We all need some privacy!
Monday, July 6, 2009 at 03:18PM Finally we are back to normal having internet, like I said in one of my blogs, how we rely on technology! We are now spending the rest of the week seeing friends and relaxing before we head home, and I have to say I am missing home. I never thought I would miss my house and dogs so much... but most of all my bed!
I have loved being away from our friends wedding but just the simple things in life I miss. Walking my dogs in the morning, going to the office and chatting to Trish, Jonesy and Caroline, Taking Charlie to school. It's amazing how you miss those things.
It's part of our daily routine and as much as I love change I also love routine. I suppose I am like a child where I feel safe in a routine. I was walking around a local town today with my head down not wanting anyone to recognise me, and talk to me... as I was out of my comfort zone!
We can all be like that, but there are some people who push themselves to be out of their comfort zone and others who don't like it. I am a bit of both. I like it but then I don't. I get embarrassed if someone knows who I am or some one wants to 'show me off' I hide behind Kev, and thankfully he lets me hide. Strange really when you sould think having a camera in your life for days on end... you wouldn't be like that, but we all need our privacy.
Kev has taught me that. I would be one who would tell you my whole life story in the first 5 minutes of knowing you, but he has helped me realize that people don't need to know everything (in your life, spirit is different) so I think thats where it's come from.
So I have had a shy day and believe it or not, I can be shy!!! ha ha ha!
There is nothing in that! Keeping things away from people is not a bad thing and leaves a lot to the imagination.
I believe we all need our privacy, and we have the right to decide when we are going to use it. We don't have to shout out to the world, we can deal with things privately and thats your right and up to you!
Ok I am heading to bed, I have interviews in the morning with BBC WM 95.6FM and also bbc radio worcester. Fun!
Have a great day!
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (26)
I can imagine how being a public figure would change the way that people relate with you, and sometimes this can become a negative thing!
I know exactly what you mean because I am like what you just said too =)
A bit of both... Some people describe me as shy and quiet, others describe me as the "welcome wagon"... and I've had coworkers joke about if they want to know about another coworker who they themselves don't really care to talk to... they say "just ask Vy! she talks to everyone!" lol
But I think all the differences in perceptions of me just happens to be when and where those people have encountered me....
And I love routine, but I love change and doing different things too...
Hey... variety... it's the spice of life! ^_-
Sleep with Angels and have a wonderful rest of the trip!!
<3<3
Dear lisa,
On my last blog, I asked if anyone knew how to reach you by face book because, I don't know how to use it. I am a member but haven't written to anybody,yet. If your message was directed towards me, I am sorry. The last thing I was trying to do was be a bother. I just heard you mentioning blogging on facebook.
I wanted to give my opinion on a subject that this site didn't seem to be a forum for.
Love to you all,
Kim
I understand totally how you feel and your right...whether famous or not...we all deserve privacy and to keep some things to ourselves...there in lies the mystery...
Change is only as good as you feel comfortable about it but sometimes you just have to take a risk too , you can always pick yourself up and start again...from whatever it might have been...all part of continuously learning about ourselves and life...
Do whatevery feels right...
Love and hugz
Sharon xx
Instead of thinking that I am keeping things "from" someone, I choose to think of it as keeping things "for" me.
Hi Lisa,
I totally understand what you mean in your blog, whilst being in the spotlight must have it's good days you are still human & need private time. It must be annoying to be noticed on the days you dont feel like it. I am a very shy person indeed & often just keep to myself when not in my comfort zone.
I enjoy reading & commenting on your blog though & reading everyone elses comments & opinions. It's a comfortable zone!
Hope you get home to your puppies soon!
Have a lovely day :)
Lara Haidary
I believe every one has a right to privacy.
can u give a shout out to my anunt Jan & uncle Keith Elliott they are in Evesham / Pershore from LIL Keith in TEXAS.
big Hugs to ya Lisa
Keith thee yorky puddin
Blessings to you and your family Lisa
I traveled to England a lot and loved it... But no matter how good the food, the hotel or how nice the people, I missed my own bed.
Very nicely said. We thought in communications class that are 4 three areas of communications. 1) Small talk – getting to know someone. 2) Shared beliefs 3) Some shared secrets and the final --- don’t go there. We can choose to move into these areas at our own pace as we build trust between the people in the relationship.
It is all about building trust over time. Some people we trust right away and we go to shared secrets… others we may never go there with.
Lisa you are a bit different you have a bit of an advantage. Your guides may tell you our secrets and you know us before we know you. However you still have every right to disclose what you want to whom you want. To be as private as you want and need.
I hope that everyone honors eachother’s privacy and that we know when to let people in and when not to.
Be well be blessed
Rg
Hi Lisa,
I also know what you mean, (but for other reasons) I can go out of my way to be friendly and outgoing, but beneath it all I can have a fear of saying, or doing something wrong, or offending someone, when it is neer my intention (well, it would be VERY noticable, if I were angry!) Perhaps there are days when I don't think I look my best, or feel very well, so I would rather not have to interact much with others. People are complicated and it is hard to say what each one needs, but some basics such as love and some alone time are fairly essential to everyone. It is unfortunate that people who are famous seem to be forced into relinquishing a large amount of privacy in exchange for that fame. It is too bad, though that people don't keep a respect for the person who is famous and allow them the basic freedoms we all have a right to demand. Being famous doesn't make a person less of a human, and it certainly does not give other people the right to infringe on their privacy! It is unfortunate that people are put in the positiion of giving up their privacy, or looking like a grouch, if they don't happen to feel like being on display at that particular time! It must be a difficult balance to maintain!
Take care, have fun, and hurry home!
Love and hugs,
Cheryl
Hello Lisa, I understand what you say and of course you should have some privacy that is so normal. Even if you're always nice and open to people to chat and know them, it doesn't mean that you have to do it all the time, that's impossible. You need time for yourself as everybody.
Myself, there are some moments when if I go down the streets I'm willing to smile to people and look at everybody and see what they do and sometimes, I don't know why, I look at the pavement and walk as if I were doing a race even if I 'm not in a hurry but that's how I feel.
Your bed is waiting for you too ;-)
Have a great day !
Gros bisous ;-)
Lise
Yeah, we all need time to ourselves!!! : ) Change, Comfort, and Complex!!! LOL : ) Much Love you and everyone <3 <3 <3
I can so relate :) I am all out there in the first five minutes myself. I laughed at that. Take the hermit modes when you feel guided. I really believe it is our higher self telling us it is break time or that the information we may normally share is not safe with the person we are dealing with at the moment.
Many Blessings!
Lisa
Just by posting this I'm probably contributing to the lack of privacy issue, but my wife and I just watched you on TV a few minutes ago and were deeply touched.
We just moved relocated to the East Coast (from Los Angeles) and though we're missing family, friends and the familiarity of 'home', it's very nice to live somewhere nobody knows us. Privacy - like sleep - is vital.
Hi Lisa,
I love you! .. today i'm not even going to attempt to write anything because i'm having a brain freeze day.. sometimes bloggin is out of my comfort zone. lol...
thanks for sharing you are so sweet.
Hi Lisa,
Have a Wonderful Fun filled time. Enjoy your over due Privacy!! :-)
hugs and love,
oo
Hi Lisa!
I have followed you for years now - and today I must thank you for your blog, saying that "everyone doesnt need to know everything" - and it is ok to he shy, to be a bit alone for a while.... -
having a stressful job, and a lot of friends and family expecting a lot of me all the time, it has been a difficult period - but I think I know what to do - and your words today supports that.
I dont have to "be there" for everyone - as a matter of fact, perhaps they could be there for me for a while...
Wishing you a nice summer with your loved ones.
Tone
Hi Lisa, Ha, I related to your blog today too. I tend to tell people far too much about myself too, too soon. Often I kick myself later and I have been trying to remember that it isn't a necessary part of bonding with people, or maybe necerssary to bond with every person I meet. I think it is because it works... it makes people feel related, understood, bonded, in many situations, I think of sharing myself as giving a gift....usually I share to show an area of understanding or similarity with another person, but have to remember it isn't always appropriate or always received in the way it was given... nor is the receiver always someone who I should have trusted. To be authentic and open is a normal part of my nature and it is odd for me as I have matured to realise I CAN and possibly SHOULD hold some things back. :-) I often consider how, if I was famous, my normal way of being would completely ruin my life as I would far too often say things that could be well misconstrued. I think you have done very well Lisa at always coming off as a naturally lovely person in everything you say and do, you seem to negotiate fame with incredible dignity.
Hi Lisa,
Thanks for this post of yours. It is all true. I think this is most people's nature to be greedy for change and once it has happened, you are becoming greedy for routine. When you are abroad, you are homesick, when you are at home for too long - you start thinking of going somewhere. I believe that the biggest problem is to strike a balance between this and that, which is sometimes a bit problematic. It is good then to have somebody 'at hand' to help you find yourself on the right track. In my case, (just as in yours) it is obviously my wife and my son. ALso... your programs shown these days on TV help me regain balance in some way. After each program, which we watch with rapt attention, I feel I need to slow down again think about things etc. Thanks.
Hi Lisa, I totally get the privacy thing. When i saw you walking down the street in Rockford i soo wanted to jump out of our truck and say something but then i thought you may have been walking to relax before the show.
I'm sure there are people who just get too excited and can't help themselves. Ha
I can usually talk to anyone, my daughter thinks i'm silly for saying things to people in the stores.... then at other times i'm quiet, just depends on the circumstances. Hope you have a relaxing rest of your holiday. Love,Chick
Hey there Lisa,
It is totally understandable that you would miss your home and routine. You are travelling most of the year. No wonder you are missing home and your own bed. I love to travel myself but get home sick after a couple of weeks. Although we try to make every space we are in like home, it truly is not the same. When I hit my late 30s, I used to feel like the most boring person because I started to have a routine...LOL. However, a routine actually keeps me grounded or I would be all over the place like I was in my younger years. Without even realizing it, you probably developed a travel routine for when you are on the road, but I am sure it does not have the same feel as when you are home.
I can't imagine what it is like for you in public places. It is truly not fair for people to bother you on your leisure time. You absolutely should be able to have some privacy. I mean you give so much of yourself that people should understand when you need to just be, not do, and not say. So chill out girl knowing it is ok to be shy and a bit reserved. I always say that I am shy and some people laugh, but I truly am. I bet you get the same thing...LOL.
Yay... I have you on my calendar tomorrow so I can purchase presale tickets. woohoo!
Have a pleasant restful day of fun!
Lots of Hugs,
DreamSpirit
Hi Lisa
I'm shy too and if I see anyone famous I ignore them so you've got no chance of getting me for a street reading LOL.
Lisa's latest radio appearances available to UK fans. Unfortunately I think there's a region block for people outside the UK but you could give it a try and see if it works.
Links and info:-
BBC Radio WM
http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p003lm26/Mornings_with_Joanne_Malin_07_07_2009/
01 : 10 : 40 to 01 : 26 : 10
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BBC Radio H & W
http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p003lmnt/Andrew_Easton_07_07_2009/
01 : 31 : 20 to 01 : 49 : 15
Regards,
PSVC2
(Liverpool, UK)
XXX
Part of the links got missed off so here they are again:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p003lm26/
Mornings_with_Joanne_Malin_07_07_2009/
http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p003lmnt/
Andrew_Easton_07_07_2009/
PSVC2
(Liverpool, UK)
XXX
Everyone needs privacy, celeberity or not and I believe that whole heartly. I hope you and your family has a great holiday, and I hope you get home to your normal life at home, your bed and to your puppies. Give a kiss and hug to the puppies for me. Hugs to Kevin and your little boy Charlie. Have a great and blessful holiday.
Peace and privacy are essential to personal well being.
Best,
Laura
my mike has taught me that, too, in a way, as have other people. somedays i just feel really quiet and private ... and i don't feel like most people really listen anyway! but yea. what sounds nice is a hot bath with candles, then meditation, and privacy! i think i'm in that kindof mood today. and speaking of being out of our comfort zone, please send me good energy as i may be moving to oregon soon! i love it there so much, and i am afraid i will miss my family a lot =(. it'll just be me and mike. i hope i meet friend there! and have a baby eventually. anyway, pls cross your fingers for me!