Beyond Beauty!
Wednesday, July 15, 2009 at 10:46PM Finally I am back but sadly only got to spend one night in my own bed. Apparently I got in to bed, and I was asleep within seconds, Kev got in beside me and I mumbled something about this being the best bed in the world... it's amazing how much you miss it, after being away for 4.5 weeks!!!
Yes I am away again yet another hotel room, but only for one night, I am with the editor of the live shows that we shot this year. I didn't realize that editing was such a long process... well actually I did, but I was surprised how much you have to watch something.
I normally hate watching myself work, but the interesting thing is, that after the 5th time of seeing yourself say the same thing over and over again, you no longer are critical about, the colour of your top and trousers and whther they match, or that you are not wearing lipstick or the way that your hair looks, you go beyond that superficial stuff, you start to see the beauty in what you are doing.
You start to see the audience reactions to moments that are moving, you start to see how the weight is lifting off peoples shoulders, you start to see the happiness from within, you start to see the glow and you can feel the energy lifting. It's absolutely incredible.
It just goes to show that beauty is beyond the skin, it's within us all. We don't need to look in the mirror and be critical, we need to look in the mirror and like what we see. Yes we all can moan about the way we look... but that is how we see ourselves, but others don't see you that way, they see the beauty within.
So when we look in the mirror next time or see yourself with on a video or photo don't be so quick to judge what you look like. If you have a photo and you notice the laughter lines in your face... who cares, you were happy at that moment, laughing away... it doesn't matter.
Of course if it gets you down then do something about it for YOU no one else. I have, but I will tell you something... what I found to be a huge issue for me, which I dealt with, no one really noticed!
So remember people see you differently and when someone says you look lovely... say thank you... don't say, oh thing old thing or are you sure... accept that people see you differently to how you see yourself! You are a beautiful person inside and out!
Hugs and love
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (41)
Such amazing and good advice, as we all know, easier said than done when we have drifted from our desired appearance! :-) Thank you. xo
Just last week, I tried an exercise in which I stared into the mirror with scarves covering all but my eyes adn brow!!! (I know, strange image, right?) But, it was seriously an adventure...I had the standup mirror where I could sit down and really venture in and follow where it led. I saw so much and it lifted my focus from other visual things moving forward. I LOVED it!
Good luck with the edits and HAPPY days to be back in your own bed tomorrow!
LOVE
xoxo
Heike
Love this blog. l agree with everything u said. l also think it is important 2 get 2 know yourself again. Sometimes we are so focussed on pleasing others that we forget about what we want. Not only accept compliments but openly give compliments. Tell the girl at the check-out that the top[ she is wearing makes her eyes stand out. Those simple kind words could turn a terrible day into a terrific day. Hugs and Kisses Rach. P.S l finally joined your extended family members. Poor Nikki ,l kept doinging it wrong but we got there. l am not the best on the computer. Love Rachxoxo
AWWW that the lovely reading , thank you lisa you makes my eyes tears ; i love you soo much !!!
Hi Lisa and Welcome Home!
It has taken me years not to be critical of myself. I grew up having a father who was a very critical person and I learned early on about being critical about myself. Even though I loved my dad very much, I didn't like that part of him. I think a benefit of growing older is having the life's experiences you gain. With that comes the ability to shrug off others negative opinions too. I just told a friend of mine today that I have always worn my feelings on my shoulders. Now at my age I can truly say, I like the person that I am because I try to treat people with respect and only expect that in return. Looking in the mirror is another story but you are right, how you see yourself is not necessarily how others view you. It all goes back to liking yourself for who you are and what kind of a person you strive to be. It's a good thing to look into the mirror and reflect the good things in yourself and project that image.
Thank you for reminding me and all of us that beauty is only skin deep....it really is the truth!
Love and hugs to you!
Keith
and my spelling (DOINGING)isn't the best. Rach x
Hi Lisa,
What a lovely blog Lisa, I am glad you see the beauty & good in the work that you do, so you should you are fantastic. It must be such a good feeling to know how much you impact & change peoples lives.
Enjoy being back in your own bed, there's no other feeling better :)
Lara Haidary
At the end of the day WE are not the one's critical of ourselves, the ideals made by media, movies and airbrushing etc make us critical of others and then when we don't meet THAT criteria we take a look at ourselves and become critical of the bodies and clothes we own, however we never become critical of inner selves I mean our spiritual selves... we always think we're right because we know we're right as where we are right now is right for us no matter what anyone else says!!. .... at the end of the day we are who we are and beautiful with our flaws (again who says they're flaws??!)
Thanks Lisa as always - great blog.
Thank you, Lisa
That has lifted me up!
Love
Lana
Love this post Lisa!! I wear make-up..People don't believe it need it..It's true, i don't..But i am a creative by nature and i enjoy experimenting...I love putting color on my face, doing crazy things with my hair and dressing up a bit sometimes..This body is on loan, right? And i am still, always amazed by how it looks and functions..haha..I really think my inner spirit enjoys slapping on some paint and decorating it's house a bit?..Love Stace XXX hope i didn't confuse anyone? hehe
Hi Lisa,
No one noticed what you had done, because there is so much more to you than the minor stuff. They see your beautiful smile, loving attitude, and beautiful spirit!
Love and hugs,
Cheryl
Hi Lisa,
Back in your own home is one of the sweetest feelings in this world. It is unfortunate that too many of us allow what others have to say about us determine who we are. I learnt very early in life to stand strong and let them know that it did not affect me and when you tell them keep it to themselves they back off. I admire your energy. Blessings to you and your family
I will always be extremely critical of myself. People tell me that I am way too critical of myself but I know that is the part of me that produces excellence and as close to perfection as possible. Combine that with the high sense of ethics and the high level of integrity I possess in what I do, I believe it is to my advantage and makes for an very good combination of traits. Whenever I do something, I do it well. I don't want to put my name on it otherwise. Besides, I see beauty everywhere, even in myself after I've fixed whatever I am critical about. :)
Best,
Laura
Awwwww....you are such a beautiful soul inside and out too! God bless you in all you do. Love & Hugs (((Lisa)))
Oh thank you for this blog Lisa, I think we all need it especially during summer time ;-) Yes you are right, we have to accept what we are and how we are and accepting the compliments is nessary, thank you.
You are such a light, inside and outside anyway, you are so beautiful Lisa !
Thank you for your energy throughout the internet ;-)
Lots of love,
Lise
One of the biggest things i have issues with.. nice to have you home.
{{{hugs}}}
Welcome Home Lisa! Thanks for another great blog. I'm guilty of being critical of myself also. As I'm getting older I'm seeing more and more things to be critical about. I need to put some affirmation cards on my bathroom mirror to change my thoughts around!
I hope you get to enjoy your own bed again before the next run of shows.
Hugs, Kristina
Hey there Lisa,
Aw... you poor woman! You need to be home in your own comfy bed. Hopefully, you will be able to stay home for a bit before venturing back out.
LOVE, LOVE, the message in this blog!!!
You know it is not easy being an over forty year old woman in this pretentious programmed society we live in now. It is all about dieting and looks... It also does not help that I am a vain woman as well. It really sucks at times and we cause ourselves so much unnecessary suffering! We grow up thinking that we are all supposed to look like Barbie dolls...which I hated by the way and used to put Ken's head on Barbie and vica versa. I am a dark Italian woman that had to laser the hair off my beastly hairy legs and I am so sick of diets and skin care products. In the last couple of months I broke out with a few pimples on my face (puberty all over again)... so here I am buying teen skin care products and then I am buying the anti-aging skin cream. LOL I hope you are laughing at this. Wow... thanks for allowing me to vent... sorry! Aside from all this stuff, I really do love being a woman, but you have to admit, they could have made it easier on us. :) Too funny! I bet half the world can relate to this.
So Lisa, I am not one to talk because I too am my own worst critic at times. However, just remember that we are programmed to think this way. When you are a public figure such as yourself, I can't even imagine the pressure. Having said that, I personally think you are a beautiful person inside and outside. I know this does not change how you view yourself but you have a such a bright light that is spreading globally helping people get closure. Don't lose that focus... just my humble!
I always remember "Twilight Zone's" "Eye Of The Beholder". This is a must see because it makes you think and realize how programmed we are by society. In their society, pig faces were considered beautiful and this one woman did not have a pig face.
Thanks for the great blog!!
Love~n~Light,
DreamSpirit
"Whae God hae the gift tae gee us, tae see wursels as ithers see us" hehe OK I will translate.... If only God could give us the gift to see ourselves as other see us.....
Beauty does come from within. People see a pure heart and a loving giving person as that beauty shines through the shell that we live in and you are soooooooooooooooooooooo beautiful Lisa <3
This reminds me of the movie 'Shallow Hal' where he sees the beauty within his rather large girlfriend. I love the part where he sees the 'skinny beautiful' girl as really ugly as she has a cruel heart.
When I get up in the morning I look in the mirror and tell myself that I am beautiful and loved. Great blog Lisa thank you for the message.
Hugs, Hazel xx
Lisa ~ You hit on a struggle that plagues a lot of us. I remember visiting my sister several years ago. I was looking through pictures that she had taken the last time that she had come to visit me. I found a picture of myself that made me cringe.....I looked worse than worse. Yes, I admit it.......when no one was looking, I took the picture out of the pile and destroyed it. Yes....vanity overcame me. We do tend to be our own worst enemies, don't we?
Great blog, Lisa ~ PJ :)
You're a busy gal!!! And a well-said blog today!!! : ) I totally agree with you!!! : ) Much Love <3 <3 <3
Lisa, you mentioned weight lifting off people's shoulders--what you do does more than years and years of therapy! I love watching your TV shows and seeing the look of relief, total relief, on people's faces! What a gift you have!
Sally
I love this blog because you are reminding people to remember how beautiful they are!!
I always tell people to "look at yourself as if you were someone you loved"
Keep being beautiful inside and out!!!!!
*hugs!*
Great advice.....especially for the specific moment I'm currently fretting....going to the BEACH!!! As most women, I'm extremely critical of myself, especially in a bathing suit...uggghhhh....I'll repeat your words to myself when I start the negative self-talk....Thank You Lisa!!! Looking forward to seeing the live shows!!! Kinda nervous too, as I was sitting either behind or beside at least 3 of the readings in Charlotte!! Is it true the camera adds 10 pounds....ohhhh boy!!! Okay, repeating your words again....HaHa!!! Love and Hugs!!!
WELCOME HOME LOVELY LISA...;-)
On the road again...yes your own bed is thee best, especially with your wonderful hubby Kev next to you.
I love film, editing, and timing is of the essence. I took an engineering course a long time ago for live music recordings, then worked at a film studio. It's so very Energizing. Loved it. The love and true soul shines from within out. Now I just need a vacation in Hawaii.
Mahalo and Aloha. Sure...LOL
With hugs,
ooo
Hey, Lisa!
Honey, I don't know how you keep the pace up. I admit, I am envious. I am such a slow pace Style person. When I get "too" busy, I go into a tailspin and end up getting sick. Then, it takes forever to get better. Well, we're all different. But, I sure wish I had some of your energy!
I loved your blog. I needed to hear it,badly. I am very self conscious about my weight and general appearence. I used to be in great shape,well dressed, attractive. Now people say they'd never know it was me. It makes me feel so low. I also used to be confident and passionate enough that when I spoke or wrote, well, it affected people. That gift is rusting or rusted in the corner. So it is really hard for me to show up and do what my heart tells me I should be doing. I know that some of that is depression and some of it is stupid ego. As I feel everyone will look at the package and forget the message.
So, I am wasting what I have to offer.
There is a Urban Ministry on the corner. They feed people, clothe them and direct them to the services they need. Anyway, I asked if they needed help and their jaws dropped. YES! So grateful, That I would even ask. You know, If I am there doing good works. I don't think they'll snob me because of my size.
So, it's a good place to start.
As for you, I think you are so beautiful, inside and out!I love your hair ( I bet it raises your vibration, huh?) It might not suit everyone, but it really suits you. It matches your open and joyful personality. I also, Like the fact that you are not so stuck on yourself that you have to have everything matchy-matchy. It makes you more accessable. And I DO love your long lavender coat!
You know, I look at you on your TV show. I see this beautiful curvy woman, real and down to earth and doing your thing and the room just sparkles with positive energy while your "in-frame" I say, to myself look at Lisa, yes, she is beautiful but, it's her personality that makes her.And if anyone has anything different to say, then their not they're type of person whose opinion means anything to me.
So, why am I so much harsher, on myself?