Over the years I have started to realize how important communication is, and how it can change your life. Growing up in England we were never really huge communicators and by that I mean that we never really vocalized our feelings or thoughts.

We used to laugh when he heard people from America being in therapy. But I realized that, that was because we didn't want to face our own problems and issues and we wanted to sweep them under the carpet and hope that they went away. I know some of you reading this will know this feeling and will probably shut this blog down because it's all too close to home. But that's ok because you will deal with it when you are ready.

I have now embraced the communication and needing a third party sometimes to help you see the problems. I have been in therapy and it was great... My friend said to me once, isn't therapy fabulous, a whole hour talking about yourself! I had to laugh but she's right!

But communication comes in many ways, it comes through modern technology mostly such as text messages, emails, online blogs, facebook, Twitter etc etc. We are getting good at communicating and networking but what has happened to good old fashioned face to face conversations or picking up the phone to chat.

I know many of my friends will laugh here as they know I hardly ever pick up the phone but that's just the crazy life I have. The reason why I say this is because I was chatting with a close friend of mine over instant messenger and something was taken out of context and both of us got upset over nothing... If we'd have picked up the phone, which we did in the end, it wouldn't have gotten to that stage. When I look back it's funny because we stopped communicating and then one of us gave in and called the other.

It's important to communicate when you are not communicating!

Things that are said via text, instant chat, email can all be taken wrong and sometimes you just have to talk.

However there are times I love to write as you know and I have written many many letters full of emotion and laughter in my time and I love that. So providing you know when it's appropriate to use technology then go for it but remember that you have to sometimes hear their voice to really know what they are trying to say.

Communication is key and it's a crutial part of our growth and healing from many things in life. So don't feel embarrased just know that we all have to do it and that you will gain respect when you voice your feelings from another person and you are ensuring that you are heard. It's empowering and will help you on your journey through life.

Much love and have a great weekend!!!

Lisa xx

As we go through life we start to learn lessons that we have to learn and we also mould ourselves to people, friends, family, partners in life. This is something that we naturally do, and I was only talking about this today with a friend of mine. It's interesting because sometimes we notice that we have done it, and it could be because someone pointed it out, or that something sparked off some thoughts that way, and it could even be this post that has gotten you thinking. 

The one thing you can guarantee about some of these blogs is that it pushes buttons within you and makes you think... and that is what I love about it. 

So I was thinking about how we conform to society because of what we have been bought up to believe or we have been told to act in a certain way by those who have influenced us. But as we get older it's important to be open to follow our own thoughts and feelings and create these opinions our self. Because it's part of our identity. 

We can of course become wrapped up in the emotion of life and that is great and still be influenced but we still need to be us... and with that we still need to follow our dreams, and our desires. This is so important for feeling fulfilled. I see so many people who have put their life on hold because of a situation or they don't follow their dream because a partner in their life doesn't approve. Now of course I understand that there are times its hard to stay true to yourself. However there are ways of keeping that dream alive within you. For instance, if you are an artist and you always dreamed of becoming an artist and having your work in a gallery, do not give up on your gift, don't keep it hidden, it's part of you. Even if you just doodle on a piece of paper or get a book where you can find quiet time to draw... you are still keeping that passion alive. 

We all have dreams and aspirations. I love singing. I'm not going to be a singer out there in the world, but there is no harm for me to sit at the piano and play and sing until my heart is content... it's keeping the passion within you. 

What you have to understand is that when someone falls in love with us, they fall in love with who we are, and everything about us, but the thing is we change and sometimes we lose our identity... but what you have to realize is that we have to stay ourselves and stay the person that they fell in love with. Yes we all change but the underlying factor is we are who we are on a soul level... and that is what we have to stay true too, Ourselves on a soul level! So follow your dreams, keep them alive, they are the passion that drives us, and most of all believe in yourself!

Big hugs and love

Lisa xx