, everytime I look at my partner I fall in love all over again, they always ask me, aren't you tired or bored of me yet but I don't think that is even possible, we get through everything together, yes we have our ups and downs but then I look into their eyes, I think back to the first time we met and everything that has happened since and yet again I fall in love.
Love is such a glorious thing :D
I hope you have a wonderful time on the Empowerment week, I know that you will, I wanted to go but of course I'm a Aussie haha so its not in the country but seeing you in Perth will be fantastic enough as it is.
Love, light and gratitude for bringing such joy into my dull day,
Krystal