Truth!
Saturday, August 15, 2009 at 09:56PM Yesterday was the office girls night out so I wasn't really in the mood to blog last night when I got back at 2.30am... it probably wouldn't have made sense either, but we all had fun.
You know today we had friends around and it was so nice to sit around and chat, and relax with them. But I found that with one of my friends, I had to be honest with. They have a friend who I feel has taken advantage of them. I am not normally one for saying anything but recently I have found the voice within me, and the strength I need to speak my mind.
It's not a bad thing as I tend to 'feel' the energy before and see how far I can go, and today was one of those days where I felt I could say it how it was. I almost used the line 'Do you want to know everything?' But decided that was taking it a little too far, I started to be honest with him and truthful. I found that he listened and took on board what I had said.
He sat back and a few hours later he came back to me and said, you know you are right... another friend of mine had the same observation, and he is great with people and can read them and of course you are psychic so there has to be some truth in it.
It was just my observation, and I told them, but ultimately I cannot do anything about it. I can point out certain things to people as I do daily with my work, but I don't live their life so I cannot tell them what to do, they have to find their own way in life.
Which lead me on to another point that we were discussing, you can't own other peoples feelings. You have to be honest with yourself, and do what you want to do... of course, you don't walk over people, but you have to be true to yourself, and if someone else doesn't like it, you have to accept that they don't like it, but you can't own their feelings... you cannot carry that feeling with you.
Yes you may not like upsetting someone, and I am one of those people but you have to do what you want in life and be true to yourself.
So it was a day of truths. We should never be scared of the truth because it will make you stronger in life and also believe in yourself...
Have a lovely rest of the weekend!
Hugs
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (34)
So many truths there Lisa. I know there are things from this blog I need to work on myself. Thank you for posting this.
I am glad you had a good night out with the girls. :)
Take care
*hugs*
Kaz
thank you Lisa so very "true"
hugs
Dawn
Thanks for this one, Lisa. I had an experience last night that has had me reeling today. My daughter and her best friend were at the movies and the best friend's mom drove them home. She was extremely angry with them because she says that they were not honest with what time the movie got out, they were with 2 strange boys, and they were outside of the theatre waiting instead of inside. Well, the movie got out right on time (I had texted my daughter and know this), the boys were a cousin of the best friend (who the mom knows, obviously!) and a gay friend from school. They were outside the theatre seated at the bench near the security guards. Anyway, the mom sat in front of me calling her daughter and my daughter names, dropping the "f" word, and generally acting like a wild woman with her mouth. I am divorced from an abusive man and so I made the quick decision to not say anything to this woman so as not to anger her anymore because she had two kids in the car with her. I was not going to put it past this mom to put the car in park and get out to kick my bum. When my daughter and I got into our house, I right away explained myself to my daughter, and then spent the following hour or so chatting with her about choices about split second decisions on reactions to people. It was eye-opening for both of us. I still felt guilty today for not sticking up for my daughter in front of her, but my gut was and still is telling me that I made the right decision. I will be calling the mom and giving her a piece of my mind, but I will do it in as peaceful a way as I can. My purpose in life is peace, after all, and I intend to stick to my purpose.
Peace,
Michella
Hello Lisa,
I also don't like to upset people but sometimes I've got to tell them something that they may not like but it has to be done.
I'm please that you had a great night out with the girls.
I hope that you have a lovely rest of the weekend as will.
I hope you are having a great weekend! <3
Dearest Lisa, my Grandpa passed away recently and I wrote a heartfelt tribute for his tribute book. It took a lot of effort and love on my part. The tribute made my hubby cry because he was very touched. But one person insulted me after reading my tribute for Grandpa. This person called me a hypocrite. The only reason that there is a scar in my heart now is because the person who called me that term was my own mother. So I spend so much of my thoughts these days wondeing if I am a good person or a bad person. My whole life, I have been trying to get my mother's approval of me. The sad part is why would a person want to be insulting towards another person during a greiving time after a funeral. The painful part is that I always remember the insults rather than the good things that I am told about myself. But I cannot understand why when one person is being nice, another person would want to hurt them. I know my own truth and my own feelings for my Grandpa. My hubby tells me that my mum is jealous of her own daughter. But sometimes Lisa, I worry whether I am the bad one. I just feel lost why a kind gesture can go unappreciated. Is it not a mothers place to protect and love her own kid cos if the mother does not stand up for the child who else is going to be supportive of the child? If I become a mum someday, I hope not to be like my mum. If a child wrote a beautiful tribute for a Grandparent, I would have praised and encouraged the child. I would ache that my kid is feeling emotional hurt and I would be very kind to the child. Sometimes all this makes me feel very unlovable. But I have accepted rejection from my mother. I am probably not the type of kid that she wanted.
Nevermind, Lisa. It is very comforting to write to you. Thanks for taking the time to read this. (((((Hugs))))
I have never been like others.
EVER.
When I hear the line be truthful with yourself.... I honestly don't know what that means.
Because others lives do not speak to me and no coventional advice seems to fit me.. I have to make decision with nothing to base it on.
I struggle with that. It would be easier to see othes like myself or hear advice that fits.
Many times being truthful to me means doing things that are not acceptable. Nothing to hurt anyone... but could hurt me.
Looking back, if I hadn't followed some dangerous paths I would not have had the self esteem I have or growth.
Most of the truth that has helped me would not normally be advisable.
I just struggle with following your own truth. Maybe I should just realise that truth for me is anything but what is done or obvious.... ughh
Great Blog, Lisa!!! It's so true!!! Much Love <3 <3 <3
Glad you had a fun night out. Honesty is not always easy that is true.
I think more people need to want people to be honest with them too in fact.
Its a sign of a good friend I think. I love you!
So important to be true ...to yourself and what you feel and see, and to others. ( I often wonder if I see something doesn't that mean that the person is ready,- would I see it otherwise...this has confused me many times..)
-And at the time that feels right for you. No need to push or force a moment, it will come Michella. And to Chitra; what you are experiencing is the hardest,- to be constantly put down or rejected by your own mother....It is hard but somehow it teaches us how we do not want to be with our own children. I hope you learn that the good things in life are for you too, -not only the difficult...
Lisa I'm so grateful I can take my brother to your Manchester show. He is 23 years older than me and a huge fan of yours. We are having a family -holiday , 5 of us for the first time in years, -thanks to you.
Hi Lisa and everyone,
Sorry, this is not a response to your blog. I just was busting to tell you that I did my Quarantine Station Ghost Tour last night (in Many, Sydney), and it was FANTASTIC!!!!! It was toned down somewhat because it was the "Family" tour, and we took 2 of our kids along. The tour guide was excellent, telling lots of interesting and scary stories, as well as doing some things which caused some of the younger female participants to scream their lungs out (our ears were literally ringing!) I took 50 photos, many of which showed orbs of various sizes. Didn't actually see any apparitions (although others have seen some on some tours), but it certainly is a VERY scary place (especially the shower block and morgue).
I highly recommend it for anyone interested in the paranormal. If anyone wants to check it out, go to www.qstation.com.au
And Lisa, I really recommend you go there when you visit Sydney in September. Would love to see you do a show about your experiences there. It is said to have around 40 spirits there.
Anyway, I'm still on cloud 9 and looking fwd to returning there to do the Paranormal Investigator Tour next.
Woohoo! And loving it! :D
Deb R
Oops, I meant to type "Manly, Sydney", not "Many".
By the way, when I get a chance, I'll post some of my orb photos on the LW members site to show you.
Deb R
Absolutely Lisa...in the past 5 years or so, I have found this easier to be and do...including listening to my own voice within, properly !!!
Life feels so much different and it seems that things like this, come much easier with age...Others had told me this would happen...and it has come to fruition...
I think it is wonderful your friend has 'listened' .. another important thing we all learn to do more easily...as time goes by...
I hope you are having a great weekend !!! Dinner sounded great fun !!!
Love
Sharon xoxo
l am hearing ya Lisa. All you can do is put it out there and the rest is up to your friends,their choices,their journey.Hugs Rachxoxo
So very true Lisa.
I guess it's all in the delivery, and how you tell someone something they may not want to hear.
I'm pretty sure you have this down pat :)
I was watching your show last night, and a question came to mind - you answered it 5 minutes later - he he!
I was curious as to your son's abilities in the psychic area.
G
xx
Hi Lisa,
Well, just that you struggle with these issues shows what a wonderful, caring and compassionate person you are! You don't want to hurt anyone, but if things seem unfair and hurtful to someone, it is hard not to do something to at least give them an equal chance at defending themselves! Telling the truth is never wrong! Feel good; you did the right thing!
Love and hugs!
Cheryl
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Truth, and goodness, and beauty are but different faces of the same all.
You know .... i have been taken advantage of so many times for fear of hurting others, i even got sucked into a situation that took me several years to get out of becuase i didnt want to hurt someone else.... now, i say what i need to say... i am gentle (i hope) and i am kind... but i wont let that happen again you cant if you want to be true to yourself.
I was a carpet that people would walk on when I was younger. I was so shy and had such low self esteem.
As I got older and started to stand up for myself both my self esteem and the respect that I got from others increased. Even my husband has said that he loves me more now than when we were first married.
I try to be kind but sometimes truth can be so much more important.
My group of friends call me because they know that I won't take sides when something has upset them. I will tell them the truth of what I see.
Trust comes from honesty, fairness and loyalty in my mind.
If a friend calls and needs me to be there for them , I will listen, ask questions based on fairness and truth and allow them to see all sides of the issue and most times they can see for themselves if they are being fair. The loyalty is that you never discuss with anyone what they have said to you.
Cindy XO
salvation, You touched my heart this e you talking about me a reason I'm often hard on myself it must become our own friends or be honest if we love not our life we must accept my destiny I accept my my gifts my family disease and poverty that threatens everything but sometimes I wonder why I have this life why it does not work and I doubt ... I found the world who loves me just for me and support me that I did not manage it any thing. Lisa I have sent an e-mail I want to realize my dream and I do not get discouraged I will make as much as possible to my goal lisa I love you I'm sure. a subscription to your web site thank you and accept you give me a bit of confidence today. I have a lot of love in me right now and I would like to share with all ... I really love you all. courage, love, sincerity. Noémie Beauchamp xxx
Lisa, I totally agree with you. I think you did the right thing. Choosing to tell your friend an unpleasant thing was only for his best so I really think it is positive. And as said Cheryl who also quoted Emerson: "Truth is never wrong". We must always follow our heart and instinct.
Have a lovely sunday ;-)
Lise
Hey there Lisa,
Right on Lisa! Cheers to you girl for helping that friend of yours. It is not easy telling someone the truth especially if you know that person is going to hurt. I admit sometimes these situations backfire, but you are right that you can't take ownership of the outcome and of the other persons feelings. Being true to him and yourself is really what matters. You may have saved him more years of pain. Sometimes people just need a little emotional push in order to see things more clearly, more objectively. We have all been there where we are with the wrong person, but our emotions get the better of us. Even though we know the person is wrong for us, we continue to stay in that bad relationship enduring the pain hoping it will change. I am sure you may have had this said to you in your life being a psychic. 'How come you didn't see it coming? You of all people should have known." What many people just don't get is yes, you are psychic, but you are still a person with emotions. So when it is someone else, it is much easier to be objective because you are not emotionally involved. We all get caught in the web of love and no one is really excluded. I am guessing this is how we learn.
If you live each day true to yourself and others, you will always sleep well. :)
Love~n~Hugs,
DS
Dear everyone, it is very touching to read everything that you all share in this blog.
To Lene, thank you so much for your kind words. It means alot to me. I hope that you have a good holiday to Manchester. I will always remember what your kind words.. :-)
To Lisa, you were being a caring and protective friend. You spoke the truth because you cared. That is a good thing to do. I once read about a psychic who attended a wedding for her friend. At the wedding, she went up to the groom and told him that he should not marry the bride because she could already sense that the bride would get a boob job within five years of the marriage and after that she would leave him. The groom smiled and told the psychic that he would take his chances because he was in love with the woman and he was just about to walk down the aisle for his marriage. Unfortunately, within five years the bride really went for a boob job and she really left the guy soon after. Poor guy. I remember that story because the psychic already knew on his wedding day what lay ahead for him but he sort of doubted her then.
It was nice to share with you all. To Neomie Beauchamp, we all love you too. Sending out hugs for all of you, too. Have a nice day and be happy. with lots of love.
Chiatra,
Sounds like your going to be a marvelous Mom one of these days...
YOU can break the cycle... It was sooo wrong for your mother to say such a thing to you. Hurtful, Mean and down right filled with negative emotions... You will never know the "why" in what she said...forgive her, and move on. You are a good person.. you loved your Gramps...and love is always a good thing...
Share it with as many as you can... If they dont want to accept the love you put forth... thats their choice, and their loss... not yours... You gave it freely and they chose to say no thank you....
Lifes the school, loves the lesson...Some have to repeat kindergarten a few times before they get it!!!
{{{HUGS}}}}
Lisa,
A good friend will tell you the truth always. Bless you for being that friend to him.