Home!
Tuesday, April 28, 2009 at 10:51PM I am finally home. I have been away for 8 weeks except for 5 days here and there between... it's been crazy! There has been a lot of changes and new beginnings and the new beginnings are still going on. But I always say, the end is not an end but an beautiful new beginning!
It's the best thing as we all have to accept this, and Kev and I have to accept this too.
Mike and Jonesy have found a place to live and they are leaving us in a few weeks to start their new life in California officially. Even though they are only moving 10 minutes down the road it's going to be a big change as they have become part of the family. They are part of the family anyway but this has been good for us all.
So endings have to happen we just have to accept it and move on...
We also had dinner with other friends of ours who have had major changes in their life, they are 5 months pregnant and he has just lost him job but he is positive that it's the best thing for them both and they see it as an opportunity for them all to bond as a family and finally he can take his career in the way he need to go.
Yes it's hard and I remember losing my job when I was a single mom, but you have to make the most of the situation and realize that actually you are being given a fresh new opportunity and you have to make it work for you.
Yes it's hard but keep a smile on your face and enjoy life. It's there for many lessons that we have to learn and have faith in knowing that somehow, somewhere things will work out and that every cloud does have a silver lining.
Now many people will read this and think... oh yeah yeah, what does she know she has not been where I am now, but the reality is, is that what is a big issue for you will not be for someone else, and vise versa. to me it was not a big deal not knowing where my next meal was coming from and having to live wondering if I was going to eat or if I was going to have a leftover from someone else... it was never an issue, I always knew some how I was never going to starve. But for others that would have been a nightmare. so you have to deal with what you have going on in the right way for you... but a smile costs nothing so try smiling through the tough times and you may find that the sun will shine on you!
Anyway, I'm off to bed, poor Max is going to have the snip tomorrow... he's become a little hyper so we thought it best and we have joked that he is no longer going to be Max, he will be Maxine! oh bless him he's going to be a little tender!
Have a great day and remember .... S.M.I.L.E!!!
Lisa xx
Reader Comments (29)
Glad to hear that you are finally back at home. Hope you are able to relax and just enjoy being with your family again.
Change can be so scary. New beginnings bring hope and joy!
Take care,
Beth
WELCOME HOME to Cali, Lisa!!!!!! I *thought* that I felt a good energy hit us! :-) :-)
Your blog is very inspirational and so VERY true. I have generally been profoundly optimistic and fearless, even in the face of life's tough challenges...yet recently have felt more weight...so perhaps my life's lens needs a good scrub and some polishing! :-)
So, thank you for the reminder and have a LOVELY sleep in your own bed!
Love ~n~ HUGS!
xoxo
Heike
I have always told ppl the same thing. You might now have what they have but you might have what they need which is a smile on your face and they will smile back. It's like when your haveing a bad day and u see a child and they smile at you it makes your day. Thats why I always tell my friends if they need a rainbow I will share mine with them so there colors will shine just as bright as mine. And when I send my kids to school and kiss them on their cheek and tell them that I am sharing my rainbow with them so that they will shine bright throw there day and can over come anything. And that even when they r at school they will always have a smile on their face because they know my love is with them no matter where they r.
Hugs and kisses
Angie
It is hard for sure but I just said that very thing to my daughter this morning...it helps pull you through, to hold your head high and SMILE...it truly does...so thanks for today's blog !!!!
Lots happening on the home front at the moment !!!?? Busy as always lolol...aww poor Max (maxine, hehe) but sometimes it just has to be done !!!
Wishing Mike and Jonesy a happy new life !!! and I hope your friend has a wonderful future ahead of him...one door shuts, another one opens....
Love
Sharon xoxo
Thanks Lisa,
Hugs to you all..I am thinking about your post here..I will take these thoughts away with me, and just ponder for awhile..
Maxxxx..Good luck little buddy..Hope the pitch in your bark doesn't change too? LOL
Shouldn't be laughing now should i? But it's for the best...
Love Stace XXX
Hi Lisa,
You did go through some very painful times! It was excruciating reading about how hungry you were, but didn't want to ask for help. You really became the phoenix rising from the ashes!. So many of the wonderful people in the Extended Family who have gone through, and are going through hideous times, but still support their co-members and others, with an open heart and loving arms of comfort. They understand pain and how damaging it is. It is a long hard road back to better times, because memories come back to haunt us even when things seem better on the surface. Sometimes I wonder if the ache of sadness ever goes away, because I fight against it each day. I just can't give in to it, or I would not be able to go on at all. Each loss, seems to just pile one on top of the other, building a tower of pain and despair. I can't them rule my life, but I can use that pain to empathise with others who are begging for a word of comfort, or a smile of encouragement. They need to understand that while grief, or other pain can be debilitating, they must stay strong and go on. There are going to be amazingly beautiful days and wonderful friendships, and even some times when they will forget everything and laugh until their stomach muscles ache! While we can't push away memories of the sad times, we have to respect the good times too; and honor ourselves by making many more good times for ourselves and others!!
Lisa, you have been a wonderful model of a survivor and have been so resilient! Your hard times did not kill your spirit, but instead may have made it more loving and full of empathy and concern for the welfare of others! Your bright, warm smile seems tireless and sincere, even when you are so tired you could barely stand! It is no surprise that so many love you, because love is what constantly radiates from you first!
Love and hugs,
Cheryl
What a light you are in this world! I am so thankful for what you contribute everyday and who you are! From the bottom of my heart...thank you!!
Very Wise Dear Heart, I realized It was obvious that you had a rough row to hoe in life when I read your book, but you always landed on your feet. The wonderful thing was that you never lost your way, sense of humor and your loving heart. Your sense of humor has always come through and you can always make someone smile. This world would be a sadder place if not for you, so keep spreading joy to all. In my 60 years I've run into some hard times but as long as I looked for the rainbow I knew I would make it through. Lisa, Chris and I pray that you, Kev and Charlie have nothing but the best of everything. Did Charlie and Kev like their presents?
With luv and hugs,
Daniel and Chris.
Hi Lisa, yes totally agree with your blog, new beginings are great I love change even though it is a little scary at times but I enjoy the thrill of the unknown.
Love reading your blog :)
Lara Haidary
you always seem to say the right things that go with whatever i am going through in life i am not sure how that happens but thank you............i happy you are home......good luck with max..........my husband takes it so personal so he wont get our male done......lol male ego you would think it was him going to get snipped.......lol
Lisa, finally back in your own bed! Bet you forgot what it felt like!! Glad that you are home and you sounded well and happy.
Hope little Max will do okay....its much less of an op for the males....with my female Shih tzu i was pacing the floor when she had hers done, am sure he will be fine. It makes me laugh though when they say 'keep the dog quiet when you get home' and you have several dogs......how do you keep them from chasing one another??? Fun and games later to come for you!!!
take care xxx
Hi my love, Wecome home! I can just see Kev and Charlies face now that you are a family again! Tell Jonesy and Mike that I wish them luck out in that big beautiful world of ours! Did they find a place yet?
Max will be fine I am sure Dogs bounce back real fast-just like the little ones!
Lisa I have read your book 6 times and you are truly a miracle worker! No matter what you always saw it through to the other side. When you lost your job it was like Oh well---another would come along eventually in the meantime I am goiing to do what I need to do to get through this! You never seem to falter but instead looked at the bright side of it and moved on!
Oh to have that much stamina and courage to accept what God has given you and just smile and continue on in life. Just keep that SMILE and great wonders willcome your way! I know I always try to smile and give my all no matter what is going on in my life. There is no use crying over spilled milk I always say! Not when there is so much out there. Just pick yourself up and move on! Which I have to do my love so I won't be late for work!
Have a great day! My love to Kev and Charlie and of course little max (ine)!! And also to Jonsey and Mike.
All my love to you always!
Mary
Hey Lisa,
Great Blog...agree 100%! Personally, I am thankful for the good and bad in life. Everything that happens in our lives whether it be health challenges, money issues, or relationship problems all have purposes whether we like it or not. I am sort of thankful that I had adversity and obstacles in my life because it provided me opportunities to grow into a strong independent woman. When you are stripped down with nothing in your life, you learn how to survive and you get back in touch with Spirit. This is not to say I didn't bitch about it to myself when things were crappy...LOL. However, there were a couple of people in my past that had everything handed to them and unfortunately they never developed the skills to deal with life and sadly turned to alcohol and drugs to cope. Nothing was handed to me and I had to work hard for everything in my life and I realize now that this was such a gift. So in a way, I was the one handed everything! Yes, live n love life and smile through it all!
Best of luck to your friend Jonesy and Mike on their new home. Poor Max...the little guy is going to hurt a bit. I know you will give him healing pooch kisses. My thoughts are still with you on your Nan. I hope your Mom and Dad are getting on with their lives.
Lots of Hugs,
DS
Your insights are inspiring. It was so nice to see you again in Easton. Take good care. Terry Truono
Poor Max...we call him Dr. Hackemoff!! hahaha. But as Cesar says, you don't want him to get in that red zone. (not to mention humping the leg of any company that may come to visit) We miss you on the east coast...I wanted to hide in your suitcase and go home with ya! But happy you're home...no place like it!!
Hi Lisa!!! I'm glad you arrived back home safely!!! I also totally agree with your blog today. I'm so excited for Mike and Jonesy!!! And life is full of ups and downs and when we're down we have to find an up side to it!!! I also feel that the downs are meant to helps us learn, to make us wiser and stronger. Max will be okay!!! Much Love to him, you and everyone <3 <3 <3
... Not 'Maxine' ... just a little less Maxed! *giggle*
Hi Lisa, so glad to hear you are back at home with family. I have been where you were too, was divorced but the ex would not pay anything so one time the kids and I had to decide if we wanted to be warm or not eat much and I remember that being a major decision in our lives at the time, but we made it through and became closer because of it. Too funny about Max, you naughty girl calling him "Maxine", but it should make a nice difference for you guys. Good luck to Max!!
Love & hugs, Judi :)
Hi Lisa! So glad you got home safe. I can only imagine what it was like to see that beautiful family of yours. Thanks for such an inspirational blog. You have given a lot of us so much to think about with your incredible attitude. That's just what makes you so awesome. Considering the terrible difficulties you went through earlier in your life, and still stayed positive. Bless you!! We can all learn from this. Enjoy the time home, and sending so many hugs and much love, Natalie/freespirit
Lisa,
I had the pleasure of seeing you in York, PA on Sunday. You truly are an inspiration and have a wonderfully amazing gift.
I just have to tell you I took something away from your readings that may surprise you. The thing that stuck with me the most, that inspired me the most, was not your readings (even though they were amazing). What inspired me the most is how wonderfully you handled the "protesters" out front. How kind and generous you were. What truly makes up a person can be seen in how they handle themselves when being "attacked". You really do show grace under fire. I admire you, as I was a little more upset for you than you seemed to be for yourself.
You are an amazing woman. Thank you for coming to York and sharing your gift! Thank you for being an inspiration to myself and everyone else that was there. Just... thank you!
Michelle
Welcome home Lisa. Just want to thank you for this site. I have met so many nice people. Got in the chat room last night for the first time and i haven't laughed that hard in a while. My husband asked what i was doing. You can't stay in a bad mood or be down on this site. It was sooo fun. I'm gonna hafta practice though. By the time i got mine typed the conversation had changed,,, what a hoot!! Love, mary margaret
I seen your appearance in Syracuse... You stood in the seat in front of me talking to the women about the daughter and son.. Wow I was so surprised ... You are amazing..It is a great that I had the chance to see you in person... It is funny how even though my Dad or my 2 friends didn't come through,the things you said to the other people some how I could relate. And I LOVE YOUR MEDITATION CD ......Thank you for your wonderful gift that you share... Marny
Lisa so glad youre home and well. I have only just discovered you and feel its for a reason. On Twitter im Spangle011 and you told me your near me in the uk ( B'ham, Redditch) in July. I know ill get tickets cause I know im supposed to see you. Im having a hard time at the moment and sometimes we find answers where least expected. Youre an inspriation, your work is fantastic.
Love an hugs
Karren
Lisa, glad you are back home, and hopefully you will get to relax some. Hope Little Max is doing ok after the snip. I am following you on Twitter, so I get updates on my phone. My twitter ID is dena3513 if you wanna add me. That would be great!
Lisa,
Thanks for your blog today :)
Love, Donna