Strip away the ego!
Wednesday, July 22, 2009 at 10:29PM We had such an overwhelming response to Kev's post that it's going to take us a little longer to go through these and choose the one that impacts us the most. Incredible you really have tugged our heart strings! Thank you. So we will get back to you in the next few days on this one!
Now over the last few days there has been a common thread in my life with people and their problems... and that is EGO! Yes, we all have it, but it's how we use it that is the difference. I have had people who have boasted that they are better than others, and others who are fighting... oh the list goes on!
Ego is something we all have. It helps us get the most of of life sometimes and it's necessary in certain aspects of life. I personally hate to have it. I don't like it... but I know its part of life that we all have. Without my ego I wouldn't have set up the site and done some amazing things.
However there is always a time and place for it. There is a time that it needs to come out and shine, and then there is a time that it needs to hide away and let our inner beauty shine. That is when we really see the true self. I have to have ego in every business meeting but get me out of that, I strip it off like an over coat and get me back to being humble and honest and doing what I do for the real reason!
I often look at my make up being the ego... I put it on, and then I take it off and then you see the real Lisa warts and all!
So over the last few days I have dealt with petty arguments and comments (none family related... we're as happy as larry) but with clients, business associates etc.
Sometimes allowing someone to see the real you, is trusting. People will trust you more, than if you talked your way through so much BS.
Hollywood is full of it... Egos so to strip it away is fantastic and something we all need.
So next time you feel the ego coming on... ask... do I need it, or can I strip it? There of course is a time and place for it and it's needed, but be real and honest with yourself... you may surprise yourself and others!
It's a very exciting day tomorrow for us. I have my crazy MAD friend, Sue coming from Spain and she is bringing Charlie back with her... I can't wait! The house is going to be back to it's normal buzzing self!
Hugs and love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (27)
Thank you Lisa for this thought.
Welcome home Charlie
Hope you had a fun time in Spain
Hugs
Chrisje
Great blog! So true and everyone can relate to it.
Best of luck to everyone in the contest! I need to read up on all the stories... =)
And yay your baby but not so baby boy is coming back home to you! =)
I hope everyone has a wonderful day and evening!
With Love,
Vy
(((((((Lisa)))))))))) I gotta say that I see absolutely no ego in you at all! I only know you as the true compassionate, loving and down to earth person that you are. Ego is soooooooo just not a part of you. Unlike many other well known ppl, you are one of the very few who has not let your popularity go to your head and I thnk that is exactly why so many of us love and respect you. Nothing plastic, nothing fake about you:)
Now how's that commercial go...l"let go my eggo, in this case, ego" lol
How wonderful Charlie will soon be home with you and what a happy reunion that will be for all of you:) I can easily envision all the hugs and no doubt your heart is feeling pure joy at the thought of hugging your little man.
XOXOXX
Yeap, my ego can the better of me ,especially when l am trying to prove a point to my hubby. It's part of our life lesson among other things to know when the ego is needed and when it is not. It would be foolish for me to say that l don't have an ego because l do .l am pretty positive that most of the time the ego is under control but like you said , sometimes we do need the ego to accomplish certain things or get our message across.You my girl seem so down to earth ,don't ever loose that because that is what makes LW special and you don't need those big heads in hollywood to tell you any different. The proof is in the pudding,just look at your fan base,but you know that anyway.Hugs and Kisses Rach xoxo
Thank you Lisa, for raising this important consideration for all of us, the humans beasts as we are! hehehe xo
I have always envisioned that our ego is a foundation for our sense of self-identity and that it is not a negative force in and of itself, but is either healthy or unhealthy, with a range along the spectrum.
Ultimately, I feel that the energies based in trust create an ego and behaviors that are healthy and value adding to the self and others...whereas the energies based in fear create an ego and behaviors that are unhealthy with detrimental affects on the self and others. I think one can be strong and empowered, humble and compassionate...with a healthy ego.
Welcome home CHARLIE!!!!!
LOVE and warm wishes for a wonderful day of homecoming for you all!!
xoxo
Heike
As Dr Wayne Dyer says EGO = Edging God Out !! I have never forgotten that when i hear people say ego
Luv and Peace xoxo
Hello Lisa,
I am catching up with the last blogs as I'm back from Barcelona. That's great for Kev's blog, what a success !
Talking about ego, yes we all have one and this is a part in me I sometimes don't like at all but as you said it also helps very much in certain circumstances. It's a strength really.The thing is we have to be careful and use it properly ;-)
I know sometimes I feel that people, a friend or whoever is giving up on me but on top of being a problem of insecurityy it is also my ego talking, it's the little child that wants to be in the middle.. So as you said Lisa, it's good to know it and try to stifle it ;-))
Lots of love to you and your family and have a great time with Sue ! ;-)
Lise
Welcome home, Charlie! America has missed you, love.
Glad you will all be together, Lisa. Hugs and kisses to you all.
By the way, I've never noticed your "ego" when I have been around you....you are so down-to-earth and real....never change!
peace....deb t/illinois
Hey there Lisa,
So, so true about stripping the ego! Wow... you are a wise one! I never really looked at it that way, but you are so spot on. There are definitely times during business when you need some ego to get things done. However, it is so key to know when ego is no longer needed. Here is a personal story I will share...
I used to work only from ego when I first started my career as techie gal. To be honest, I fell into this line work because I was naturally good at it and it came easy to me. I had every intention of being a clinical psychologist. When I first got into this line of work, it was me and the boys. You just didn't have many women wiring and cabling infrastructures along with building out servers and networks back then. Actually, you don't have many women now either as i am the only techie gal here too. I do love working with my team even though I am the only gal. We have such a mutual respect for one another and I never feel that I am the odd one out at all. In fact, they will come to me for technical advice and help which is a blessing. In my new role here, I do alot more mentoring which is great. The point I am making is there were moments when my ego came in handy. However, there was a time I was not very good at shedding the ego after work and it actually destroyed some of my relationships. It took me many, many years to understand the balance. In my personal life, I became humbled by a chain of events that were painful but necessary. It is only in my recent years, do I truly understand what stripping the ego really means. Once you get this, life is much more peaceful and enjoyable. So girl, you are way ahead of the game!
Great blog! Thanks so much...
Love~n~Light to you,
DreamSpirit
Thank you for the eye opener today.
Glad Charlie is coming home!
Peace and love to you and the family!
Thanks Lisa for another great blog!
Welcome home Charlie!
Hugs, Kristina :)
Dear Lisa
Thanks for bringing up this subject, and putting over your thoughts on the Ego.
I find it a puzzling subject, because we all know when Egos look unhealthy, and on the other hand we all need to build our self-esteem and that seems linked with Ego.
I think it's a work in progress for most of us.
Lots of Love
Lana
Lana... very true... Its a relection of ones TRUE inner self....
Some times its not pretty ....
Hi my love, again thanks for the eye-opening blog! Ego-yes we all have it and need it if we are going to get anyplace in this life. But to put it aside when we really do not need it is the biggest problem! And my dear friend, you do not show yours in all the times that I have met you. Thank the good lord for that! Please don't ever change! Lisa, thats why you have so many fans-you don't let your ego get in the way! You do not let your head get too big for your shoulders , so to speak!
I am sure hollywood is so full of ego! From the youngest to the oldst. I think that is what happened to Sylvia Brown! Her ego is soooo huge!!!
Anyway, I am soo glad that Charlie is headed home! I can see the two of you now!! Don't ever let him get a "big head" my love. If he is anything like his mum, he will be just fine. Hope to see the three of you in Vegas!!
Love ya lots,
Mary
I Believe Ego is confused with Confidents...Lisa i would not say you were Egotistical..my definition of Ego is being Big Headed,above ones self,and being better than others,i have a problem with people with big Egos..thinking they are better than someone else,everyone is equal in my opinion,deserve the same curtousy as another,there is good in all and no one person is better,Having Confidence and Determination for what you do,and knowing you can help others is in my opinion is not having an Ego...just my thoughts,not to say my thinking is rational lol x
Amen sister....
Life changes us all but we have the freedom of choice. We can choose to use ego as a weapon or as a tool for good. It is not wrong to feel good about something done well or and act of kindness but when our ego hurts another that's when we should pull it into check. I pray that God grants me the wisdom to know the difference....
Love and Light
Hazel <3
Hello Lisa, you have reason for the ego. Let me tell you that I have a problem in my brain it does not like the others. My problem is called autistic spray. Some mediums say that autism on donations. Here is an article I found on the Internet that explains the text read well lisa:
If there is an autistic person in your life (or if you are autistic you), you know that the autistic brain is different. Some differences are, of course, problemmatic. Others, however, may be simply extraordinary.
Bill Stillman, a writer, speaker and adults with Asperger syndrome, was to explore the relationship between autism and the extraordinary for several years. He firmly believes that what he has seen shows that people with autism have a special relationship to all things mystical, spiritual, divine, and / or paranormal - in May and they offer a glimpse of the invisible world. The core of autism is his second book on the subject.
Of course, the soul of autism is not for everyone. Who should read this book? I recommend it to all who saw or thought he saw a person with autism demonstrates:
• Knowledge of existence before birth
• Precognition or premonition
• Telepathy
• Animal Communication
• Connecting with a loved one in Spirit (which is a near death)
• appears (ghosts)
• Communion with the Angels
Do you think you or someone with autism in your life fits this description? Feel free to share your experiences here!
• Book Review: Autism and the God Connection (William Stillman's first book)
• Q & A with William Stillman
• Attend religious services at a family member Autistic
• Autism at Church: A Success Story
Noémie Beauchamp xxx
Hi Lisa,
What a coincidence you should right about ego at this moment. Just the other day I had an appointment with a lady and we got on to the topic of ego, I cannot remember exactly how we got to the point in the conversation but we began talking about how sometimes we need to look at the benefits of the ego, in fact I think we got on to the topic by me expressing how my ego often hinders my readings as it often questions the information I am getting and if I do not control it properly can get me into a frazzled state where I will not give the information which later turns out to be essential because I became unsure of its credibility. In the line of medium clairvoyancy Ego can be a massive problem especially for those still starting out. I mentioned my problems with the lady and she spoke of how sometimes we have to sort out when is right to listen to the ego and when is not as you have mentioned and she spoke of how it is important to look at ego from the approach of gratitude. Gratitude infact has been shown in consciousness studies to even have a higher frequency than love! Unbelievable as it may seem and we spoke of how by recognising that the ego is there to keep an eye on us if u will and keep us 'in check' and it is good to almost approach it as 'thank you for assisting me ego' and than putting it in its rightful place before continuing on.
I had trouble with this statement at first because my ego has caused me a lot of problems as the self destructive points in my life have originated from my ego so the idea of giving gratitude to and forgiving something which has caused me the most pain seemed impossible to me, even now it seems a difficult task but from stepping back and taking another look I learnt that as you say it is important to let yourself be ego free, but it is also import to realise the essence behind its ways to and to choose not to resent your ego but rather work with it in a partnership type way.
Thank you for such a thought provoking post. I also am happy that Charlie and your friend will be coming home and your house will be filled again. Their is nothing more beautiful than coming home to a house filled with the musical chatter of the ones you love.
Krystal
Yeah, Ego is quite a trait of being human!!! I see what you're saying Lisa!!! Best of Luck to you guys choosing a "winner" of the t-shirt.........follow your heart like you all ways do!!! Safe travels Sue and Charlie!!! Much Love <3 <3 <3
Good Morning Lisa ~
Since I have become more aware of my ego I try my best to confront it when I realize that it is making the choices for me. I have found through my recent self study that I do let my ego take over because it gives me excuses not to work as hard at my true soul's desires. It's scary how you see a pattern that has developed over the course of your life and how it is all steeped in pleasing the ego. I have always believed in the more you acknowledge something the more you become enlightened allowing yourself to be freed from those chains that bind you.
I just wanted to thank you so much because since I have discovered you over the past couple of months I feel myself 'going with the flow' with God's Universe rather than challenging it and getting stuck in rip tides that I fight against. You are a bright, bright light that reminds us that we too are lights that are capable of beaming brightly in the world and it does start with the simplest acts of today.
Smiles & SunShine ~
Melissa
I like your statement, "Sometimes allowing someone to see the real you, is trusting. People will trust you more, than if you talked your way through so much BS."
I was talking about something similar this morning with my close friend. Her new book comes out in a few months, and we were discussing the book tour and promotions. Promoting yourself, ugh! So much resistance. Why? Because ego is involved? Donning an "ego coat" is sometimes necessary to sell your product, and for a lot of people, it simply feels uncomfortable. It just doesn't fit. But because that type of coat is necessary at times, why not just tailor it a bit? How? I think it's done by striking a balance between staying REAL to who you are and your beliefs and, at the same time, turning up that amp so people really hear you and want to know more. When they want to know more, you know you've earned a certain level of trust. But it's the "turning up that amp" in just the right way that is tricky and challenging.
All in all, you know you've tailored your ego coat and struck the balance when the process feels right, comfortable, and more true to you.
Thank you, Lisa for reminiding us of a very important piece of knowledge. Sometimes we can forget and begin to lose sight of God's will.
I so enjoy your blogs, your energy, and most of all I love learning from you!
Hello Lisa. Pleased to "meet" you. For the first time ever, I posted a comment on Kevs blog yesterday and after reading your comments on "Ego", I am, once again, inspired to write again. I admitted that this is not something I have ever done and that in itself, opening myself up to the magical airwaves of technology, was an achievement and now I find I have been driven to respond to your subject of Egotism, simply because it is a subject that I have been on the receiving end of it, in a big way. As you so rightly said, we all have it, it is human nature, and it depends on how we use it, but there are some who use it to control and destroy others.
Ego is (in Freudian psychology) "the part of mind containing consciousness:, one of three main divisions of the mind, containing consciousness and memory and involved with control, planning, and conforming to reality". Stating, "The poor ego has a still harder time of it; it has to serve three harsh masters, and has to do its best to reconcile the claims and demands of all three.". (Taken from Microsoft® Encarta® 2008. © 1993-2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved)
So we all have a tendency to be egotistical, but if used for the benefit of others and not against, then it is a healthy trait put to good use rather than bad, because without it, as Sigmund Freud says "The poor ego has a harder time"! After all, Ego is just another word for "Personality", character, self, self-image, self-worth, self-esteem, individuality. It is part of us, our being and used appropriately, can prove to be an asset. We all, at times, suffer with low self esteem, which results in degradation of ourselves, our being, and destroys our natural born personality of who we are. It only becomes a hindrance when it becomes a self-inflated opinion of oneself!
You and Kevin do not come under that category! So dont hate yourself for having it, it's part of your "makeup" (pardon the pun) and moulded you into the wonderful person that you are today, in the here and now and all that you both do.
I explained yesterday to Kev that after many years of abuse, secrets, criticism, ridicule, being ostracised for who I am, loss of my parents, my animals, broken marriages, myself and being on the receiving end of someone who had an extremely high and self inflated self opinionated image, almost destroyed me. I have had to fight back against all adversity and I do not see that as being egotistical, I see it as self-preservation to enable me to regain my senses and go on to achieve the goals and wishes I was destined to fulfill.
As I mentioned, I have a gift of being a Poet, I consider myself blessed that I have this ability because that is how I release all my fears, tears, happiness, sadness and joy. I write about anything and everything, my inner voice comes through and helps me to relieve stress on the one hand and still see the beauty in life on the other. On this note, I would like to enclose one of my poems (from my on-going forthcoming book) which I wrote in 1996 after having major surgery and whilst undergoing therapy to face the demons of Abuse! For me, it just about sums up my idea of Egotism and I hope it helps others to see it for what it is and give to give some encouragement, as I noticed, after my comments yesterday, (mine being the last one posted at the time) there has been a lot of others who had opened up about themselves, their lives, their experiences and I am full of admiration for anyone and everyone who "achieves" whatever they set out achieve. That is what my book is all about, surviving, without limits or self-criticsm and being proud of their achievements, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem to others, it's important to them. So before I go, thankyou for raising this subject, as once again, I have been inspired to continue with my book and even more determined that I will complete the task set for me. This is my purpose, my goal and if being egotistical (in a good way) helps me to achieve that, then it will be worth it, especially if I achieve my main goal, which is to help others, as you do. If I can bring one smile, one hope, to one person, then my goal has been achieved. God Bless you Lisa and Kevin for coming into my life and crossing my path at a time when I too needed that inspiration to continue. May I wish everyone who reads this good luck for the future, be strong and most importantly, to never give up your dreams!
With Love, Affection and Admiration to you both and to everyone who, like me, are "surfing the tides of technology" be it for help, inspiration, hope, encouragement or to convince themselves that they are not alone or lonely. Thankyou for bringing us all together.
RESCUING ME
As I look back on my life
With a sad reflection
Knowing I could never live up to
His dominant perfection.
I shall muse and sigh with
A great relief
As I ponder the questions
In disbelief.
Where did I fail him, or
Let him down
Living life with no smiles
Under his frown.
Expectations of images
Fulfilling his needs
Harvesting failure with
Doubtful deeds.
Pressure to win and
Pressure to gain
Conflicting attitudes and
Going insane.
Ego and pride are his
Only friend
Going into battle to
Fight ‘till the end.
To conquer and control me, to
Mould me around
His selfish persona is
Only to be found.
Dictation of all sorts
A power to fear
Protecting his own world
With nothing to share.
A cold heart and shuttered
Encased in cold steel
Ignoring his passions and
Pretend not to feel.
Shielded and guarded
The price is too high
Waiting and wanting
As my life passes by.
Alone and rejected
Am I destined to be?
Is this the price I must pay?
For Rescuing Me.
Carole’Diane
February 1996
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Lisa, Im coming to see your show in reno on aug 1. Im SO EXCITED.