Don't over react!
Sunday, July 19, 2009 at 10:50PM So over the weekend it's been a time of rest and relaxation, but I was pondering up on our break that we had recently and it was lovely to spend time in Janey's Scottish home when we went back just for a few days and it allowed us to unwind before the hectic schedule starts again next week. I wrote some of my book and relaxed. It was so lovely. Check it out... www.scottishgetaway.co.uk it really is a tranquil place I'm hoping to get there again when we head back to the UK for the tour in September.
But it got me thinking about how many of us make snap decisions on the spur of the moment and the regret them later. So many of my friends call me up for advice as I make them sit back and take a back seat for a while and then I help them move forward.
Some of them still come to the same conclusion, that their initial reaction was right, others realize that actually it wasn't going to be the best move and then they rethink their actions. I was thinking about this and when I was away, at how many times in life I have regretted my spur of the moment remarks or actions.
I have it so many times and a friend of mine also turned to me last night with a decision and after 20 minutes of talking it through, she decided to change her mind. I am not the one changing their minds as I will never make decisions for people as I have said many times when I give psychic readings, but I let her talk it out and she came up with the right decision.
Sometimes we just have to be there for support and understanding, we don't have to say anything we just have to listen and that is the most important thing.
So remember before you are quick to accuse, or react, take a step back and ask yourself why and think it through as you may just regret it.
Kev said he is going to blog tomorrow so look out for that one as it's a follow up from his last one about a month ago!
Hugs and love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (19)
Oh I will check the link out Lisa. Thank you.Getaways..I am up for & need them. Yes sometimes we just need to listen. There is a fine line though when some family members may be pushing you to make that hastey move to "move about the cabin more freely"..sort of speaking.
You have a wonderful night. hugs to all of you.
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page 2... My family Not your Extended Family. LOL
Are you ok Lisa?
So beautiful !!! I would love to 'getaway' ....one day !!! Plans and dreams....lol
Great blog and looking forward to Kev's again !!!
Love
Sharon xoxo
Hi Lisa
My husband used to say that people should sleep on sending an angry letter or vm message to make certain the anger wasn't making one react too strongly. I am sure that has beenthe subject of many a sitcom ("Seinfeld" for example!). I still haven't perfected his advice, but I am working on it. I think that about the time I am ready to leave this Earth I will be just about at the right point of acceptability! (too bad I have been such a slow learner!) I have always meant well! I have a loving heart and only want the best for others, but something always seems to go wrong!
Love,
Cheryl
Life is not easy to live but we have to take responsibly for our own actions
Sometimes i think ; this life is a big game .Good decisions or bad decision there's always something learn and progress
If we take thing with calms we always gonna have great result
but if we don't have control over our problems everything is gonna be bad
im soo grateful for you lisa , you bring a lot light in our lives
thank you
Good day
What made me write today is when you wrote in your post that a friend ask you for advice concerning a decision.
Been going through very rough times in the past year.. Mother past away, sister of my mother and now the other sister of my mother who is my god mother and replace in a way my mother is now dying of cancner in a special home. She might have a few days left.
When my mother past away, on her last moment, I just could not be there.. too painfull.. I was in the hospital but not capable of going in her room.
Now that my aunt is dying I am debating if I should go see her. While she was at home, I was visiting her, bringing her some food and trying to be there for my cousin and uncle.
Now I wish I could go see her, hold her hand and tell her not to worry for her family that I will try to be as much available as possible for them but a part of me says: I cant go since I didnt do it for my own mother and another part of my says that I should recall her the way I do... in her chair at home, speaking to me and laughing.
You see, since my mother past away, I needed some medication to go through this entire morning and I still find it difficult on certain days and I dont know if I should protect myself and not go also...
As you can see.. lots of questions that I can only answer myself I suppose..
If anyone can.. please send us some positive vibes here.. the year has been long and I am craving for some great news.. something to make us smile.
Anyways... thanks a lot of being there and reading.
Have a great day everyone
Wise words of advise!
A key to not "reacting" is to learn how to control your emotions. That was a big lesson for me. I used to react near savagely (in a verbal way) when someone did something terrible or worng or whatever and the reaction was always uncalled for I just couldn't see it through my blinding emotions. Taking a step back to digest the situation before responding to it is the absolute best thing anyone can do. One must learn to be positively "proactive" and not negatively "reactive"
It's interesting, I find in my sessions with spirit, as I am receiving all this information, my logical mind does not associate the information well with reality and it's rather confusing. But, when I come back to it a few days later, WOW, it makes so much sense! I couldn't see understand it clearly while "in the zone" but after stepping back and letting it pass before considering it again makes it all so very clear.
Good post!
Best,
Laura
Best,
Laura
Best to you "two".
lol
Sorry Line to hear all these troubles for you...
Good vibes coming...
But as these family members were there for you...you should be there for them to hold their hand... It may be the last act of love you can do for them while still here...
And it will leave you with no regrets...
Blessings hony
that should read "honey"
While you are right, we should step back and observe the whole picture, there are still those who will always react before thinking, that's their nature.
Patience and ponderance are two qualities that come with age.
{{{hugs}}}
I've also found that considering the motive or emotion behind the other person's comments or actions really helps to respond to the REAL issue. eg. sometimes a person might lash out because they are jealous of you spending time with someone (and so, they taken their frustration out on you). In this case, it would be better to address the issue of their jealousy, rather than their nasty remark. Hope that makes sense, it works for me - thanks Dr. Phil!
And to Line -
I was in the same situation as you 2 years ago (with my mother about to pass away). After a dream where my Grandmother's spirit visited and spoke to me, I decided to go and be by my Mother's bedside. She died the morning after I arrived. I spent her final night with her (and a beloved sister) and was there to hold her hand as she passed away. As sad as it was, I later realised I had been given the most incredible gift - to be there for a loved one as they leave this world. It made me realise that I am much stronger than I ever thought I was and I am SO glad I did it. It was one of the most spiritual and special moments of my life. Don't worry about the fact you didn't get to do it with your Mum. She knows what you are thinking and going thru and would understand. Only you can decide for sure, but I hope telling you about my experience will help. My heartfelt wishes to you.
Deb R
I know what you mean. I have a bad habit of holding everything in.. then some little thing can set me off and i explode! I didnt used to be that way, I can now pin point when and the why its hapening. The next step is to fix it! Always the hardest part. Some decisions you KNOW you need to make are not the easiest, but need to be done for your greater well being.
Thinking through decisions is always a good idea, but thinking to the point you refuse to do anything causes stagnation.
L&L
J
Oh, and Lisa -
I just had a look at Janey's scottish cottage website - ahh, Scotland, one of my favourite places in the world! Went there about 2.5 years ago. It was SO green and scenic, at one point I shouted out the car window "Stop being so bloody beautiful, I can't take it anymore!" My family laughed at me, but it was SO true - every corner we turned was another amazing sight which took our breath away! Definitely going back some day!
Glad you enjoyed it.
Cheers!
Deb R :)
salvation, Lisa you're right. I like what you wrote. You are a surprising wisdom. You know that the message you wrote me a little before you can back to the states, is that I wish that you wrote and he is well and achieve what I can say if you wrote a message for me, writing the message that corresponds to my habits, difficulties, or has a plan for my life that I wrote the above before coming to earth .... I love that you write the message because it is talking about the paranormal but the people tell me: You will need psyciatre! No thank you! We can talk about what we want for anything and will not judge. It is good ... With white light and sacred gods of love can grow and
Noémie Beauchamp xxx
Interesting blog, Lisa!!! I look forward to Kev's blog tomorrow. Much Love <3 <3 <3
I know I have been quick to react in the past; sometimes it is the passion in the emotion. I wise friend told me once if I could just stay away from E over I, I would be in good shape!
E=emotion
I=intellect
Sometimes it just happens. and as Laura pointed out (wisely), " the key is not "reacting" and to learn how to control your emotions." E over I
I will always try to attain an I over E way of life, but afterall, I am human.
Peace and love to you!
"Pick your battles" is the advice I hear smart mothers using with their kids. I find that also applies to marriage & adult relationships too. No one wants to hear someone who seems to always be upset or saying negative things about one thing or another. When we do that others tune us out unless they are polite enough to listen anyway & that is rare. "If you have nothing good to say, than say nothing" is what I was taught when I was little & I find I need to remind myself of that from time to time. If someone does hurtful & upsetting things to you, it is very important to let them know right away & not let anger build up inside of you. BUT, you should wait a few hours until your emotions cool down to talk it out. Take time to think about a way to reconcile the problem, that will work for both parties & agree to work on it. If both people want to be in the relationship, then working on things, that aren't working, should not be a problem. Sometimes it takes more than one try to get it right & that's ok. If you find someone is always "pushing your buttons" there may be an underlying, more serious issue that needs to be addressed however. Sometimes they need to work on their own problems before they can be in a truly healthy, happy relationship. Someone here said we should "take responsibility for our actions." That is such an important thing to learn I feel. Live by those words & we'll all make the world a better place to live in:)
The Scottish Getaway: What a charming garden & beautiful newly renovated kitchen!! My husband & I travel quite allot for pleasure & research hundreds of rentals & hotels always seeking out new adventures & places to explore...time & funds permitting. So, as an Interior Designer & travel lover I would be more than happy to help Janey make her cottage look even more charming with my compliments. A friend of Lisa's, is a friend of ours. She is welcome to contact me at adventuressatlarge@yahoo.com for some easy & inexpensive tips, if she would like them. I hope her waiting list (for bookings) is long & retirement funds many, either way!!
Much love to all,
WendyWB