We all need hand holding and support!
Friday, June 12, 2009 at 12:34AM I met with some amazing people tonight who are all ready to change their lives and they are looking forward to the possibility of change. Some are ready to move on to their new life and others still need hand holding, but either way they are all amazing and couragous people. I feel honored and blessed that I was asked to be part of the TV show to help them.
Sometimes we look at people and we judge them, by how they dress, the car they drive, what they look like, how they speak... it's almost an instinct. However we shouldn't... but thats easier said than done.
Tonight I headed to a rehab center to help them, I could see that they were 'normal' people who needed someone to care about them and they needed something to believe in... and that something had to be themselves.
We all have to believe in ourselves. We have to know that we can rely on ourselves. when we start to rely on others disappointment can often set in and many times it can set us off on the pathway to destruction. It's happened so many times in life, and now I have learnt to rely on myself... Building trust is something else that isn't easy to everyone. But slowly you start to build trust in yourself and you start to trust your instincts and this is the most important as you will start to realize who you can depend on and who is there for you.
I saw this tonight. They trusted those around them and shared stories and hard times with each other, but one thing I noticed is that they are all helping each other on their road to recovery and it was an amazing site to see.... and I felt so much love in the room that it was amazing to be part of that.
So those of you who are patching up lives and moving forward with a new fresh look... Remember:
- Believe in yourself
- You can achieve anything you set your mind too
- Take baby steps, never run before you can walk
- Ask for help... there is no shame in that, there are people to help you
- Learn to trust and rely on yourself not others... this will come in time.
I am not a therapist but I am someone who has lived many lessons and had to learn many things but hopefully these things help others.
With love and support
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (48)
How right you are Lisa..If we intend on relying on everyone else to make our decisions,or for dependence or to fix things for us, we will never, ever be strong enough to trust ourselves and discover what is more appropriate for our well being..You couldn't have said it better.Love Stace XXX.
Just Beautiful Lisa ... thanks for sharing xo
Lisa,
I am so glad you were able to go to the rehab center and make such a positive impact on their lives. I am sure your visit and your good vibes will not go unnoticed or unappreciated by any of them (I speak from their side of things.)
Those 5 things are so so important, yet sometimes they seem impossible to accomplish. In time, they will get easier, people CAN make it through just about anything.
<3
Have I said lately, you are an angel put here on this earth for a reason!!?!!!!!!
LOVE YOU TONS!!!!!!
thank you lisa..i know that in america..there is a huge problem with people being co dependant in stead of independant. It's a learned issue in america with multitudes of people being dependent on others emotionally and in other ways..and there are lots of therapists working with people to overcome that and heal from that..I am one of them.
Thank you Lisa for all your blogs but especially this one. I need to pass this on to my sister as I think she needs to hear your message. I look forward to your blogs everyday and don't usually comment but I really love this message. Rehab centers and (troubled) kids are the people who need extra guidance and love. The younger we can reach troubled souls the better for all of us. Keep up the great work. I'm so glad I was able to see your show when you came to Minnesota. I hope you come back some day. Take care and have a wonderful weekend. Laura P
Well said, I try to instill in my child and students not to jump to conclusions and judge others by ability, culture, beliefs, etc. That extra smile and moment you give to find out something about that person can give confidence and hope. Good lessons to remember everyday.
I REALLY needed this!
Indeed... good post.
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Great advice :)
Lara Haidary!
So true Lisa.....good blog. Love Chick
Thanks, Lisa, that's just what I needed, today.
Love and Peace
Lana
Great message Lisa......If we don't believe in ourselves, we can't expect others to believe in us :) ~ PJ
Hi Lisa, thanks for your blog. I was in such a group 27 year ago, and it saved my life because I was willing to trust others until I could trust and love myself again. I am glade you got to see that in action, it is very powerful, it's about helping each other, but most of all it's about willingness to change. Forgive me as I ramble on, just like to thank you for this site one more time Lisa, it is so important to start my day here with you all.
Holding hands and hugs to all,
Sue
Most Definitely, Lisa!!! I also know from experience that the person has to want the change in order to change!!! : ) And that's great that your helping others in yet another way!!! That's wonderful!!! : ) Much Love to you and everyone <3 <3 <3
another beautiful and helpful post :)
AMEN!!
I lost my partner three monts ago and I realized YESTERDAY that He was my "push" button. He encouraged me to do the things I thought I will never be able to do, he showed me that I can do much more than I THINK I can...
how funny, that you should wright blog about my thoughs and feelings exactly!
God Bless! Thank you for encouragement. Thats what I need the most NOW.
Love. Marta. xx
Lisa; you are my hero/inspiration.
I am 15 years old and my name is Mia DiPalma.
I would love to do something special for my mother
for her birthday;
we watch your show anytime we can
and are always amazed at your abilities,
my mother and i also posses "a sixth sense"
My mom tells me how happy she would be if she could come in contact with you so that she could speak with her grandparents who died few years before my sister and i were born.our life is really hard and
an uplifting would be amazing;
and i would sicerely love you if you could sometime make it to Fredericksburg and make your way to spotsylvania towne centre((havertys Furniture)) and please just speak with my mom.
I would forever be greatful.
you are my hero <3
Thank you Lisa!
Beautiful post, Lisa. Thank you.
Am most eager to see this show. Keep us posted!
(((((Lisa)))) All your blogs are great but for me, this one was exceptional. I think it hit home for alot of us. I especially liked how you said "Take baby steps, never run before you can walk" and I will use that phrase not only for myself but to help others along their own difficult path.
That is so very like you to reach out to those in dire need and I thank you for giving of your time and heart to those in the rehab center. These ppl are in dire need of acceptance, help, understanding, hope and LOVE which YOU gave to them. I hope it willl not be "too late" for them (as was the case for my son) as he was severely addicted to alcohol which was the underlying cause of his downfall. A week prior to my son's suicide he had sought help and waa at a meeting sobbing his heart out,..I was told how he broke down and begged for help, his tears were endless and oh, how that hurts me to envision the scenerio. My son had been in rehab before but this last time at this meeting was his HEARTFLELT cry for help, he had reached "rock bottom" and truly wanted help this time and was sincere about it. He sought help on his own this last time whereas the other times were forced on him by the courts, etc.
On behalf of my son and others who are battling such addictions I want to say THANK YOU, Lisa, for extending your hand and heart to them. I only wish it had not been to late to save my son and I will be forever consumed with guilt for that.
Blessings
Lori
Hi my love, Once again, you know what to say and when to say it. How right you are about not being dependent on anyone but yourself. After many years in therapy for different issues I have come to realize that you need to do the woork and not someone else. Its great to have someone there to lean on when you need it, but you still need to do the work!! LOL! So, my love, as I have said many times in the past you are the most amazing woman I know. You are truly an angel sent to us for a very special and unique reason. Because of you I am me.
Love ya always,
Mary
Wow Lisa!!! It is an incredible blog today!!!! Everything you wrote came from the bottom of your heart and I could feel it... Like I have ever told you... I love you because you're always talking with your heart. That's the key of a succesful life... Love us, others, nature, etc... You got it!!! Wow!!!
So Thank you to change lives... Song of the day : What a wonderful wolrd... ( :
Great post meant a lot xx
Everytime u write a blog l seem to have experienced something of that nature within 48 hrs. Are you PSYCHIC or something.Seriously, l went bowling and to tea last night with mums from the kids school and had a great night. It was interesting because we all came from different social backgrounds . One was a teacher at uni,another worked in a factory,one had just joined the police force,another in IT,one a special needs teacher,a housewife and me who has been working on mediumship . l am guilty of assuming in the past that by the way someone talks or dresses that they might be nerdy or have nothing in common with me when in fact they are very funny and lwe have lots in common and have a good time. In saying that l didn't assume things because l was a snob or felt that l was better than anyone else, it's just human nature . l love meeting new people and hearing their stories. You can always connect with a person on some level if you just open yourself to it. l find that as l have learned to be more open and less critical of myself and the choices l have made in the past ,l have become a better parent,friend and person .Once again you show all of us who read your blog that you are a girl with a heart of gold who has stayed true to herself and that of what has been asked of her. See you in Melbourne,that's if the tickets haven't sold out. Hugs and Kisses Rachaelxx